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writes: erm, my question is about pubic hair :s lol.well basicly me and my boyfriend have been together for a while but he has recenty told me that he finds hair a massive turn off. ive known for ajis that he doesnt like hair, facial hair etc! hes very very clean and smooth, shaved daily, face, down there, is waxes his legs and back and chest which i used to find pretty strange because i like a guy with hair lol. but since hes told me he thinks its a turn off i think i need to shave down below before anything happens between us (sexually) i shaved once a coupple of years ago and last summer me and my best girlfriend waxed each other. i know it sounds pretty weird but we did lol. we did bikini lines but ended up waxin lol. now its grown back and i may sound grose but its bushy! and i dont wanna shave it sgain as last time it was itchy and sore. is there another way of gettin rid of it? like so it never comes back?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 No. Everyone can shave if they want to. That's not my business, just as I think it's not her business when my niece says I have to shave my body hair "because that way I'll look better". But, in times long past, men were taught that real men didn't shave. I'm stating a fact, not approving it. Today, women like metrosexuals; some years ago, they didn't. That's another fact.
And gays deserve respect, right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Funny how everyone call this man gay, not ALL gay men shave everywhere. Women shave their arms, legs, armpits. I don't see anything wrong with your b/f shaving his chest, I think a smooth chest is very attractive. Seriously just leave him too it, don't think about it too much. Your being sexist to a degree, we can shave but not men??
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (3 April 2008):
Dear, you are now asking another question. You think whether there's something wrong with your boyfriend. Here's my answer.
For a man who grew up before these times, removing body hair, manicuring your nails, peelings, using three different kinds of shampoos, using moisturizing cream for your hands and body, all that, is something that only gays do. This is not just a prejudice: this is the concept that "real men" grew up with. In our childhood times, our role models were the Duke (good ol' John Wayne, just in case you don't know about it), Steve McQueen, and, of course, Clint. These guys, how can I say it? didn't have a need to show their softer side, certainly didn't cry (at least in public), and they didn't have an urge to show their feelings, and their fine tastes, and their shoes, and their suits... you get the picture. And if the average man knew that this actor is sleeping with that actress, it was usually because she was very hot and you wish you were the lucky one. The damned bastard has taken her. We see all this grooming as excessive, and as a sign that something is just not right with this guy. A real man uses a simple bar of soap, deodorant (the cheapest one), shaves with a machete and has two pairs of shoes, which he never polishes, of course. Ah, he buys his socks in three-packs that are sold for US 3.25.
The younger generations don't think this way. They think Justin Timberlake is "cool". We find him effeminate. We wonder whether he can use a hammer and put a nail. Maybe he can, but, not today, dear, because the celestial bodies are not in tune this morning and that would bring bad karma.
So, Flynn24 is telling you exactly what we tend to think: we wonder if all this time that he devotes to grooming would not reveal he is gay. "Men have hair"; that's right. Telly Savalas didn't, but Nature wanted it that way.
Yos is also right. Perhaps he has some obsession which he channels this way.
However, today's girls may think this sort of guys are "cool". Only a few days ago there was a post about a guy who got dumped because he was not metrosexual enough.
I say, don't worry about this. Your boyfriend is in tune with the times. Just don't shave your own body :-).
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks again everyone. i know my boyfriend is not gay :s well i dont think he is and i know its not funny but lol to think he might be :S its kinda freaky. but i have never herd him speak about boys and ive never seen him eye-in up guys, yeh he points out "fit" girls and hes always telling me how bautiful i am. when he was younger he had this mad thing about been in the circus, he wanted to be in a circus and he used to dance and gymnastics, i know this might make him sound more gay but i dont think he is. he stopped going to these dance and gymnst classes when he was around 13/14 and since when hes cycled on mountain bikes, theres a group of guys. about 11/12 of them and they cycle all over for charity and they go all over the country. maybe this is why :S. i dont know. maybe there is some obsession :S do you think there could be something wrong with him? thanks again anyway :]x
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reader, Yos  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 He waxes once a week? Wow, that's a lot of effort. I know its trendy right now to be shaved, but that's taking things a bit far. It makes me think he may be channelling a some obsessive-compulsive tendencies in that direction.
In the mean time, you are young to be having sex. I suggest you hold off on the shaving until you are 16 and sex is legal. You have the advantage that your bf isn't going to try anything until you shave, so see it as an advantage!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thanks guys. i dont think id be old enough to get laser, and he doesnt shave his whole body every day lol but he shaves his facial hair every day and he waxes maybe once a week. thanks again!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Are you sure he has no gay tendancies?
Because outside of smimming and modelling, shaving his body and pubic hair is pretty much the gayest thing a man can do.
Try to explain to him that men have hair. And only gays and metrosexuals don't. And who the hell wants to be a metrosexual.
Flynn 24
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (3 April 2008):
By the way, I also find him crazy. I wonder how long it takes him to shave everywhere every day. Of course, it's his problem; my opinion is not important at all. If he wants to shave, he can shave. Which is exactly the same kind of freedom I would want you to have: if YOU want to shave, do it. Don't do it only because he wants you to. Unless he takes my advice and stops the shaving of HIS body.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (3 April 2008):
Dear, I think that you're too young to be having sex. Sex isn't just about the physical act; it entails a lot more, and you're not ready for it.
Also, I wouldn't recommend you to shave your pubic hair unless you wanted it. I know that you want to look attractive to your boyfriend, but he is the one who has a problem with body hair, not you. You just can't do with yourself exactly what others tell you to do. He has to take you as you are, shaved or not. You're not a clay figure he can change at will.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Try laser, I don't know if you have a spa or a laser center near you. On the internet you can find information, I've done it and I'm not having any problems whatsoever.
Other can be waxing although it hurts, you can at least be sure it will last a few weeks.
Laser is better, but expensive.
Good Luck!
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