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writes:I am an evangelist in my local church. My husband and I have been sep for 10 yrs. He contracted HIV while were sep, so I know we won't be getting back together. Ran into a past love from about 30 yrs ago (this happened 4 yrs ago). We first dated and our relationship went further. He told me after a yr or so, that he was seeing two other women (one of which he was the father of her child). But we had already consummated our relationship at that time. In other words, I had already starting a sexual relationshp with him. But, being a woman of God, I always felt dirty/wrong for being with this man, but I overrode my feelings. Now, I have broken off with him, but the temptation is there to get back with him. But, I know I can't do that. I don't want to start dating other men.I want to commit myself to the work of God. I don't believe in divorce, but I do believe in separation. So, I will just calm myself down and wait until God moves on my behalf. I believe that my husband may not have a long time to live, so God will work it out and I will be a free woman (to remarry). How should I approach this man about what took place between the two of us. I am still somewhat hurt and torn.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Tough call. God would perhaps expect you to forgive your sick husband for his transgressions, to live with him and nurse him. Certainly wishing him harm is not ok.
Personally I doubt God wants you to be unhappy. As long as what you do is done with honesty and good intentions, then I would say you are in the clear. Meaning, under these circumstances I suspect it is ok for you to be with your past love.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Trust in God and everything will be fine.
God will find the way if it is in His will for you.
Do not worry, I am sure when the time is right for you and him to be together.
Be strong in faith .
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 I believe that your being an evangelist is not the only reason why you want to stay away from this man. I think you also want to stay away from him because he deceived you. And I wouldn't blame you for it.
I'm a Catholic, and I understand that mine is perhaps the only church that frowns on divorce. I will be happy if someone informs me that I'm mistaken. So, the first idea that came to my mind was that perhaps you could divorce your husband anyways. If your church allows divorce, then there is no reason not to divorce and try to be happy again.
I notice you say you don't believe in divorce. But, you know, flesh is weak. I would rather divorce and remarry than take a chance. But that's only me.
As to the man you had sex with, I think you should tell him that your relationship is over. He deceived you. I don't think he will wait for you to be available if he has other options. And then you don't want to be involved with him again. So, I think you should simply tell him that you want to work for your church and that your relationship is certainly over.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Hopefully God will come through for you and get rid of your husband in time .
Sorry to be rude, but seriously what advice are you looking for here?
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