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writes:Ok, my bf and i have been together for over a year...I care about him a lot and love him. In the beginning we couldnt keep our hands off of eachother and I always wanted him alone. Now, since ive moved and started college its been different. I am under A LOT of stress with being in a new place, making friends, classes, and money issues. I also suffer from a big anxiety disorder, and I think I may have put myself into a little depression from everyhting. Im not interested in hardly anything anymore. I just want to sit and watch tv...and I was never a tv person!!! Ok, real question is that since my sex drive is at an all time low for the last three months due to stress/anxiety/depression can that make me feel a little disconnected from my bf. I love him, I just dont care as much when we hang out or whatever. Is this the issues stated above thats doing this? Is this feeling of "lack of interest" due to anxiety/depression and making me feel less connected to my bf. I just dont feel like doing anything sexual...just want to cuddle nd be held. Will i get over this and once my sx drive coms back, will i get that "love feeling" and connection back? It hurts me to be this way with him cause hes special. Has anyone else felt like this? Can mild depression and severe anxiety cause to feel as if your losing it for your bf, but really im just worrying too muchand making me feel these things? I feel like im pulling away and dont know what to do! Does sex drive even affect kissing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Stress can affect everything in your life. You are going through some big changes, so of you're feeling anxious/worried, ect. You have acknowledged the problem..that's half the battle right there! Please talk to your boyfriend, if he's half as wonderful as you say, certainly he will understand.Also,I'm sure your college must have a guidance couselor or something like that, why don't you visit with them? Many many college students have this problem, you're not alone. Just please talk to someone ok?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 October 2008):
 Depression affects everything because you lose the inner drive to do things, even the ones you used to enjoy very much.
I suggest that you talk to you boyfriend and tell him how you are feeling very clearly. Also, make sure he understands there's nothing wrong with him. You'll see that he will try to help you, and that is always a good thing.
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