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writes:Why do men (husbands) mainly lie about any and everthing they can? They feel they have no need to tell their wife anything if he is feeling blue he just rather sits there to hiself than talk to me about it. I believe that's why our marriage is starting to turn sour because he won't talk to me or confide in me, Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Brilliant answers you have received babes. If you think your husband is "lying", because he finds it difficult to open up and talk to you, then you are the person with problems, not him. Men will talk when they are ready, or if they are around someone who knows how to communicate properly with them. Your technique is wrong, you need to find a way to understand him, and support him rather than looking down on him and insulting him. Please pick up a copy of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by Dr. John Grey, it is available at most good bookshops. This will explain how many men think, and will give you advice on how to talk to a husband that is upset and quiet. He's not a woman, he's a man. He's not a liar, he is just different from you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 If the problem is that he's feeling blue, and he chose not to say why, how the hell is he "lying"? Can it be that he's just concerned over something, but doesn't think his wife should be worried as well? Maybe he thinks you don't need to suffer with him, and thinks he's protecting you?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 October 2008):
Firstly, not all men lie. My husband doesn't lie, it's not a genetic thing that's built in, it's a personal choice that your particular husband is making.
As for not talking to you about things, that is not lying, but that is something that is genetically built in.
Women like to talk about their problems, we are a social creature and that makes us feel better.
Men do not. They have to sit and stew on it, or go for a run or go to a boxing club and hit something. Action makes them feel better, talking makes them feel worse. You have to give them space and possibly a quick kiss.
Send him out to the pub or something and he will open up when he feels better.
Good Luck!! xx
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