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writes:I'm a 26 year old guy and have never dated. When I was in high school, I was pretty much an outcast and girls just laughed at me. One time a girl made me think she wanted to go to a dance with her and asked me to meet her there. She showed up with another guy and a bunch of her friends and others laughed at me for thinking a loser like me could ever get a date.After high school, I didn't date in college because I couldn't find anyone who wasn't into spending every weekend seeing how drunk they could get. Not saying all the girls were like that, I just couldn't find the ones that weren't.I'm on my own now and still haven't dated. Sometimes, it's not a big deal to me while other times, I feel like there's something seriously wrong with me. I also wonder what a woman would think of a guy my age who has never been on a date.Is there any hope for me?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 January 2017):
 There really is nothing wrong with you. You are just overthinking the dating scene and worrying about it. Also you need to gain more confidence and self esteem. Personally it wouldn't bother me at 26. But you need to stop mopping about thinking poor me and actually get out there and meet women. Try online dating. Good luck.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (25 January 2017):
 My husband didn't go on a date or have serious relationship until he was 26. He was shy and very career oriented (he's a doctor). He's now 50 and the only 2 women he was ever involved with are his ex wife and me. I never thought anything about his very limited dating/intimacy experience because he was just so intelligent and charming and just knocked me right off of my feet.
Its never too late to date..NEVER! I think you just need to put yourself out there a little..are you a member of any clubs? a gym? have you tried dating online? Do you go to places where there are single women that you might be attracted to? Odds are the ladies aren't just going to drop into your lap...so if you want to date, put forth a little effort. Talk to friends, co-workers, family..let it be known that you want to date and does anyone know anyone that might be interested. Won't know unless you try! Good luck!!!!!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 January 2017):
 There is always hope.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (25 January 2017):
" I feel like there's something seriously wrong with me."
Yes there is something wrong with you. Too much time on your hands sitting around thinking about dating.
Have you looked at the rest of this site??? Have you seen all the trouble and problem people are having with their relationships? And you are sitting there wondering..."When is my turn to bring that kind of trouble into my life?"
Ever heard the saying "Be careful what you wish for." If you only knew how true that is.
Do I want you to date? Sure! But let it happen, when it happen.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (25 January 2017):
 I cant answer for all women but you know what, personally I don't think it is that big of a deal. But if you do is there any reason why you have to advertise the fact when you do meet someone? General chit chat during a date past relationships sometimes comes up,usually creeps in at some stage, you can avoid being interrogated with a simple yet truthful " just haven't found the right one" or "dating hasn't really been a priority for me until now". Some women may find uncharted waters exciting, some may thing it strange. You wont know until you put yourself out there to find out who is worth taking that leap of faith. People prioritise things differently. For some dating can wait while they tackle study,travel or careers head on for example. You don't need hope, instead what you need is to start making an effort if a gf is what you desire. Work out what it is you fancy in a partner and try tailor you social life and start networking. Networking in person would be my advice, not via internet dating, thats just a whole lot of crazy but mostly disappointing. As for the the cow that made fun of you at the school dance I sure do hope she turned out fat,unemployed, married to a cheating arsehole, with "Beruka"(original Charlie and the Chocolate Factory movie) darling daughters. If not and she finally grew a conscience and into her brain one could only hope that guilt and regret is something she lives with for behaving so appalling.
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