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writes:What do older men see in younger women? Why would a man want to pursue a relationship with a younger woman?I would genuinely like insight from those with experience in the matter.I'm a young female interested in a man 15 years older than me, we get along extremely well.. but it's still early days and I can only imagine a woman closer to his age would bring so much more to the table?I don't ask out of insecurity but a practical curiosity.He is VERY attractive, intelligent, and successful so certainly not lacking for offers, can any older men, or women who have been in the same boat answer this for me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): Well,lol,i know from experience that there are different reasons why older men go with younger women.For example,my mum met my dad when she was 17,and he was 33.He was singing in a club she was watching him in,he does that for a living.At first,he didnt want anything to do with her because he thought she was too young,but then changed his mind.He was already divorced with two children.They were married for 25 years then got divorced.Growing up with them wasnt easy.They had alot of arguements.Aparently,my mum wanted to leave when me and my younger brother were little,but she waited till we were in our teens.I'm not sure if the age gap had become a problem,or if it was just because they werent getting along.As i have an older father from an older generation,i was brought up really well,perhaps too well,as he can be quite strict at times.My mum on the other hand is more laid back.He has always been a good provider though.
Now,onto one of my brothers.He is in his 40's,and is now engaged to someone who is in her 20's.They have the same age gap as my mum and dad,whch is a funny coincidence.And like you said your man is wealthy,my brother is too,much more so than me and my immediate family.And as for myself,i have attracted a bachelor in the past who was 20 years older than me.I've never doubted that he thinks alot of me,but i think he's been too used to being on his own,so would find it hard to commit.He's never had a serious relationship.It broke my heart in a way because i would have liked to have committed to him.It was odd though because sometimes he would talk about us gettting married,and even having a baby.He got annoyed when other men chatted me up aswell.I still care for him,but i'm just not sure if it will ever get anywhere.
And there's another man,who is 19 years older than me,who said he liked me,bt he couldnt get over his ex who he had been with for a long time.So even though he talks to me alot,he doesnt meet up with me that much,so i'm not sure what his intentions are with me.
So,from my experience,i guess older men go with younger women for different reasons.So just be wary,and take things one step at a time,and everything should turn out ok.Hope this helps.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): hello concerned one;
your question of topic has been interesting to me because i, myself am dating a man who is 18 years older than me. at first i was confused and thought that there was really nothing there or maybe could have been just a sexual attraction...when i approached him i found that he felt some attraction to me too.but the attraction wasnt just based on sexual,we're just dating for now but we enjoy each other deeply and give motivation to one another.i plan to be with him for as long as i posssibly can.[i love him,he just doesnt know it yet]
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reader, UndercoverCyberPolice  +, writes (10 March 2009):
Well.....I've seen various 30+ and older men, having sex with TEENAGE GIRL'S on porn site's. I think in this case, these poor teenage girls are somehow being manipulated, just for the fun of it. I hope these peadophile men can see themselves for what they really are.
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (30 November 2008):
Innocence, excitement, passion, healthy bodies, soft skin, great sex. Have fun, enjoy it you never know when you'll get it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Well for me it's alot of what most people are saying. The great bodies. I mean face it younger girls have those innocent untouched looking beautiful bodies. But that's not the only reason. Also for me it is for the reason that let's say we got serious and got married and wanted to have kids. Well as a woman gets older the chances of having a baby especially a healthy one are not as great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): I've just turned 24 and i'm dating a man 14 years older than me. At first it went well and I was happy. Then I found that I couldn't always say what I wanted or thought, without it causing an argument. I found him very manipulative even though I'm a really bright and intelligent girl and I'm still with him as I love him so much. If I can give you this advice without sterotyping... this is what I have learned.. Older men like the control they have over younger women. They are a lot more experienced and a lot more wise on how to manipulate you and your feelings into what they want you to believe. They get a power trip ,even if they dont want it, from dating someone youthful and more beautiful than them , and they cannot control this. It eats away at them and they have to control you in return. I know this sounds negative. But just watch out for the men like this as you dont always spot it until someone puts the idea in front of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.Instead of analyzing things so much go with the flow,enjoy while it lasts and if anything bad happens let go with out any regrets.Age has nothing to do with love.Its just individuals who get attracted to one another and not their ages.Keep smiling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): hay this question i have expance on owing to the fact i am in a relationship with an older man there is no set reasons why older men like younger women it could be for love or just to prove that they can still pull a younger woman but as a genral rule its love or there is no rule with why older men perfer younger women. i will add i have been very happy in my relationship with an older man since the start of the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): I'm 50. My girlfriend is 35. Both of us have been married before – divorced for very similar reasons. Both of us have multiple children. We are deeply in love and are making plans to get married. Why do I love her? Quite honestly she is the most beautiful person I have ever met – from the inside out. I have a female friend who is now 48. Her husband is 16 years older than her. They have been married for about 14 years and have a daughter that is about to become a teenager. Make sure your reasons are real & the love is genuine and age becomes a non factor. It certainly can work if it’s about the soul. Be very concerned if it appears to be just about the sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): i'm 41 & i've dated women 20 22 28, i've turned down dating teenagers though. frankly younger girls have better physiques than older women, BUT the primary reason is that I can show a younger lady a good time, have fun, whereas older women are move jaded (been there seen that). b4 anyone sniggers I always disclose everything & always the break ups leave them in a better position than when I met them.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Sirena Blusera, you may also be attracted to older men because the ones you came across looked great.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (20 October 2008):
I wouldn't call him "older", sorry.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (20 October 2008):
I will begin by saying that we can't hold that all "older" men like "younger" women for the same reasons. And I wonder how we would define "older" and "younger". A 22-year old guy who is after a 16 year old is certainly older than her, but I wouldn't call him younger.
I suppose the question here has an assumption. What the poster (and the answerers) seems to mean is "why a nice-looking and athletic fifty-something would date a twenty-something? Or a thirty-something?
I won't make any reference to the "good" and "legitimate" reasons why this so-defined "older man" would go after a so-defined "younger woman". I think those are not the ones the poster is interested in. Saying something like "because she's happy, lively, has a good sense of humor, made him forget his sad life, her company turns him into the greatest man he's ever been" takes us nowhere. There are many forty- and fifty- (and sixty- somethings that are happy, lively and have a sense of humor.
Then I have to say I don't fit your definition of "older men". I'm 38. My small belly looks very nice, if you want to know, and she's a great companion when it's cold and I need something to hold onto. However, I'm currently on a diet and I will dump her soon.
An "older" man MAY go after a "younger" woman because:
1. Those firm boobs of hers
2. That fine ass of hers
3. That firm and young body
4. Those firm boobs of hers
5. 1, 2, 3 and 4
6. Her legs
6. He feels powerful and wants to tell the world that he's fit (in THAT department, too) to the point that he can satisfy a younger woman.
7. He can control her
8. He will always know better than her, which is the same as 7) above
9. He got himself a pretty doll
10. He left his wife, who was his own "older" age, and now he is feeling old and wants to think he isn't getting older really, since he is still at his prime with her.
11. He can control her.
I'm sure there are many exceptions to this rule.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): I can answer it. My friend fell for a younger woman, my friend is married to a beautiful woman his age but he met a younger women 13 years his junior and started lying to his wife because he was intrigued by the naiveness of the younger woman. This younger woman saw him as a father figure for her child. The younger woman made him feel like a king and worshiped him as if he was the best thing since sliced bread and called him BIG DADDY
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (19 October 2008):
 Not all older men prefer younger women, but I think that the ones that do prefer younger women, have their various reasons. I don't think there's a "magic bullet;" rather, each case is different.Nearly every man I've loved (with one notable exception) or been attracted to has been older than I am. I lost my father (he didn't die, but he's out of my life) at a young age. I discussed this with a friend, and he says that I'm attracted to older men because I have father issues.Why wouldn't the same apply to older men? Maybe some of these older men never had a daughter but wish that they did, or their own children shut them out of their life for some reason, or they are divorced from their wives, who have custody of the children and used them as a weapon in divorce court? Sad, but it happens. Maybe some older men want a younger woman to replace a daughter that they lost or never had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): Well I am 46 years old and women my age don't interest me as most of them have had children and lets face it - it's ay more attractive to see everything where it originally was before gravity struck. Most men feel this way which is why most of us like younger women - also you know they havent been pawed as many times so the younger they are the purer they seem. Plus younger women are so much more fun and make an older man feel younger!
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