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Archived questions from: January, 2013 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

On the Fence about My Relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - This is an unusual back story which I will try to sum up, and I would appreciate suggestions on how to change my perception. Relationship: Lesbian Couple (both bisexual) Ages: Me (late 20's), her (early 30's) Looks: We are both attractive Length of Relationship: 2 years ... (807 words)

I'm afraid I'm going to lose my friends at home because they think my priorities are not straight.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in quite a predicament. I'm a student and I don't have a lot of money to spend. I live away from home and I don't have many friends in the city besides from college friends. I go out with these college friends once and sometimes twice a week for a few pints after classes as ... (396 words)

I feel as if I go out of my way for everyone and no-one can be bothered when it comes to me.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3978 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Its' my birthday today. A milestone. A special one. I've had a tear in my eye most of the day – not because I have reached 40 but because I feel so let down and now I'm feeling that maybe I'm being unreasonable, selfish and ungrateful. Situation 1. My parther and I ha... (658 words)

Help me escape my emotionally abusive father

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all, I live with my father and I'm eighteen. I suffer with incredibly bad anxiety and depression caused by both of my parents and my long term ex boyfriend (we were together for four years) which renders me completely non-independant and I struggle to be on my own any... (250 words)

I haven't heard from him in a few weeks. Does that mean he wasn't interested?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4264 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I met someone a few months ago. He is a lot older than me (15 years) and when I met him he was just finishing a relationship and we had a few dates. We spent the night together a few weeks ago but he wasn't sure about it because of just coming out of a relationship, he was ... (161 words)

Is there a way to tactfully let him know that I neither fancy or hate him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Just a quick one my friend at work (male) believes that my other friend(female) filed a complaint against him. Today I was told that I should be wary about my male friend (he is very flirty) I want to keep my distance so he doesn't get the wrong idea about our friendship b... (110 words)

Menu ideas for a romantic dinner?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - hi guys just looking for a tad bit of help. been with my partner for 5 half years now. been engaged a year and this september were getting married. :-) my partner is in the merchant navy with a pretty good rota..he works 3weeks away and 3 weeks at home. which is pretty good f... (214 words)

How do I help my boyfriend? His parents are divorcing and he's taking it hard

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4306 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend's parents are getting divorced and my boyfriend is really upset. He's near tears a lot of the time. We can be taking a walk and all of a sudden he'll start to tear up. He really tries to not let go and cry (in front of me anyway) I personally think he needs to... (84 words)

How do I tell my three children that I'm going to have another baby?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - dear aunts and uncles .. i have found myself in somewhat of a mess , first of all let me tell you a little bit of my story ,, i seperated from my husband about 9 months ago after a long hard marriage and about 8 weeks ago i met a lovely man .. we fell in love very quickly ive ... (252 words)

How can I accept husband's impotence without any medical reason?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age - My husband puts me thru a lots of sexual wondering. He lost his erection several years ago, in the middle of an intercourse. Than he stopped getting erections all together, and lost his sexual desire 100%. I mean, never asked for sex, no touch, no nothing,.Like suddenly went ... (176 words)

Boyfriend in love with his ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I got back with my ex of 6 months January, after finding out that he had never broken up with his ex of two years. He felt really guilty and kept saying how sorry he was. He was being really lovely and paying me lots of attention. Everything seemed to be going really w... (281 words)

Engaged but not ready to marry

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We are engaged with no set date. I know he loves me and I don't want to throw away a loving relationship for no reason, but I don't think my feelings for him are very deep. I'm worried if we break up I will be lonely, ... (341 words)

Ten years with a man only to be cheated on then left for her, so why cant I move on??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Well, I am 26 years of age and about 1 year ago I got out of a 10 year relationship. He left me for another woman! He had also been sleeping with her for a month or who knows how much longer before we actually broke up. I spent my life loving this man and was 15 years old when ... (484 words)

I can't get over my ex that passed away over a year ago

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know where to start but a year and 2 months ago I lost the love of my life. We broke up a few months before he passed away and saw each other once after we broke up. I never stopped loving him, I would be obsessed with reading his facebook, thinking about him. Walking ... (344 words)

Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4309 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy and unorganised ?. My boyfriend is lovely. He treats me very well, but one thing i don't like is that his house is a mess a lot of the time and unorganised. He doesnt have a bed. He has been sleeping on the sofa and ... (322 words)

I've liked this guy for a long time but don't think he feels the same. Do I tell him or walk away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been attracted to this guy for quite a long time now, i think he knows it but i dont think he feels the same way about me. I used to speak with him online just as friends and really liked his personality, he was very deep and i just really enjoyed reading the kind of ... (260 words)

LDR has me not feeling as attracted to my b/f as I used to

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a boyfriend of 3 years and i love him dearly, we used to spend a lo of time together and even lived together for 6 months at one point but for the last 12 months we have been in a long distance relationship. we stay in contact and manage to visit each other when we ca... (161 words)

How can I help my husband have better communication skills?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4307 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I post this question if anione know of any service s that help with communication skills. My husband is a very nice man, and most of the time we get alone. The way he communicates with people around him and his customers needs improvement. He is a very detail oriented man. He ... (593 words)

Do sparks die down after a certain point in a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I just had this thought and it made me wonder,do sparks die down after a certain point in a relationship?do men get bored of their girlfriends?how do u maintain these sparks? I know some of you will say,if your in love it will never die down,but I think you need to get ... (71 words)

How can people have sex with the same person and not get bored?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

31 January 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - I am still a virgin so I have no knowledge of such things, but it seems to me that If I had sex with the same girl all the time then things would get very boring, kind of like watching the same movie over and over and over again. Assuming that neither of them is cheating, how ... (69 words)

Increasingly jealous and insecure for what reason? Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 21, my boyfriend is 26, we have been together for almost 2 years. He is *amazing* in bed, gives me many intense orgasms whereas he doesn't come easily (a woman's dream since it means he stays hard for a *while* without 'arriving') My question is, is his sexual "prowess"... (165 words)

What's the point in telling a guy you've fallen for him when you have no intention of taking things further?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4297 days ago

31 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi people, i'd just like to ask opinions on this matter. Basically I'm a 29 year old single male whose not going out of his way to look for a relationship, but open to one if the opportunity presents itself with a worthy candidate. A bit about myself - I'm a decent guy, I h... (590 words)

How can I stop torturing myself thinking about the night my b/f had sex with another girl

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. A year into our relationship we had some bad problems, mainly that my boyfriend hated the fact that I was friends with my ex and he became convinced I was going to cheat on him with him. (I never did not did I have even the littlest ... (444 words)

Over 3 years of dating we have lost alot of intimacy. Why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - So I have been with my girlfriend for a little over three years and she has lost alot of intimacy. I will be happy if we can steady have sex once a week but she always has am excuse. I find myself bagging for it and that's pathetic. What I'm asking is why would she lose so much ... (77 words)

Was my friend just trying to be silly or is there more to it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4309 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, Recently I made friends with a guy at work when I first arrived there him was nice to me offered me to have lunch with him and his friends stuff like that. He then Started to hit on me once I told him I had a bf he backed off and we became friends. Now I have a few mal... (255 words)

There is no contact inbetween our planning to set up a date. Is this normal?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I met a guy online and we met for coffee a few weeks ago. It was ok, there wasn't an instant connection but wasn't completely awful either. When we were leaving he told me if I wanted to do something to get in touch with him. I figured I had nothing to lose so a few days af... (234 words)

I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend and I wish I wasn't.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I need help or someone to talk to... I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend and I wish I wasn't. We've been broken up for 2 months but he is moving halfway across the country in a month, so we've been spending time with each other, acting like boyfriend and girlfriend, even... (206 words)

How do I handle girls flirting with my boyfriend in front of me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) age 36-40 - Hello aunts and uncles! My question is : how to hande girls flirting with my boyfriend in front of me? See, today I went to a bank with my boyfriend, we are very serious, and he really wants to be married and wants me to meet his parents. He is much more serious than m... (157 words)

I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4298 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but he has a g/f and I am married... (228 words)

I'm worried that my Bf is getting tired of me. He's even said he does not feel he "needs" to see me. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4307 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been really worried about my relationship lately, and really need some advice. I'm worried my boyfriend is getting tired of me, or if this is just normal for a relationship as it goes along? I don't know what to do. help please! I'll try to explain things best as I can... (816 words)

Should I apologize for saying that his friendship with this other woman makes me uncomfortable?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

31 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Aunts and Uncles, please advise: My guy has a married girl friend who is flying in to his city for a week, without her husband, just to hang out with my guy because she “misses him”. I don’t live with my guy yet, though we’ve been together for 4 years and are planning... (381 words)

How can I live more comfortably in this flat living with the kind of people I live with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Helloo, I'm having a problem that causes me a lot of stress and would appreciate advice on how to handle it. Please bear with me as I've just come out of a 'chat' which involves the problem. Thank you. At the moment, I'm living in a flat with my boyfriend and our friend... (655 words)

Why does my male friend who has a gf txt me every day

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - il try keep this short and sweet...... why would my male friend text me every day. We did have a drunken kiss at christmas and hes been texting me every day since, even tho he has a gf the last couple of yrs. I told him nothing will happen with us while he has a gf and he... (204 words)

Feeling unfair in a first relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Im having my first relationship ever at age 22 but my boyfriend (who is 23) had a long relationship before me which lasted about 5 years and the reason they broke up was because the girl broke it off, not him. We have been dating for about 3 months now and i lost my virgnity... (492 words)

How do I refocus & find out if I can continue to stay in my marriage.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been married for 16 hrs. I am 45 hrs old and have 2 boys with my husband. My husband works a day job as well as a 2nd shift job. I work in the morning part time and the rest of my time is devoted to my boys their schools and sports. My husband and I have no time ... (304 words)

My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 4309 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all saying she can have a man with ... (451 words)

Is her behavior normal? I feel like I'm being insensitive but at the same time I think she needs to help herself.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I guess I want to get people’s views on my breakup. I met this girl two weeks after a painful breakup. We connected and it just felt right, maybe all a bit too good. We dated for a while, and she told me she loved me after two weeks. She seemed to have a bit of a volatil... (1156 words)

My husband bought a necklace for a random waitress. I find it inappropriate, he thinks it's charity. Thoughts please.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4306 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age - Mod note: I added she was the waitress to make the question more clear. I found a receipt for a swarovski necklace in the sale in my husbands week day apartment. When I asked him about it, after a few laughs, he said that he goes to a chinese restaurant sometimes for lunch an... (134 words)

We had a sex but I don't want it to be just a one time deal. How do I talk to her about it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - This a simple one really...I'm 20, young guy, however unlike most guys my age I don't like "going out on the pull" or sleeping with lots of girls. In fact, I've only slept with 4 since I was 17 all but on relationships and never anything past kissing outside of one. My dilemm... (220 words)

He dumped me at the club over the weekend after 5 months. Now he wants to be friends. What's going on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4264 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend, 27, dumped me outside a club at 4am at the weekend. He said although he really liked me, after 5 months dating had realised he did not love me. To begin with though he said ' I was such an idiot earlier... before saying this. He was trying to hug me and talk ... (658 words)

Is it a waste of money to see an exhibition of my favorite band's pictures? Should I save my money to see them in concert?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this isn't much of a problem, but i would appreciate some advice. There will be an exhibition of photographs of my favourite band next month. I'm not sure if any of the band members will be at the opening night, but it's possible. One of them was at another exhibition in ... (137 words)

My fiancé wants to become a surrogate through artificial insemination for her friend. What do I say?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - This is going to be weird but here it goes. My fiance brought up a weird question to me. Her long time friend because of a health condition her window to have a child is closing fast. My fiance came to me and asked me how I would feel if she would become a surrogate through ... (152 words)

What is the time frame in moving on from a broken heart?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - How long it takes to move on from a broken heart in a relationship when you plan to stay single for some time (atleast a year or more) . A relationship which wasn't always perfect but it had its good sides! and how to make it easy to move on? ... (55 words)

An old coworker flirted with me and now I'm confused about my fiancée.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - currently engaged to "M" for 6 yrs. then a few mos ago i ran into co-worker "L" who i used to work with/flirted with (before i connected with "M"). i point out fiance "M" to "L" and "L" leans in and says "does your fiance know how lucky he is?" and smiles at me. i blush, turn ... (85 words)

Boyfriend can't keep it up and I'm ready to walk!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We came across a sex problem after about 6 mths. The problem was, he couldn't stay hard and we got into an about that aftet it happened several times cuz I was left hanging. Now, its getting worse. I know he had expe... (191 words)

Why is it an ex always looks better after a break up than when you were together?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Why is it when you've broken up with a girl, when you next see them they always look better than they did before? It's strange, the girl I used to go out with she has always been beautiful, but I ran into yesterday for the first time in a while and she looked even more beauti... (173 words)

Do you think she is avoiding me? It seems like a lot if effort and very silly in my opinion.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4264 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I ended things with a girl ages ago, it wasn't the best break up and I will be honest I didn't go about it the right way at all, I was kind of a coward and a careless asshole. But it has been well over a month since i have seen her, it's sad i know this but it's actually go... (310 words)

I hate that my boyfriend said his best vacation was with his ex! Should I be mad?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, we talked with my bf the other day about spending some summer vacation together. We want to go to the sea, because we haven´t been by the sea for a long time. My BF told me he was by the sea few years ago and it was the best, most amazing vacation. He didn´t tell... (117 words)

I need the strength to despise him for cheating on me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't know what to do. I'm 26, found out my boyfriend of 4 years has cheated on me 2 times, once each time with two different girls. He seemed so sweet and loving up until I just found this out. I have 100% concrete evidence, there's no doubt he did this. Obviously, t... (129 words)

A phone call shattered my world, find out husband had an affair. If I leave will it stop the pain?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4306 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi One evening I got a call from a girl saying to ask my husband who she is. I asked ... it is a work collegue who he has being having an affair with for 4 months. He said he ended it 1 month ago and didnt have sex. I believe him and he's promised not to see her or talk to h... (140 words)