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*elps people but can't help himself
writes:I do masturbate and I feel so sick about it.I'm only 13 but everyone in my family knows that I do it. I'm not sure what to do. I need help and also don't tell me about how it's so healthy, and it's natural, because I use a back massager to masturbate, and I never feel natural like i like the pleasure - but i'm afraid it affects my life, because my grades have dropped and instead of getting A's I'm getting B's, so what should I do? (I'm a male) Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Perhaps they can hear the back massager?
Masturbation is SO normal and a perfectly fine release. I think that if your family is making you feel guilty about this, you should know that it is a Perfectly natural thing and that EVERYBODY does it. It shouldn't be affecting your grades. Getting involved with a girl can, but not self-pleasuring. Perhaps you are distracted BECAUSE you are not getting out and socializing?
I think, perhaps, you are just a bit distracted at your time of life, with thoughts of the opposite sex. Try to keep a balance between school work and having a fun social life, you need to get out from time-to-time too. It's important to be a well rounded individual, don't forget that you have to develop and mature socially as well as getting good grades!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 You feel guilty about masturbating and are trying to find a way to give you the strength not to do it. I am sorry, but I think you will lose this battle, for reasons that you can't control.
When I was a kid, one of us promised he would never masturbate. We should have taken a bet on this, because we would have made a lot of money.
Some people disapprove of masturbation. If you do, then don't do it. But I would also recommend that you don't feel like you're a terrible person if you do. No one expects you to be able to overcome this kind of sexual wants at your age.
The drop in your grades has nothing to do with your masturbation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): If you feel that using a back massager to masturbate is unnatural then stop using it and just use your hands -- and whatever you think there is nothing unnatural about that.
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Jamer70 is correct. But if you honestly feel that masturbation has caused this issue, then just. stop. masturbating.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Masterbation has no ties to your grades, just study a bit more and your grades should raise back up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): when you feel the need go for a fast run
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