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writes:My Bf and I are on a sort of break right now. We are still with each other but spending time with our own families to reassess what we both want. There is a job offer for Me far away from home but I won't be happy there (I will like the job just not the place). At home where I want to be for now as I nerd stability, I cannot so my job so I would need to do something different whilst I got back on my feet. Someone tell me this is OK and not a silly move?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 April 2017):
 honestly it does sound to me like you need a new start. This new job could be ideal for you, a fresh start, make new friends. You could grow to love the new place. Home is where you make it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2017): Make a grown-up decision. Apparently you need money and your independence.
Nobody really takes a break from a relationship; it's just delaying a breakup. Being careful not to call it a breakup to make sure nobody runs to find rebound-sex while you're trying to process and digest a real breakup.
Breakup with your boyfriend, take the job, and get used to living independently. You may grow to like the other town. It's also easier getting through a breakup with distance between you. It's not like there isn't already!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (27 April 2017):
 Dear Stability Nerd, ;)
(Couldn't resist!)
You *do* realize that this is a no brainer, right? The universe is trying to hit you over the head, telling you that it's time to make a life change.
Nothing new will happen unless you take the risk! Go for the job, and it'll most likely be a blessing in disguise! Right now, you're spinning your wheels in a rut, and you've pretty much broken up with this guy.
You will seriously regret NOT seeing where this adventure takes you! Do it now before life makes it impossible to make these kinds of changes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2017): Perhaps its time to redefine yourself rather than going in circles!However the offer of a job with money coming in must be very tempting.When you say its cushy I am assuming that you find it easy to do!In that case it may be time to be earning as you will have financial freedom to enjoy your life!Returning to a familiar post is not a bad thing to do and may get you out of a financial rut for now.I imagine its the commute that you are dreading so if you find it exhausting then look for something closer to home.You need to balance your work/ home/ social/ love life so that it is all achievable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2017): Sorry auto correct on my phone didn't help. The job is where I've been before and I was not overly happy. The job was about bearable but I didn't like the place. It's just cushty that's all. But at home my job doesn't exist so I'd need to change career a little whilst I was home
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (26 April 2017):
 Sorry I don't quite understand what you have written. I see that you and your man are apart and that you have an offer of a job away somewhere. You don't imagine you are going to like the place.
But you might when you get there. Or have you been there before?
Why don't you give it a try? You can always quit if you really hate it. No-one can force you to do it. It might be the break you need: new faces, new challenges etc.
Is it fear of the unknown that is stopping you? You can always run home to mum and dad if it gets bleak.
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