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writes:I'm 18 years old. I wanted to stay a virgin until I was 18. I'm not unattractive and I've had a few boyfriends that wanted to have sex but I wanted to wait. Well I had a heart break the day of my 18th birthday, so a little over a month later I got way too drunk at this party and had sex. I woke up and was very confused. He didn't rape me or anything. I remember bits and pieces and I remember he kept asking do you want me to stop and he was drunker than I was. He doesn't remember leaving the table so it wasn't a taking advantage situation, I understand that but I'm not a slut and I pride myself on that. He was really nice the next morning and seemed very concerned I wouldn't talk to him anymore. We exchanged numbers and have been talking ever since. That was almost a week ago. He told me he didn't want a relationship and i was relieved as I don't either, or not with him. I mean how much respect can he have for me. I have sex with him and I barely knew his name? but he seems like he wants a relationship with me? and he always calls me? and loves to talk to me? he got into a fight with his parents... and called me. and silenced his best friends phone call. I barely know this guy. but he doesn't want a relationship? yet he asks me stuff like what signs tell you a guy wants to date you and what signs do you give when you want to date a guy? and gets upset if i talk to other guys esp. my exs. and always wants to talk to me? I don't understand. I'm embarrassed because I slept with him and he doesn't know I was a virgin. I don't even kiss on the first date. Why does he want so much with a girl he thinks is a slut? (I'm really not but he has good reason to think I am) we both agreed no relationship and I told him we weren't going to be sex buddies. I'm highly confused. Please help me. Why does he get upset if I don't talk to him or talk to other guys if he doesn't want anything? and he is always trying to get me to spend time with him. He's very cute, good job, nice truck, girls are crazy about him and I'm really not even that pretty? He got what he wanted. Why is he so crazy about me?
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (17 October 2008):
when he said he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he ment that you didnt' have to be automatically boyfriend and girlfriend bcuz you've slept together. He doesn't think you are a slut, he thinks you are a respectable young lady and he wants to get to know you... the real you. In the back of your mind, you feel like what you did was slutty, and that's why you are embarrassed. Get over it! you made a mistake... learn from it and move on. Give the guy a chance... he just wants to get to know you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Maybe he just wants more sex. However, he sounds like he wants way more.
Has the thought occurred to you that maybe you can drive a man crazy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): He must really like you....no one is saying that you have to be in a relationship......but it sounds like it may blossom into a good frienship...that MAY lead to a relationship...so just continue on and go with the flow..(;
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): I had the exact situation and I went along with it, fell in love and now I am wanting a relationship and he still is on the "no relationship" idea. I thought it was only going to be a one-night stand as well.. and here I am 5 months down the road and all I have gotten is heartache. If you don't have feelings for him, you probably will if you keep seeing him, and then he will not want a relationship and same as me you will get a broken heart. Hey this is my experience, and I am just warning you, but who knows your guy may be different. Maybe ask him why he doesn't want a relationship, and don't think so low of yourself.. it's not a big deal that you had sex with a guy and you barely new his name!! society says its okay for guys to do it, but not girls its ridiculous! Do what you want, what makes you happy and don't think badly of yourself because of it :) you are not a slut darling!
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