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writes:hi can anyone help me im sick of feeling alone and depressed most of the time i split up with my gf first week in december after she cheated on me shes had 2 bf since yet why carnt i stop thinking bout her plz help
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (28 January 2008):
I feel your pain bro.Up to this day,i still feel the pain.I also got dumped around the same time and i felt as though it was the end of my life.I felt as though i had been sentenced to eternal sadness.I agree with Laura1318,when a door closes another opens.I surely have learnt that and you need to learn that too.When a person cheats on you,it's a sign that you don't deserve that person and she wasn't meant for you.When she finally leaves,know that she's leaving room for someone who'll treat you better and actually love you better.All things happen for a reason,learn the reason and move on.Pain is inevitable.misery is optional.We all feel pain.I still feel the pain of my ex dumping me but you need to make a decision to be happy again.MOVE ON,ACCEPT IT.You can't force her to love you so look forward to the future.Besides,she's had 2 bfs already,that should tell you she's not stable and isn't worth trusting by any means.Sometimes you may not realise it but you may have had a terrible relationship had you stuck to her,consider yourself saved.Be strong and DECIDE to be happy.You'll end up depressing yourself to the point of death while she's busy enjoying life.Don't be unfair on yourself.
Good Luck.
Take Care.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 When the door is closed another door will open.Hey! You have seen the old and don't you think you should try something new or something much better. Be an optimist and think positive.
Look at the silver linings in the dark clouds. Focus on the new and let the old past away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Because you aren't moving on. She's had two boyfriends, clearly she's managing.
Go get a new hobby, start working out, go out with your mates, just make yourself busy so you aren't thinking about her. She's gone and never coming back. Make sure you turn yourself into something amazing, so she's the one missing out
Good luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Poster, when a relationship ends, we tend to think about it as the end of the world. In all honesty, that's not the case. If you try to see the ending of this relationship as a new beginning, then your whole outlook changes.
You also need to consider things with your mind, not only your heart. If she cheated on you and had had two boyfriends in two months, do you really think she loved you anymore? Is this thing really worth your living in sadness? Do you think there is a way for you to go back to her? If so, do you think you would work something out? I'm afraid you know that the answer to all these questions is a clear "No". Build on that.
Give yourself some time. Enjoy the good things in life. One day, you'll be back on your feet.
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