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51-59,
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writes:The man I'm dating sometimes tells me that there is a relationship between us and other times he says that there isn't a commitment. I'm very confused and I don't know what to believe. How can Ii understand his feelings because if I ask him about this he usually denies that there is a relationship. Other times when I don't bring the subject to discussion he tells me that there is a commitment between us. I am really confused and I don't know how I should react? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 He has you where he wants you. He wants you to remain confused, so he can enjoy being with you while it fits him, and then leave you if it fits him. At that point, he will "remind" you that "you didn't have commitment".
I had never heard this one. "We have a relationship but no commitment". He's so creative he should be in advertising. "Introducing the first 3G, USB broadband modem that sets you free. All you need to do is sign up for an eighteen month contract".
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): has he always been like this or has something suddenly change he might be under a lot or stress and is confused himself or maybe he is not as interested any more. you can have a relationship bet not a commitment are you dating others?. if you were you would not have much of a commitment. Is the relationship all about sex? if it is again not much of a commitment. either way you can't except this kind of behavior sit him down and make him talk about the subject if he refuses and continues with this immature behavior he is not worth your time you need someone who is sure of themselve who knows what they want. you are a human being and deserve to be treated with respect if i were you i would breakup with him if he kept up the behavior but all relationships and commitments thrive off communication so make sure there is a lot of if and there isn't much of it even of the subject of commitments etc then he is not interested.
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