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writes:I'm getting married in a few months and im a virgin and so is the man im going to marry but i heard so may people say that the best thing to wear on your weading night is nothing at all. but im so shy and super scared. i dont know how to just spring on him butt naked. i know he is waiting for us to get married for that special night but i need to know how to brake the shy barrier. i am so insecure about me. im a size 12 and have a few strech marks here and there but i have over all evryone says i have a sexy body but idk what to do. how do i do such thing?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Well you don't have to fully naked right off, surely I don't have to inform you about lingerie?
Just make sure it is comfortable and easy to discard but with the proper stuff you can be almost fully clothed at the start.
Dim the lights and... well he knows you are a virgin and probably shy and since he has just said "I do" he obviously loves you so it will all be alright.
There really just ain't a cure to shyness, if there was its maker would have Bill Gates as his poolboy but nobody every died of embarresment yet.
Happy wedding, and a fun night, just relax, billions have gone through this before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Congratulations :]
Don't worry - he loves you, and he'll be so happy that I'm sure he won't even take into account tiny imperfections that you seem to be worrying about honey! Remember, you're getting married! Your imperfections are his perfections.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 The other aunts have given you good advice on what to do and what to wear. So I just want to add a little comment. You're afraid of what to do, and also a little worried about whether he will like what he will see. And then, you're not used to being seen naked by anyone. You mentioned the stretch marks and your being a size 12. So you think that perhaps he won't be that pleased with what he will see. It doesn't exactly work that way. He will discover your body that day, so I'm sure he will enjoy it. Don't be concerned about that.
Congratulations on your marriage!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): totally normal to be nervous - don't worry about it.
i'd suggest getting a white lingerie from victoria's secret - they have some that almost look like little dresses - very cute, nothing raunchy. i think practicing wearing it so you feel comfortable in it is a good idea. have some candles so you can leave the lights off, and just see how things happen. my guess is you will stop worrying when you are in the moment.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 Ok, so you need to plan in advance...
Start by suggesting a bubble bath, which you have already run, and have a few tea lights lit by the bathtub. Candle light is much softer and more forgiving/flattering.
Light some candles in the bedroom as well, after your bath, wrap up in towels and head to bed - that takes away the awkwardness of having to get undressed. Plus you won't be naked in full bright light, so you should be less self conscious.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 April 2008):
That is so romantic that you are waiting for your wedding night to give yourself to him!!
But it is a huge amount of pressure to put on yourself to say you are going to have sex on a certain date when you have not done anything sexual before that. I was terrified the first time my boyfriend saw me in my bra, let alone naked. I am only just comfortable with my husband seeing me totally naked and we've been married a year. (and didn't wait for marriage before we did it.)
How strongly do you feel about not doing anything with your fiance before the wedding night? You could get a bit more comfortable with him by doing some kissing and cuddling and getting down to a vest or something?
Either that or you could talk to him about not going all the way on your wedding night. Most couples don't!! I didn't on my wedding night because I was so incredibly tired and my husband was very drunk haha.
Even Jorden (a huge boobed glamour model famous for sleeping around) didn't do it on her wedding night.
Your husband to be is probably as terrified as you about getting naked and knowing what he is supposed to do. It will be far better and more enjoyable for you both if you work up to it slowly and get used to eachother.
If it comes to it and you have a panic, don't get naked. Keep a sexy nighty on, or hide under the covers so you can't see eachother.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 April 2008):
 Congratulations !
Both for your upcoming nuptials and on saving your virginity for your husband. You should not "spring on him butt naked" in my opinion. It is much sexier to be dressed in a cute nightie and let him take his time making love with you. You also have some time to shape up quite a bit before your special day. Best wishes.
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