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writes:After a year and one-half of dating, my ex broke off our relationship six weeks ago. She sent me an email the next day saying he wanted to remain friends. I thought he was just trying to be nice. Two days ago, he called me and started talking as if we were still the best of friends. I was kinda shocked that he had called. I was putting my behind me. After half and hour he ended the conversation and said he'd call again.Afterwards, I felt devastated again. Althought it had been six weeks and I had gotten to a pretty good place, his phone call really threw me backwards. I had loved him.....Does he really want to be friends or is there the possibility he could want more? He broke up with me in the middle of a very stressful time in his life because of his job. He said he didn't feel anything anymore and had so sex drive. I told him he was stressed out and it would pass.What do I want? I don't want to be hurt anymore.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 I see some bad points here. He ended his relationship with you by e-mail. That was so wrong. Then he comes back like nothing happened, and just makes the water dirty. He hasn't promised anything. You correctly say you were better off before his call, because indeed you were.
I think you're the one who needs to decide what you want from him. You can't just be at his mercy. Since you seem to be in love with him, why don't you call him, and tell him that you still want to try again, and that you need his clarification about what he expects from you? He might give a clear answer, either yes or no, and that would settle the matter. But he could also evade the question. If he does, then take his answer as a no.
I know that this might not be the sort of thing that women usually do, and it takes courage to say it. But, it gives you control of the situation, and forces him to act.
Wish you the best.
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