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writes:Im 18 years old and I live with my boyfriend and his mother. I have recently found out I was pregnant. My boyfriends mom won't let us stay here if she finds out so we decided not to tell her until we move. I want to keep the baby but my boyfriend isn't really sure he is ready to be a dad. I just started a new job and im not sure what where going to do when the baby comes as far as work, bills, school, and if we will have a place to stay. Does anyone have any advice for me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Callaroy gives good advice..... We Aussies know a thing or two!
I am not sure how the US works when it comes to maternity leave and things like that, One trick that I know works no matter where you are from is whilst your pregnant learn to live on half of your wage. Save the other half so you have some money when the baby is born. I suggest finding out what you are entitled to. I have a feeling your boyfriend won't be around for long so make sure you are prepared. Maybe try and find your own house or move in with a friend. A frinend of mine wanted a flatmate but knew that it would be difficult as she had a new born son, She advertised for a single mother and now lives with a great woman (Allie)who has a son of her own the four of them get on fine and allie has been a huge support helping my friend adjust to motherhood. Just remember, you call the shots for your baby and for your life no one can take that away from you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Google for those parenting support groups in your state.
Having a child for the first time can be very apprehensive .
Children are a blessings from God and He will provide for him/her.
Trust Him and everything will work out fine.
Take one step at a time and deal with one problem at a time so that you will not be overwhelmed.
Get support from your parents or his parents or friends.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 I agree with Collaroy.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Hi,
I would suggest to prepare for the worst.
Firstly, you are in a very vulnerable situation. Your boyfriend may come around, but if he is young like you he may be reluctant to give up his freedom for the sleepness nights, money problems and nappy changing. So you need to know your rights. Speak to a counsellor or someone in your area you can advice you of your financial entitlements.
Being dishonest to your boyfriends mother will only make matters worse. If she has any heart she will not want to reject her grandchild but you need to find that out now rather than later.
In any event, it's going to be a tough road ahead, but start planning now, rather than when you are heavily pregnant and under stress.
Good luck.
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