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writes:Hi,Recently I made friends with a guy at work when I first arrived there him was nice to me offered me to have lunch with him and his friends stuff like that. He then Started to hit on me once I told him I had a bf he backed off and we became friends.Now I have a few male friends and although they do silly stuff run up behind me and pick me up and we hug they never get to close out of respect for my bf. Now this guy at work is quite fun but the other day after a fire drill he grabbed my hand an said come on Sam lets walk her back to class, the kids laughted and there were members of staff watching.Then a child started singing that song about two people sitting in a tree, but as this has happened before I figured he would say the same to the kid again that no I don't love him and that he shoud not l sing that, but he didn't he just said at least it's a variation at which point we went our separate ways.Now when I told my guy friends they were surprised and were like he just wants to get something but I really don't know?Any ideas on what this could mean? Was he just being silly or was it something else?
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reader, R1 +, writes (3 February 2013):
 If it makes you feel uncomfortable then that's enough. Have a quiet word with him and say what you said to us - you only like your boyfriend acting like that. Most people are reasonable and will back off if asked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has already got touchy freely but I was under the pretence we were friends, he hugs me a lot several times daily, I know you're all thinking that I'm probably over reacting but I suppose I don't want things to get out of hand. Thanks for the comments
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reader, R1 +, writes (2 February 2013):
It's difficult to stop men saying stuff like that though as it isn't offensive (it's actually a compliment), I think you can only really say something when he properly crosses the line - tries to touch you etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the comments, think I have confirmed he likes me as today he walked past and told me I looked gorgeous.He has never made me feel uncomfortable as it seemed like harmless flirting and he is friendly with everyone. However today he crossed a line even though it was a complement I feel only my bf should say that.My problem is I'm too much of a pushover and find it hard to be firm with people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2013): He could be trying to get your attention, or he could really like you. Either way, if you care about your relationship with your boyfriend, you need to set boundaries because he will push his way into your personal space until you set them.
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reader, R1 +, writes (31 January 2013):
I'm confused do you work in a school?
Are you uncomfortable about his behaviour as you have a boyfriend?
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