Feeling trapped but afraid to leave and regret it.
Q. I feel like I am in a predicament. I am in a relationship of about a year and four months. We were friends a few years before getting together. Due to circumstances after a few months of us dating I moved in with him because I had nowhere else to ...
A. 20 July 2016: Sweetie your head is all over the place, but I really don't think this relationship would have been okay if nobody had come along and showing you some attention. The relationship you are in sounds like hard work, getting woken for sex during the ... (read in full...)
Why am I such a loser at 41? Where have I gone wrong?
Q. I have posted a few times about individual problems and worries and have always received help from this forum. Instead of going to a therapist - and I did it 2 years ago - I'm here to ask you what I'm doing wrong. I am of Asian origin and was r...
A. 20 July 2016: You need to be a good person for yourself nobody else. Respect and love yourself, don't expect anything from others just because you behave a certain way. If you are forever giving then you attract people who will use you, don't give so easily. ... (read in full...)
I seem to have everything but why do I still feel down an out?
Q. I have been feeling rather down these last couple of weeks, and it seems as if it's turning into some depressive episode. What baffles me is that there really is no reason for me to feel this way because I live a pretty stress free life, aside from ...
A. 19 July 2016: you have the money, the dates, the looks, the lifestyle, but I think what you are missing is love. From the outside looking in your friends are jealous, they want what you have, no worries, no strings attached, while I think you want someone who is ... (read in full...)
A girl is flirting with my boyfriend. Should I ask him about this girl? Or go see the girl myself?
Q. Hello I have been with my boyfriend for almost 12 months now, and I have been really happy. Everything has been fine until this year, when he was told he had to attend a computer course at a technical college once a week. Since going to col...
A. 19 July 2016: Talk to your boyfriend and ask him to explain. If you have been together a year then surely you can talk to each other about these things, are you worried he will tell you that he does like her? That he will leave you? It does not sound good on his ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any ideas I can try to help me with my 2 year old son? I'm concerned about his actions
Q. i really need some advice. im 22 years old and i have two beautiful kids. my daughter is 3 soon to be 4 and my son is just tuned 2. my kids have very diff. personalities. my daughter is very calm and very well behaved, she is amazing. my so...
A. 19 July 2016: Your son needs discipline, I am not going to judge you for spanking him, but it is not the way forward, at two he is learning from what he sees in the world, so you hit him, he thinks okay well that is acceptable. He is still a toddler and has a lot ... (read in full...)
Not really dating, should I wait for him?
Q. I was dating a guy seriously for 2 months, we spent the 1st month together and he had leave so we decided to do long distance. I felt a 360 change is his character and I started stressing over because he was the one who wanted this and he used to be ...
A. 19 July 2016: OP you have posted about this guy a few times now, and you are going to get hurt, you are holding on to something that is not there. He does not want to be with you, you are just some chick he dated for a few weeks, you really need to get over this. ... (read in full...)
Feeling trapped but afraid to leave and regret it.
Q. I feel like I am in a predicament. I am in a relationship of about a year and four months. We were friends a few years before getting together. Due to circumstances after a few months of us dating I moved in with him because I had nowhere else to ...
A. 19 July 2016: Why are you so sure he will keep the car? Do you think he is that spiteful? You need to sit down and talk to him about this. Tell him how you are feeling, tell him you are not getting sleep, and that you are wanting some space. Move in with your ... (read in full...)
How long after a break up should I find new love?
Q. Hello so I just ended a relationship with someone I have been with for five years. I was wondering how long I should wait until I would get into another relationship. He was my first love but I grew out of it fast because we dated young. Things have ...
A. 19 July 2016: Five years is a bit much. There should be no time limit, it should just be when you feel it is right to go on a date or to move on, it is your choice, follow your heart. I do recommend giving yourself sometime to move forward, go out with friends, ... (read in full...)
He says now is the time to get married. I'm feeling pressured about this. What should I do?
Q. , please I need your advice. I'm so confused:( so I'm 26, graduate and working. So is my bf. He's 33. We've been dating for 8 months and he's so bent on getting married. I just feel the pressure cause that's all he talks about! Is 8 months enough t...
A. 19 July 2016: He is older than you therefore he probably wants to settle down soon. I can understand that. But it is wrong off him to put pressure on you, you have told him how you feel and he still won't listen to what you want. Trying to pressure you in to ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome the tremendous sense of guilt I feel towards my ex husband?
Q. I realize i was only infatuated with my ex husband. I never loved him. Being a college grad and coming out of my parental reclusiveness, i released myself to passionate moments. I knew i did wrong because my mother always imposed the rule of ...
A. 19 July 2016: You need to go and see a therapist. Yes what you did all that time ago was wrong, you realized you made mistakes and you tried to get your ex to see your son but he also rejected him, if I am being honest the both of you played a part in him not ... (read in full...)
Why am I such a loser at 41? Where have I gone wrong?
Q. I have posted a few times about individual problems and worries and have always received help from this forum. Instead of going to a therapist - and I did it 2 years ago - I'm here to ask you what I'm doing wrong. I am of Asian origin and was r...
A. 19 July 2016: Where are you going wrong? Well first off you should stop feeling sorry for yourself, plenty of marriages don't work out, but you can try again. Your first husband was arranged therefore you did not have the choice, it didn't work out and you built ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on a hook up site while I am away!
Q. Hi agony aunts, So I'm on a 6 week family holiday away from my boyfriend and I noticed that he had several emails from a hookup site called localblack^^^^s.com Before anyone asks, I wasn't snooping. His email inbox is on my phone along with ...
A. 19 July 2016: Do you think you are able to ignore it and forget about it? I know I wouldn't be able to, I would want to know why he is on a hook up site. Generally people go on there to have a look and see what is available, surely if he is in a loving ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has ignored me for 3 days and blocked me from contacting him!
Q. First of all a bit of background information. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 years and our relationship is pretty serious. Recently we've both been happier and better than ever, and have even spoken about marriage. Overall our ...
A. 19 July 2016: You are still quite young and well his behavior sounds immature. If he cannot handle you both having an argument then he is not ready to be in a committed relationship am afraid. He is acting like a child.
Speaking about marriage is one thing, but ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever wasted 10 years of their life and not lived to regret it?
Q. This could be very long but I will keep it short. Has anybody ever wasted 10 years of their life.. And lived enough not to regret it. This holds me down badly. ...
A. 19 July 2016: You would be better explaining what it is that is holding you down, and how you plan to move forward from it, at least then maybe we can help you more. ... (read in full...)
How do I live harmoniously with my mum?
Q. I am a 41 year old divorced woman who managed to get out of an alcoholic marriage. My ex husband just drank himself silly and ignored me. I am an Asian woman and my mum is 67. She and I are close and I try to do a lot for her. She lives in India ...
A. 18 July 2016: The only person that is holding you back here is yourself. Sweetie your mother sees that you are lonely she wants you to go out and date, this would probably make her very happy, all she wants is to see you happy. She is a good mother and you are a ... (read in full...)
My alcoholic boyfriend is making me feel left out and lonely.
Q. My alcoholic boyfriend is making me feel left out and lonely. He can be very lovey dovey and attentive when he's not drinking and sticking to his job. There are then times he goes on these binges for days or weeks, and he ignoring me and making m...
A. 18 July 2016: If you want to stay in this relationship then the first thing you need to accept is that he is an alcoholic, he is addicted to alcohol, he will pick it before you every time. It is his number one priority. If you are okay being second best to this ... (read in full...)
He is 19. Should I break up with him for my parents? His parents are not happy either
Q. Friends I want help ! ??please give me some suggestions I fell in love I don't know what to do My age is 14 and my bf age is 19 ,we 're best friends now we are dating ! And I really love him I don't wanna lose him any more i have too many ...
A. 18 July 2016: Please delete his number and stop contacting him. It is clear that he does not want to be with you. You are a child compared to him, if it was here in my country he would be in jail for dating someone so young. Please listen to your parents, when ... (read in full...)
Why is this shy guy acting weird?
Q. A shy guy who has a crush on me tries to make me jealous by flirting with other girls around me and then he ignores me but if he sees any other guy even talking to me , he runs and come stands with me and try to be a part of the conversation. If the ...
A. 18 July 2016: Is your age really in your late 20s? My guess is that it is not and you are still at school. If you like this guy then tell him, if you don't then just ignore him. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend would rather talk with his mother and not me about issues?
Q. I am falling out of love because every time, my boyfriend and I have a problem, he tells his mom and she never gives great advice. She tells him to dump me but he is my first boyfriend. I don't understand. I thought she liked me but I guess not. We ...
A. 18 July 2016: His mother is just being a good mother to him, she is not being hateful. He is the one being hateful about you to his mother, and that is why she suggests breaking up, because she sees that her son is unhappy and always complaining about you. I have ... (read in full...)
I don't want to let go of someone I love but my husband keeps on responding to this girl on line. What can I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I have been with this man a total of 7 years married for 3 and he unfortunately feel in a web web of lies with one of his friends from another country.. And he sent her inappropriate messages and a video of him self " releaving...
A. 18 July 2016: Sweetie he did not fall for a web off lies, he went online and CHEATED on you. He done that and now he is paying the price, if you want to work on this relationship, ask him to delete all social media, cut contact, stay away from the computer and ... (read in full...)
Choosing Boyfriend or potential job?
Q. Hi there, I hope you are all well. I am kindly seeking advice for what is for me a big issue and which I keep thinking over. Basically me and my boyfriend have been together for almost four years this December. We met in the beginning of our ...
A. 18 July 2016: Please listen to all the great advice you have got on here and take the job.
Look I know you love your boyfriend, but what happens if you refuse the job and then all off a sudden he leaves for another country and tells you he wants to do it alon... (read in full...)
Why does he act all uncaring?
Q. So we have been going for about 2 months and 1/2 of the relationship we spent it together, then he moved. I fell for him because he seemed to genuinely care about me and was concerned about how I was doing. Lately though he makes the conversations ...
A. 18 July 2016: The thing is how well do you really know him? It has only been two months, people can change quickly when they lose interest? It sounds like he was sweet and kind, but now he is getting bored and is looking for a way out, he probably realized when ... (read in full...)
Are the scratches on my boyfriend's chest consistent with cheating?
Q. Hello everyone. I am having a hard time with a situation I am in. I have nobody to turn to so I am hoping I can get some good advice here. My boyfriend and I have been together for several years. He and I were together a couple of days a...
A. 18 July 2016: Should you leave him? Yes you should, you don't trust him, this is not a healthy relationship at all. You are miserable because you think he is always cheating, you don't trust him, so what kind of future do you have? You need to end things, and ... (read in full...)
I've known her for years and I love her!
Q. Help, I'm a 20 year old guy and just recently started talking to my best friend from since I was 12, I had a crush on her when we were younger and than we lost contact cuz of the wrong people we were in relationships with... We just st...
A. 18 July 2016: Just go for it, call her and ask her would she like to go on a date with you. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is it the end of the road for us?
Q. Is it the end of the road for us? - We don't talk like we used to do before. He barely contacts me during the weekday because of work issues. During weekends, we cannot see each other as often as we want because he has financial difficulties (I ...
A. 18 July 2016: Why would him having financial difficulties stop him from seeing you? Is this a long distant relationship? Do you not live close to each other. If that is the case then yes sometimes contact does go down hill and it can be a struggle. If you do live ... (read in full...)
I am close to breaking point
Q. I sometimes think my longstanding partner is having an affair with a former friend of mine due to his covert behaviour. I know she is attractive and manipulative and would feel good about herself if she got him to leave me. But i have no proper e...
A. 18 July 2016: My guess is that you may be paranoid but who knows? If there has been no clues at all that he is having an affair with an old friend off yours then it could be your imagination playing tricks on you, have you ever had trust issues or is this a new ... (read in full...)
I have an intimate question ...
Q. I have an intimate question ... I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we have had sex many times but I've never orgasmed. I'm not sure I can and I think it's really getting my boyfriend down as he feels like he can't satisfy me. Sometimes I ...
A. 18 July 2016: Sweetie a lot of women don't orgasm through sex. So it is not that he is doing anything wrong, or that you are not in the proper mind frame. As long as you are enjoying sex, then reassure him. There are plenty of other ways he can help you to ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm in a relationship, just without the title, I'd like to talk about being together but don't want to freak her out!
Q. I'm interested in some perspectives on this situation. I'm a gay woman and I've been sleeping with another woman for 8 months now. We've known each other for years but were always seeing other people, so we remained friends during that time. Howe...
A. 18 July 2016: 8 months is quite a long time, off course you are both going to develop some sort of feelings. It does sound like things are developing between you more and more. Are you satisfied with what you have now at the moment or would you like the title? ... (read in full...)
I hate him but all I want is to be with him!
Q. I fell in love with the wrong person. I am still young, fresh out of hs and have never been in love until now. We are from a small town in Arizona and happened to cross paths...Well more like he hit on me one day and I reciprocated.It started off ...
A. 18 July 2016: Sweetie you are very young and have your whole life ahead off you. Yes you are heartbroken because your first relationship has ended, it will take a while to get over him, but you will. You will look back some day and smile at the short relationship ... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along? He doesn't know what he wants?
Q. My LDR is turning kind of confusing. My bf and I have been dating a short while and we spent abt a month together before he left. He wanted this, but when he left, he started going hot and cold. Yes we skype, but other then that its like he ...
A. 18 July 2016: Am sorry sweetie but this guy is just messing with your head, I know you are holding on to some hope because he is the one that asked you to be in a relationship, but I think you know deep down it was only words. All he is doing now is messing with ... (read in full...)
Every one she has cheated on me with was a guy. I wonder, what should I do?.
Q. I am a 25 year old stud lesbian I've been with the same woman since we were 16. We are married. She is the love of my life and couldn't picture one minute with out her in my life But we have had are bad times we have both cheated on each other I ...
A. 18 July 2016: Off course it is hard, you need to get some confidence and realize you can do better, saying she won't let you leave is not an excuse, you are free to walk out the door, you are not her hostage. She has been honest with you, she prefers men, it ... (read in full...)
How Do I Move Forward?? ?
Q. okay so, i was in a relationship with my ex for 4 years, which was fairly complicated. We started out as close friends which then turned into something more serious, it ended sadly 6 years ago, and there isnt a day i dont think about her, sometime...
A. 15 July 2016: The thing is when you look back on the relationship, you focus on all the good times not the bad, you see all the things you done to ruin it but not what she done. You need to accept that the relationship is over, she has moved on and so should you. ... (read in full...)
I need help. Who can help me with these issues? Who would accept me like this?
Q. I am 37 years old and i still play with dolls. I feel that they're real. I give them a name and a voice as well. I sleep with them and I'm very over protective as well. My son hates one of my dolls because he feels i give them more attention...
A. 15 July 2016: Yes you need to contact a therapist straight away. Get this under control. Nobody says you cannot play with dolls, but they are getting in the way off your real life, taking precious memories from your son, and standing in the way off your ... (read in full...)
Every one she has cheated on me with was a guy. I wonder, what should I do?.
Q. I am a 25 year old stud lesbian I've been with the same woman since we were 16. We are married. She is the love of my life and couldn't picture one minute with out her in my life But we have had are bad times we have both cheated on each other I ...
A. 15 July 2016: Judging from the way you treated her in the past and that you both have cheated on each other, I can't see this marriage lasting long term, my guess is that you will both forget how to trust each other and it will cause the end of the relationship. ... (read in full...)
What to do? He says if I don't work out with both of them then he wants a divorce
Q. My husband had an affair, after I found out and got past the initial shock, I approached his mistress. Asked her to have a threesome. We did, it went well. It didn't take any of the pain away that I am feeling, like I guess I hoped it would. ...
A. 15 July 2016: If my husband had an affair I would walk out the front door, get the papers and never look back. I have never knowing someone to find out and jump in to bed with both off them. While I understand you where upset and trying to make sense off it, you ... (read in full...)
I love my wife but she is causing me distress. What do I do with this woman?
Q. Hello this is my first time to ever post on a relationship site, but have had problems with my wife for many years and have even separated for a year and she made all these promises that things would be different. She has a problem with drinking...
A. 15 July 2016: I think you done the proper thing first time around and ended things with her, she promised to change, but they where just words to get you back where she wanted you. Is this really the life that you want? I think the only mistake you done was ... (read in full...)
Can you advise me on how to get over him?
Q. How do I get over someone? My ex broke up with my over 3 months ago now and it gets easier sometimes but then at others it feels again as bad as when it happened. I have wrote on here before about this situation but this time I just want to get over ...
A. 14 July 2016: Block all contact, you will never get over him if he keeps drunk dialing you. I know you hope he still has feelings and that is why he contacts you, but my guess is that he wants easy company someone who will be intimate with him and he gets what he ... (read in full...)
How would you handle seeing this woman?
Q. Hello I asked this question not very long ago http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-bear-this-deep-hurt.html Thank you again to those who replied you did help a great deal. I have just another question to ask and that should be my fair s...
A. 14 July 2016: It really depends on how far they took there conversations, was it friendly with a little flirting? A lot of flirting? Or suggesting to meet up behind your back? Sexual? the reason I ask is because it can play an important role in the way you ... (read in full...)
Ending friendships when the friendship is going no where. Does this happen to others? Is this normal?
Q. Would it be weird if a 20 year old starts feeling the need to end most of her friendships? I feel like i wont achieve anything big with the friends that i have now. I would like to know if there is any of you who ever felt this way and how did ...
A. 14 July 2016: I wonder what is the reason that you feel you need to end most of your friendships, are you feeling depressed? Unhappy? It is almost like you want to isolate yourself. Your friends should not be there to help you achieve anything big, or indeed to ... (read in full...)
This guy is still texting her. What do I do now? Valuable suggestions would be appreciated.
Q. I have a gf of 4 years in a long distance committed relationship. i couldnt visit her for a year due to some personal and visa problems which she knows clearly, but we skype daily for hours. Recently i found out she had been cheating on me with her...
A. 14 July 2016: I really do not understand why you are angry at him, she is the one that is in the wrong here. She is not getting what she needs from the relationship because you where not able to go and visit her, but what stopped her going to visit you? Are you ... (read in full...)
Help. If we have to make a decision to visit him or not, I am not sure about what to do. Any advice would help please?
Q. A couple of years ago my husband and I moved to a new building where we became friends with one of the neighbors. He's in his 50's, keeps much of the time for himself but is really kind, respectful and generous. He avoids people (he doesn't ...
A. 14 July 2016: It is nice to see that there are still some good caring people in the world. He obviously trusts you and that is great, I can see why you are unsure what to do, but ask his mother what she wants to do, and take her in if she is fit. See how he ... (read in full...)
I regret breaking up with her, advice needed
Q. My ex-gf and I had been together about two months but were exclusive after a month, and I told her I loved her (she said she loved me back). We had a lot in common and very similar personalities, so we fell for each other fast. We did have some ...
A. 14 July 2016: Glad to hear you tried to make the effort, I hope it works out for you. ... (read in full...)
How can I make his family see how possesive they are?
Q. Hi Cupid, My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now and we have a great relationship we have had our ups and downs but we always work through them and we are confident we will be spending our lives together however we have ...
A. 14 July 2016: OP someday you will grow up and regret the way you have spoke about your boyfriends family. Just because your parents have done such and such does not mean all families can, you sound stuck up and very immature. Someday you will have to live in the ... (read in full...)
I regret breaking up with her, advice needed
Q. My ex-gf and I had been together about two months but were exclusive after a month, and I told her I loved her (she said she loved me back). We had a lot in common and very similar personalities, so we fell for each other fast. We did have some ...
A. 13 July 2016: This relationship moved very fast and small arguments do happen but I do think breaking up with her was a huge mistake on your part. So she was impatient that you where not getting back to her, but that was probably because you both had plans. Now I ... (read in full...)
How can I make his family see how possesive they are?
Q. Hi Cupid, My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now and we have a great relationship we have had our ups and downs but we always work through them and we are confident we will be spending our lives together however we have ...
A. 13 July 2016: You are very judging and critical off his family, and I can see why they might not like you, you should not judge other people, especially if this is the man you want to marry, you should be trying to be kind and considerate to his family, you need ... (read in full...)
| *unt honesty's friends
These are mutual friends, so *unt honesty has
added them and they have added *unt honesty!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
