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writes:My fiancee who is in college 300 miles away has a "boyfriend" Everyone knows me, about our engagement (ring and all) and about her "boyfriend". Even though she has told me they have no sex, she does spend nights with him in his bed (kissing bare breasted) Her sorority sisters only know she stays nights with him. My question is this: Do you think her sorority sisters and our other friends at school might assume they are having intercourse?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 So let me get this straight, you are okay with your fiancee sleeping half-naked with an other man for extensive "kissing" sessions as long as they don't have intercourse?
Bill Clinton got a LOT to answer for. What your fiancee is having, is SEX with another man. Who cares what others think what the fuck do you think about this?
Most people would draw the line at anything more then a small kiss, where do you draw the line? Oral sex? Anal? Anything as long as no vaginal intercourse occurs?
She is playing you for a chump and you are letting her. Wise up mate and dump her.
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reader, Ziggy Z +, writes (6 April 2008):
Friend, you are being dumped, but you just don't know it. Let's face facts--how happy would she be if you spent your evenings in bed with a woman, bare breasted or not?
Just as I figured--she would not tolerate it. Neither should you. Time to end your relationship with her, no matter how painful that may be, because fact of the matter is she by her actions has ended the relationship with you. Even if you still want her and put up with it, she has zero, and I mean zero, respect for you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 I would be willing to take a bet that they do. In any case, if they don't, I very certainly do. If I told you, poster, that I spent the night in my bed with a girl who was half naked (another term for "bare breasted"), and that we were kissing each other, what would you believe?
Do we have information about what the status of the man was? Was he also "bare breasted", or "naked"?
I think it would be fair to define this girl as "an engaged girl who spends the night with another man, in this man's bed, half-naked, and kisses him". I think that the only engaged girls who would do this are "the ones who are not in love with their fiancé".
Perhaps I'm too mistrusting, but I don't think many young, hormone-loaded men would spend the night with a woman in these conditions and wouldn't have sex with her. Or at least "encourage" her to it.
I believe that your biggest reason for concern is what your fiancée is doing. What people think about it is not that important.
I need to correct myself. Your biggest concern should be what you will do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): It sounds like it is only a matter of time before they do have sex if they haven't already.
If she is your fiance, she has no business doing what she is doing, she must be taking you as a fool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): whats the difference she's spending nights in his bed bare breasted is this someone you want to marry? come on now get real
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