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female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hi. So I could really use some advice about this guy. Here's the story:We met at college but it took a few months for us to actually talk in our shared class. After that we became friends pretty much straight away, hanging out, laughing, heading home together and all of that. At first I was trying to figure out how I felt about him, friends or more. I decided that I did have feelings for him. Being around him made me all giddy and slightly nervous when we were alone. But then I managed to convince myself that I didn't have feelings for him like that, that I was mixing up my feelings of friendship and crushing. I don't have too many guy friends anymore you see, because I usually end up falling for them and then drifting away after realising it's not going to happen. It's like, whenever I meet a genuinely decent guy and we become friends, I want more because good guys don't come around all too often. I'm now confused again how I feel about him. He's the kind of guy with probably more girl friends than guy friends, he's not a player at all, just really decent so girls like being friends with him and he doesn't mind or judge. I thought I was over him but then I get kind of jealous just watching him speak to my other girl friends, but then I can't imagine being in a relationship with him... I don't think I want a relationship with him, so why do I still feel sort of drawn to him?
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reader, Over 50 advice  +, writes (11 September 2016):
 This is tricky, your trying to play this safe so you won't be hurt. I would go all out to make sure this guy knows how you feel. If you don't you will be wondering what could of been. Whatever happens in the end you will feel better for it
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 September 2016):
 You can have feelings for someone even though you don't want to be in a relationship with that person. It is easy at your age to confuse friendship with liking someone, it really is not uncommon. My advice is go with the flow and see how things develop naturally.
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