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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I am seeing someone and we get on so well. Everything is great. But we had sex for the first time and he treated me like a one night stand. He was just concerned about having an orgasm. He has never been in a relationship before. I know the reasons why. He doesn't let anybody in. But he has with me. I'm not really sure how to go about the sex part? How can I help him? I really think he needs feel what it's like to be cared for and the way it's meant to be when you're intimate with someone. Can you please give me some advice? It would be so much appreciated.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (24 January 2017):
 It sounds like he just done what he has always done, if he has never been in a relationship then he doesn't know anything else other than a quickie or a one night stand. Show him how to pleasure you!
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male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 January 2017):
 Assuming he is very inexperienced with sex...he probably hasn't yet learned that pleasing your partner fist is the ultimate sex. He will eventually learn to "hold back"
and delay his own orgasm until you've experienced yours or try to "time it" to coincide with yours. That is the ultimate. Why not get the Karma Sutra and leave it laying around for him to read sometime? In the meantime be patient it can take years to evolve into a good lover much less a great one.
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reader, Phil052  +, writes (23 January 2017):
 I think you need to give it time. It was your first time having sex, and his first time ever! It was never going to be a great experience. The next time you have sex you should make sure it is a time and a place where you can take things nice and slow. Show him the things you like and talk to him. I am assuming you are more experienced sexually? If so, you can be his teacher. It can be a lot of fun, but it needs you to take a lead and show him what real love making is! Good luck!
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