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writes: Why do many men find a tight vagina so appealing?I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity to my current husband when I was in my 40's. I was married previously to a man who suffered erectile difficulties and was never able to have intercourse with me.But my husband is adamant that tighter women are better. I am not sure why this is?He says my vagina is as tight as a young girl. Not that he has had young girls. He means so to speak.Is it rare for women in their 40's to have a tight vagina? He seems very pleased to have found a woman "like me" as he says women in their 40s are usually broken in for years.What does this mean?I am interested in MEN'S opinions especially.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2017): Speaking as a 47 yr old male. I have never liked a tight vagina or anal. I don't want to sound crude. But I always loved a woman who was wet and slippery. I'd take a velvet glove of love any day of the week.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 April 2017):
 What a horrid judgmental husband you have. Not all women loose their tightness after childbirth or indeed with age. Your husband needs a lesson in how to treat and respect women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2017): chaps- OP has said nothing about children....
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (27 April 2017):
 Tight vaginas are not necessarily better or worse just different. my wife is so tight as to make penetration painful and nearly impossible not a good thing at all.I'd prefer a snug fit but not a prolapse situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2017): The male anon below seems to know a lot about female vaginas after childbirth . Makes me wonder exactly how many he has actually had .
Neither my exes nor my wife's lost tightness after childbirth. That's what the vagina is designed for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2017): A vagina loses the tightness after child birth. There seem to be vagina connoisseurs out there who do give attention to such details but I think most men are grateful to women who let them have access to theirs let alone question its tightness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2017): There's a few misconceptions of vagina tightness. Every vagina is different in physical form. Every vagina behaves differently during sex. Us men have this idea that younger or virgin vaginas are tighter, but- as far as I've researched- that's not really the case. Of course, I speak as a man, but I've always been interested in these things from the woman's perspective. There is actually research out there about this sort of thing.
We do like what feels like a tight vagina. It's for the same reason why anal sex feels good, the anus is tighter still. What I reckon may be the case with you is your vagina, body and emotions are really enjoying the sex you are having. When a woman is enjoying sex, the vagina does often feel 'tighter,' that's how it behaves. At the same time, good sex makes the penis bigger and harder, giving the impression of a tighter vagina. The penis likes some resistance in sex, and both male and females bodies act on this.
So yes, men do like it if the vagina feels tight, but that tightness is not always due to virginity or, to put it bluntly, use!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 April 2017):
 Oh my... That's really a nasty thing for your husband to say. That women are "broken in"??? Sheeezes, we aren't trained horses, you know! What an incredible nasty way to speak of women. I sincerely hope this isn't how he speaks of women typically, and that you just paraphrased him wrong.
A tight vagina offers more stimuli, naturally. If you are to use your hand to get a man off, or when he masturbates, he will naturally hold on to his penis in a tight grip. So obviously, a vagina that gives the same tight grip will give the right stimuli for him to reach his orgasm.
But this thing about being broken in is absolutely BULLSHIT. Women are NOT able to be "broken in". My suspicion is that your husband has a small penis, and you have a small vagina. So you are a good match. Whereas if he had sex before with a woman with a large vagina, or medium size vagina, it did not offer the same stimuli to him.
Also, men tend to lose their hardness as they grow older. As in, they can get it up, but it will not be as stiff as before. This will also impact how "tight" a vagina feels, because if you are not as hard and big as you used to, the vagina will feel as if it is looser.
All this are factors that come into play. Also, women who do pilates and yoga usually have a stronger pelvic muscle than women who don't do these exercises. Because, as you might be aware of, there is a muscle down there for you to flex, and when you flex it, the grip around the penis during intercourse will be stronger. So there's that to keep in mind also.
I hope this answered your question and gave you some insight. Men prefer, as women prefer, a vagina that suits their bodytype. If a man is large, he will prefer a woman with a large vagina. Or else he will not fit, or sex will be uncomfortable. A man with a smaller penis will prefer a tighter vagina, or else he will not feel much or get enough stimuli during sex. A man with a curved penis will prefer a woman with a vagina that is tilted accordingly, and so on and so on.
What happens when the sizes dont match, is that either sex is painful, or you don't feel a thing. But this has absolutely nothing to do with "broken in". The vagina is not a rubber band that gets loose with use....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2017): Ewww what a creepy thing of him to say . Well I am not a man but I can tell you I'm a woman in my forties ad am tighter now than in my twenties . In fact it's sometimes hard to accomodate my husband at times . Te absolute rubbish that the vagina becomes looser with age . It changes according to hormones which can vary throughout a woman's cycle and also throughout a woman's life and also depending excercise ie pelvic floor . Having babies makes temporary changes too but unless there is actual damage that's needs an operation to repair it will return to normal within a year I assume you have also never had children so are ignorant of these normal process and are believing that you are somehow special or your vagina is amazing I had a friend who also behaved like this simply because she had delivered by c section and therefore believed she was tighter than other women . I laughed when she told me her gyno after examining her told her she was spot on average
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