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Archived questions from: 7 January, 2013 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm back with my ex but I'm not sure its a good thing

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Has too much happened to try again? I've been in realationship with now ex bf for 5 months. He really swept me off my feet, we have fun and are into the same things. The relationship has been full on virtually from the beginning. I'm a lone parent and he has been wonderful w... (429 words)

Finding it hard to connect and be myself with my boyfriend. Advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I feel really insecure with my new boyfriend. I've had 3 boyfriends in my entire life, i'm 15 and will be 16 in less than a month. My first boyfriend lasted for 9 months, and unfortunely he was just a fool, but once again unforutnely, he was the only one out ... (738 words)

Guys: Is the amount of xx's in a text an indication of how much you like someone?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Silly question but I'm intrigued...GUYS Is the amount of x's in a text an indicator of how much he likes you?? This guy I'm texting at the moment usually puts 3 x's... then less often 2 x's and then less often 1x and the least often 4x's. IMO he seems to put 1x wh... (126 words)

I don't know if we are on a break, or this is a break up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone , so me and my boyfriend were doing fine , I thought untill one day he decided to take "a break". He is a senior and works a lot and is spending a lot of time with his friends that are moving away for college along with dealing with scholarships, volunteer hours, ... (246 words)

When a relationship changes from LD to a regular relationship do you lose the excitement?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been in a relationship with a lovely guy for about 4 months now and I have fallen head over heels for him. He is so loving and caring and says I am the one thing that keeps him going. Up until now due to various issues such as work etc we have only been able to spend on... (344 words)

Just found out my boyfriend's ex is pregnant by him. Do I stay? Or go?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months goin on six...and just the other night he found out from a girl he dated before me she is pregnant...he told that he don't want the baby momma and loves me. An sees us with a future he don't want me to go no where. I just am confused ... (99 words)

Do you just know when you are with the right person?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Is it true that you 'just know' when you are with the right person? I know I love my boyfriend a lot but I sometimes feel that there is something missing, that we are maybe too different and that I don't know if I can see myself with him long term. At the same time I know I'd ... (172 words)

My boyfriend and cousin had sexual banter on facebook. Should I say something?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - got on my boyfrirends facebook and in his messages back and forth to my female cousin was dumb stuff like him flirting with her like she said i might stop by to see you next week when ill be in your area and he says you bringing the condoms or should i and she replies i just ... (113 words)

is it okay if you got married for one wrong reason as long as you also did it for the right reasons?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have heard people say before that you should only get married for "the right reasons", and that doing so for any other reason is wrong. While I agree with this, I can't help but think I got married for both the right AND wrong reasons. Let me explain: I had just turned 20, ... (696 words)

When do guys get mature?or does that never happen?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - It will be 4 years this year that i m with my current bf...in distance relationship. We ve been madly in love since we met n last fall i was supposed to move to his country n continue university there but since we didnt manage to do that,we blamed each other,argued a lot and ... (611 words)

BF asked me to tell his teenage daughter that she was dressed inappropriately but I don't feel it's my place! Thoughts?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone , I'm 25 my boyfriend is 37 and he has a 14 year old daughter. His childs mother lives in another state and his parents and himself raises her. His mom had a party for New Years and I went, I was extremely surprised when I saw his daughter because she basicall... (234 words)

What did he mean when he told me not to get too attached?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I've liked the same guy for almost 3 years now. He's a good friend as well. Basically the whole time of when I've liked him he's had girlfriends too though. Recently he just split up with his girlfriend whom he has been going out for for almost 2 years. In November 2011 (wh... (332 words)

Why does my BF go quiet for a few days after we've had sex? Does this mean he only contacts me when he's horny?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now and he has a habit which upsets me quite a bit. A lot of the time when we have sex he goes very quiet for a couple of days afterwards. He will text me regularly and call every night beforehand (sometimes up to a week due to ... (200 words)

Girlfriend cheated on me but I want her back! How can I persuade her I won't hold this against her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been in a relationship for last four years with my girl. We did everything except sexual intercourse. Recently, when she was drunk, some random guy took her from bar and it seems he had sexual intercourse with her. Now she feels that she is not worth for my love. She ... (121 words)

My boyfriend and his best female friend are too close for my comfort. What can I do?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My Boyfriend and his best friend are really close, too close for my own comfort zone, she texts him saying she loves him and he does the same, at all hours of the night at that. They are both really touchy with one another and it drives me crazy and makes me feel incredib... (270 words)

Self esteem is becoming an issue again. Any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Lately i've started to have real problems with my self esteem. I've always had a very low self esteem and have been working through the last few years trying to improve it, i've had couselling and all sorts, and self esteem has always been a very big issue for me. However d... (432 words)

Why is my boyfriend so convinced that my parents don't like him? How can I change this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend is 25 and he is convinced my parents don't like him. This is not true - I have obviously spoken to them about him many times and they think he is great and said they have never seen me so happy. Based on past boyfriends they would definitely tell me if they didn't ... (259 words)

Is my boyfriend using escort services again? Should I hire a private investigator or just end it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4307 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm struggling. The men among you might help me out... 3 years ago, I discovered my boyfriend (then of 7 years) had been visiting escorts. I found this out after becoming suspicious of his behaviour and after some crafty web-history analysis, I discovered reviews he had p... (406 words)

Husband spends his alone during the week watching porn, then expects sex on a plate at the weekends. Is this normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband and I are on two different work schedules so we only see each other for an hour or so a day until the weekend. During the week my husband just watches porn and then thinks that I am supposed to be available for sex all weekend. It makes me feel like porn gets his... (146 words)

I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?

This question has 32 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story short she would go after ev... (138 words)

My relationship doesn't seem to be moving forwards. I don't want to push him but should I keep on waiting for him to decide what he wants?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for nearly three and a half years. We lived together for about six months early last year but I left because he asked for space, so fair enough. But we have stayed in the relationship since. But I am looking to move into my own flat soon and s... (172 words)

He is being manipulated by another woman. How should I get him back?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - This is my story: I met a really great guy two years ago. We eloped too fast and talked about marriage too fast. The first problem started when I found out he had unfinished business with his ex girlfriend and was still communicating with her in another country. I threa... (613 words)

My BF is going through a rough time and is homeless. How can I comfort him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So this guy I've been seeing for a while is going through a bit of a rough time. Long story short, he's basically homeless right now, and it particularly sucks because he's very new to the area and he considered the people he lived with family. It's not the first time somethin... (204 words)

He blames me for everything. Any advice on how to alleviate the tension and reduce the stress in our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend says that I don't take responsibility for anything and that I blame him for everything. I personally feel the oppposite. He refuses to see when something IS his fault and immediately jumps on the "Oh, so I'm the bad guy" train. I love him very much and do not ... (311 words)

Why isn't this a relationship for him? I'm not a cheap bit on the side!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - hi cupids, need a little help. my OH and i have been together for a few months and im having concerns already. hes a nice guy but i feel like hes hiding me from his life a bit. we both have kids and have met eachothers kids but were not in a 'relationship' as such according to ... (185 words)

I'm worried my feelings may be part of a rebound?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - So iv known this girl for about 2 years and she lives not long away from me but last night I spoke to her for hours ( well ...all night... :L ) ... When she laughs I can't help but smile and imagine a gorgeous smile to go with it ... The problem is that another girl broke my ... (136 words)

I want sex more than my girlfriend and she told me I can have a F buddy

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - i'm in a relationship with a girl i love.my problem is i want sex too much.we do everything everywhere and have sex once everyday for at least two hours. sumtimes i have to masterbate a couple of times around this.she recently told me she wont say no to me but shes broken.she ... (118 words)

Worried I cant get pregnant when I'm older, help?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4332 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Had unprotected sex on 4 different occasions since I lost my virginity, I was really worried I'd get pregnant but I've just got my period like normal... Now I'm really worried that one day when I want kids I won't be able to have them?? Is there something wrong with me for n... (74 words)

I'm still having trouble accepting my boyfriend's past

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4305 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with a great guy for the last year...but I'm still having trouble accepting his past. He's the only guy I've even slept (or done anything sexual) with, but he has 4 exes that he's been with. I think about it everyday, wondering if he compares us or if they were ... (180 words)

How can I get my fat girlfriend to lose weight?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4333 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - MOD NOTE: This was original poster's chosen title... Hi all Ive been with my OH (other half) for nearly 4 years now - when we first met she was 196lbs at 5ft 10 and it didnt bother me much. I was still attracted. Now, she is 219lbs! and though she says she eats hea... (295 words)

Am I completely ruining my life? Do I need to stop drinking? Get help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've recently been doing a great job at ruining my life. After a horrific break-up with a recent ex, (we'll call him M) I've just managed to make a balls of my life at every open opportunity. After the relationship ended I was feeling quite fragile and decided to pursu... (395 words)

Girlfriend is chatting with a co-worker and has pet name for him. Am I right to be concerned?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4329 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Recently discovered my long time girlfriend has been heavily chatting with a distant (2 hrs away) coworker. She's been very secretive about the whole connection but somehow her texts got onto my iPad. In one exchange this guy (who is married) asked her if she was interested in ... (87 words)

Do white girls expect boys to propose first?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I want to know whether my Co-worker loves me.I am a south Asian.she is a white girl.Do white girls expect boys to propose first?Or am I mistaking her friendship towards me.But I heard once she was singing my name with hers.I never had a girl friend before.she always defends ... (166 words)

What is the key to happiness? Is it a sum of everything, or something specific (such as love)?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - They say you "can't find a home in the arms of a man", I suppose meaning that a man can't provide you happiness or be 'the big thing' of your life. I just wonder, what is the key to happiness if it isn't love (as in a relationship)? Is it a sum of everything, or s... (64 words)

I didn't give her the attention she wanted but now I'm not sure I can forget her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4329 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I am a south Asian man.Our family values are bit different.for example our family or few family members might be financially depended on us.Usually Indian men does not like his wife or GF get closer to other men.I like a white girl.But it was too late for me to understand that ... (131 words)

After 3 dates and a kiss he panicked. I don't want to lose him so what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4333 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - thank you for taking your time to read this.I am 24 years old and could do with some advice. I came out of a very messy controlling relationship 9 months ago after i left him i took this time to really focus on myself.i am notorious for messed up relationships. This time i p... (481 words)

Dream trip with my boyfriend ended badly. He wants to move back to his hometown and I can never see myself living there!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear all, Hoping for some advice. I've been with my partner for two years. We met in London, my home town, and live there together. I'm 35 and he's 33. This Christmas, we planned what was supposed to be a 'holiday of a lifetime' to Mexico City. This is his home town, and he... (320 words)

My boyfriend is hiding something from his past and won't talk to me about it

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4333 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - hii, im in relationship from 2 years ..My boyfriend is hiding something about his past... not regarding any relationship..its regarding his friends he had.. its 1st time v r being in relationship with each other.... but something which bothers him also... i have asked hi... (130 words)

How do I move forward knowing he has feelings for a close friend ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I have recently entered into a relationship been dating a few months and just had the couple talk a few days ago . Already having a few problems . When we were dating I kissed another guy when on vacation when it was New Year's Eve . When asked I said I didn't get with anyone .... (250 words)

How long did it take you to know you were in love (the first time)? And how long after that did you tell your significant other?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4329 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Here's just a general question for all of you out there: How long did it take you to know you were in love (the first time)? And for good measure, how long after that did you tell your significant other? I'm only curious because my boyfriend of exactly two weeks (officiall... (85 words)

I had an abusive ex but my current boyfriend is lovely. Why then, do I feel so overwhelmed when he says something nice or has an emotional moment with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F) age 30-35 - I was single for a year, my last relationship my ex was emotionally abusive to me, i was a scared of him, i was not allowed to have friends or go out.we worked at the same place and he would pick my shifts so they were with his. He would put me down all the time and i was never ... (258 words)

I have a boyfriend but I've been obsessing over this co-worker in my head. Is it because I miss "the chase"?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been dating my boyfriend for the last six years. We pretty much became adults together; we started dating after high school, went through college at the same time, and started our careers at the same time. We've shared everything together, including many firsts. We are ... (270 words)

Am I over thinking this? Or is this something that everyone else would be worried about too?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone! I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year now, we are both 18 and I have some worries. My girlfriend likes to go out and have fun, go clubbing, go to party's and what not and I really do get worried when she is out clubbing but not when she is at ... (369 words)

Do you think he just views this as a friendship? Or something more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I haven't met this guy, hes 20, Im 18..we don't know each other that well. We briefly talked on the phone one night for like 10 min because he was at my friends place and he wanted to help me out with this family issue i called my friend for, he overheard it and asked to talk ... (323 words)

Is my ex just playing a game with me? Or deep down might he actually have some feelings for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - My ex and i had had the longest conversation recently, since we broke up. Word got around that he likes this other girl now. But he told me how he still has had sexual thoughts for me, not her, but me. I questioned why me instead of her. He told me that he never really tal... (196 words)

He thinks of me as his little sister but I love him. What do I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4307 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - This summer I met a guy at a camp (he was one of the staff) and we really get on well. I'm 15 and he's 22. We lived together in a residence with some other few people. He calls me his little sister, so I call him by big brother. I know he cares about me as if I was his real ... (146 words)

He left me when he found out I was pregnant so why is still hanging around and letting me know he's around?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4335 days ago

7 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm married and I fell for a guy i worked with (whom I thought was super sweet) without even knowing what was happening. He made me feel like we could be friends and that I could trust him to be mature enough to talk to about somethings i was going through in marriage. While I ... (345 words)

Girlfriend went off of her medication and changed. Now I feel needy like I need medication!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

7 January 2013 (M)

age - I was introduced to this woman 4 months ago and we instantly hit it off. Our conversations were long and in depth. There was a connection I have never felt with anyone before.. physically, spiritually, emotionally and we both made a comment that it was very refreshing. We both ... (425 words)