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writes:Okay,another l-o-n-g story/question. I know that you will not always be on the same page (couples) but is it normal to have sex only 1-2 month, he has to initiate because he flinches when I touch him (says I always tickle him), so I'm shellshocked and the same in the entire relationship. I know that we have to talk, but again, I'm not sure how to broach the subject.His son is moving out, getting married, and the closer that gets the more freaked out he gets. I finally told him to get over it and get out of the closet. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone!I did talk to him and told him that I
was tired of feeling like I was just there for him
whenever and that I had feelings and I wanted to have
more sex, that the previous amount was way not normal
and I wanted more; well, it worked and we have more sex,
more communication(main thing)and he is involved more
with me personally. again, thanks for all the support!
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reader, Smiffy  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 Hi...well cant really offer a solution but I came from a relationship where my wife only wanted sex once or twice a month....I thought this was normal...all the same issues...I would have to instigate the love making....she would lock the door to the bathroom....slept in another room etc etc etc....and all the time I thought this was the norm....thankfully that relationship ended...and I dont mean that to sound how it does....but I am now with a completely different woman...one who is very sexy...likes and enjoys sex / making love....but it has taken me a long time to accept and enjoy and relax into someone actually wanting to make love....a dream come true for me...
Why did his relationship finish??....did he have problems as I had??...Does he need time to come out of his shell....you girls think that most of us guys are strong...and have no feelings...etc...talk to him....surprise him one night....ynow the sort of thing...hey you are going to have the house to yourselfs soon...the possibilities are endless.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): I would have to talk to him about it. Tell him outright that you want more sex, more frequently and if he doesnt stop saying that you tickle him then you will want to be out of the relationship, so you can meet someone who does want sex more frequent. I know what you mean and it can demoralise a person. You feel unsexy and very unloved. Talk to him and if you dont get the right answers then be prepared to review your relationship. You cannot go through life being so unhappy, life is too short.
take care
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Hi there,
I definitely think being blunt is the best way to have him talk and open up to why he doesn't want to do it. Also, it would be good to let him know that you are not happy with the very small number of times you have sex, and that he should also be stimulating you into getting wet and having orgasms.
With regards to the first question, 1-2 times a month, seems small. I know couples that do it a couple or a few times a week every month or everyday twice.
Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDanielpew, thanks for your answer!I am going to try thatand I was hoping that a guy would jump on board.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 I don't know if "normal" is the good word to use, but I'm sure this is not "usual". In my humble opinion, that's too little. I think most people will agree with me.
I think that his saying that you tickle him is an excuse. He has managed to make you NOT initiate, and that was his intention. I think most men would agree to feeling that kind of tickle you are talking about.
I'm not sure that the fact his son is leaving is his reason. I suspect there's another.
You know, I think that being blunt would work. Or at least it would make him discuss the problem. Why don't you just say that you're not happy with this infrequent sex, that you don't buy his reason for not initiating, and that, damn it, he has to do something about it?
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