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*oul mother
writes:My ex and i just broke up i left he sent me pic of woman with engagement ring on why i don't know then he texts me again say hes coming to my house to get something he left he has a lot of nerve why is he doing this
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reader, soul mother +, writes (30 August 2016):
soul mother is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much,everyone, he text me and showed me the woman that had engagement ring was his son fiance, who cares i sure don't the fact that i truly believed it and made my decision to leave him alone was just what i needed he thought it was funny but it back fired and the fact that he would do something like that , says a lot I'm sure he cheats just never had enough proof so his little game did more good then not i haven't contact him and in my mind that pic he sent me was a woman of his even though he sent original text i don't care he should have never ever played such a disrespectful text now i can work on healing and getting my family back
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 August 2016):
 I totally agree with the ideas:
pack up all his things and put them on the lawn
text him to tell him that's where they are and that you are no longer going to have any contact with him.
then
block his number or change your phone number if necessary
block his email and his access on social media (which btw keep this off of social media totally)
change the locks
and IGNORE HIM
IF he shows up and makes a scene you call the cops and report him as trespassing and harassing you.
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reader, N91  +, writes (30 August 2016):
 He's trying to make you jealous and mess with your head. Block the guy
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 August 2016):
What a passive-aggressive twat!
Pack up whatever it is he "needs" from your house and leave it out on the front porch if possible. Definitely HAVE a friend there with you if you can't.
Seems like he is trying to play YET another head game with you.
I strongly suggest you pack EVERY thing up that is his and have him take it all, after that? YOU block his number ( or better change your number) and STOP having ANY contact with him.
You don't have to text him AT ALL. He is out of your life (thank goodness!!) so do not think you OWE him to stay in contact. Let him come pick up his crap and then totally and absolutely CUT him off!
Don't worry about WHY he is doing it - WHO cares? He is someone you do not need in your life. Make it so.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 August 2016):
 Change your phone number, change the locks. You need to remove him completely from your life, he is abusive and this is not fair to you or to your children. You have got used to being treated like this, but it is time for you to take control back off your life. If he refuses to leave you alone, go to the police and make a complaint. Stick up for yourself before this turns any more nastier. Ask your family for help, they can see he has treated you bad, allow them to help you through this hard time, I am sure they are worried about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2016): If he's being abusive, get a restraining order. Change the locks on your doors, and inform him you will have a policeman or sheriff present when he comes for his things. Or, have a strong and aggressive male family member present when he comes to pick-up everything he left behind. Every single thing, and he'll have to do it in one trip. Find out what it is and have it boxed and waiting for him; with a burly male family member waiting by the door. Maybe you should invite those kids of yours he doesn't like!
He can't contact you if you block his numbers and change yours. There are children in the house; so his aggressive behavior warrants police protection. If you would stop acting afraid of him, and accepting his contact; you'll experience less harassment.
If you've estranged your family, it's times like these you had better start mending fences and rebuilding bridges. You need their support and it's good to have them around you.
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reader, soul mother +, writes (29 August 2016):
soul mother is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've been in this crazy wacky relationship for 7 years and my family don't like him he runs anytime my grown children come around he's only comfortable with the two youngest which lives with me two girls ages 12 and 18 he never like when i stand up for myself meaning when he's being disrespectful he belittle me in front of his family in public it comes out of nowhere he says i don't like to go anywhere and i said i do but not with him because he clowns me for no reason then he gets mad that upset he wants me to just roll with the nonsense i admit I'v anytime i try to leave and don't contact him instead of saying he's sorry he gets worst that I'm not ready to talk tor see him he gets worst with hateful texts put downs and he throws things that i share with him in my face i still ignore him then he pops up out of nowhere and act like nothing happened he wont mention it and when i do it just word games and i feel so confused please i feel stuck and cornered what should i do
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (29 August 2016):
Okay the break up is still fresh so you will need some time to get over him and move on with your life. Pack up his belongings and leave them on the door for him to collect. The block his number so he cannot contact you again. He is playing mind games with you.
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