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Archived questions from: 26 January, 2013 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Porn haters, what would you do in this dilemma?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I am female who hates porn in a relationship first off but I have a dilemma.... Porn haters what would you do in my situation... Go back to the guy who was viewing artistic porn with the sound off and didn't give it up until I ask for a ultimatum within 3 weeks of know... (138 words)

Why isnt he making any steps for us to live together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey dearcupid.org,this is what bothers me...I ve been with this guy 4 long in distance relationship,and this year it will be 4 years that we re doing it... Last year we were supposed to start living together,n me to move to his country,cause we decided it was better option,b... (317 words)

Searched signs of cheating on the internet and she's hitting them all. What should I do or think? She's done it in the past.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

26 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - do you think because shes cheated and dumped me numerous times for other guys n a girl in the past that she could be hiding it and doing it still weve talked about the past and i still am hurt from the facts of the past, hell i might have a complex or somthing from it all, i ... (106 words)

First he hates me, now he's friendly - how should I understand it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I’m a young gay guy and a student. One of my coursemates is a really sexy guy, unfortunately straight. Although even if he would be gay, I would have no chance, because he’s really hot, like a film star. The bad thing is that he’s apparently a homophobe. He loves to laugh about ... (389 words)

Caught fiancee cheating whilst I was pregnant now I am sleeping with his boss

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4307 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my now EX fiance where dating for 1 and a half years and i became pregnant and we were excited but 6 months into my pregnancy i came home early from my part time job as i wasn't feeling to good so i come home and i hear him shouting out my friends name and ...needless to ... (212 words)

Confused. I don't know if he's cheating, or is going to leave me, and why has he now stopped communicating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Confused: I'll begin by saying I've been with my man for 7/years he recently came home from prison almost 2/years ago, 3/13 will be 2/years! I cheated while he was in prison w/ another man for like 3/months! That fling was over in oct/2010! Ever since he has been out; we've ... (323 words)

Move on, but how? Lingering in the past... Guilt?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

26 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - hi I need help regarding my relationship. Just be fair and honest.. I had been in a relationship with a girl for over 3 years which ended recently but I still think of her. she was my first girlfriend n spending long time really made me fancy n love her deeply but ther... (541 words)

Is her faith a problem for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, My name is Cody and this is my fist time on dearcupid. I'm a college student, English major, and I have been seeing another English major from my class. We seem to have a lot in common, we can talk openly, she is the kind of woman I go for. We both have little ... (349 words)

What seems to be the problem with this relationship as we argue about many things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, here's my situation. I'm 19 about to turn twenty and my girlfriend is 17 just about to be 18. We have been together 2 years now. We live 56 miles away, about an hour and 15 minute drive apart. Lately we seem to argue a lot. Everyone of my friends, family, and recently... (1000 words)

Should I break up with him or find a way to make this relationship work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi!! My bf and I have had a lot of problems in the course of our relationship. He is 22 and I´m 20. We´ve been together for two years, and he has become overly controlling, he tries to control every second of my time, gets angry when I wear something that according to him is r... (313 words)

My boyfriend is another woman's 'back up guy' in case they're not married by 40! How would you feel about this?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear All, How would you act if your boyfriend told you he was another girls back up guy and if there both still 40 they would get married as his rich and reliable? I feel this is disrespectful and it"s upset me but he can't see why? Opinions please. X x ... (58 words)

New boyfriend, new problems.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - A couple of months after I was dumped by my ex, I began a relationship with Mr New. He's tall and handsome, but the thing that I was attracted to first was how we could talk to one another. This relationship started about a year ago... beginning of 2012. It's had it's ups and ... (953 words)

I'm bisexual and in love with my best friend. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have known her for 8 years from way back in high school ...I am a bisexual. I have always felt strangly drawn to her ....and her to me....while I have been open to my feelings, she has been shy about it. I try, have pecked her ...tried to cuddle when we are in bed together... (232 words)

Was my boyfriend's gesture and behaviour strange in this situation?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Recently my boyfriend (who makes an excellent living) brought me a bouquet of flowers. They were the grocery store variety and the price tag that he left on the cellophane said $7. He came to my front door with said flowers still in the plastic bag from the grocery, handed ... (174 words)

Now I'm in a better place with my life back on track, Should I try to explain to my former friends that I was ill when I did the things that broke up the friendships?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Sorry this is so long but I really need you to see all the facts. I am 27 and I was raped when I was 19. I was living at university at the time, and the man who did it to me was someone I trusted. In fact, at one point I even thought we might have been heading towards a ... (1039 words)

I'm married but it's a LDR. I cheated with a friend who's also married. I don't want to break up our marriages. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I need some advice. I've been in a long distance relationship for about 5 years. We've seen each other every 5-6 months for about one or two months. Got married a few months ago and now living apart again. This will keep continuing for about 2 more years because of our j... (299 words)

Is looking at porn the morning after you've slept with your girlfriend, a bit odd and uncalled for?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4309 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Would anyone else agree with this? Looking at porn the morning after you've slept with your girlfriend is a bit odd and uncalled for? Why would they want to look at someone else that soon?... (36 words)

Ex boyfriend called after 4 years! Do I phone him back?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Today i received a missed call from my ex boyfriend. I haven't seen him since end of 2008! When we were together, i did lend him money (one of the things i regret the most and never do that now!) and i have never got it back. I'm confused why he phoned me after all this time. ... (131 words)

I feel completely heartbroken, I'd accepted that we had broken up but to be lied to repeatedly just for sex?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4298 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - This all happened within the space of three weeks. So, basically I was in a relationship with this guy for just over two years, we both loved each other but obviously argued occasionally, as people do. One day, he calls me to have a chat, everything is normal, then he drops th... (770 words)

Is it ever good to meet up and talk with a guy who you were dating but it ended abruptly with?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - do you think it's ever good to meet up and talk with a guy who you were dating but it ended abruptly with? I was dating this guy for half a year just over and all of a sudden his ended things without a word, I know a lot of guys who do this because they think it's easier and ... (364 words)

I think my husband has an std, is it safe to have sex using a condom?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

26 January 2013 (?) age 36-40 - hello everybody i have a problem with my husband i think he has some std but refuses to go to doctor, is it safe to have sexual intercourse with him using condoms. and can i take his precum sample or sperm sample to test it in lab. if he not willing to go and visit the doct... (107 words)

When we're together I'm fine, when we're apart I'm insecure

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of months now and I've continually run into somewhat of an issue, and I can't tell if it's just me or not. When we are together in person, everything is AMAZING. I can tell how much she cares and it's written all over her. she ge... (365 words)

I want my ex back, he wants to be friends

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend dumped me last night and it was only the day before he was lookin at houses with me and saying he thought we were heading for a full relationship . A little bit of history behind us is that we met last year and I was ready with my ex of 10 years who I was unhappy ... (276 words)

Would be cute to frame her written acceptance note, and give it to her as a valentine's gift?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - so i have a basic question about whether or not a valentine's idea is cute or not. my gf and i have only been together officially for a few weeks now (been dating a couple months, but just made it official), and when i asked her to be with me, i wrote her a little note tha... (193 words)

Why do men never seem to notice when a woman is being too friendly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Why do men never seem to notice when a woman is maybe being to friendly? I hate how when I say something in that moment , that I may be viewed as crazy or jealous. I know I walked in the house today and a girl I never met had her hand on my boyfriends shoulder and she was ... (183 words)

I think my girlfriend is on the verge of breaking up with me. Help! What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - help!!!!! My girlfriend and I are on the edge of a breakup... We’ve been dating a little over 2 years I think something happened in her life because her entire personality seems to have changed in the past month She went home for holidays and at first she was like... (1272 words)

Why is it that I've never ended up with a boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey So I'm 22 and I'm pretty, smart; I dress well, I love doing what I do etc etc But I haven't had a single boyfriend till now. I've had people like me...many people. But it's never been mutual. And they always turn out to be creeps or semi creeps. All the nice guys just d... (190 words)

Why has my older LDR friend started being distant? I feel like he is giving me the "cold treatment"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am just very confused right now. I met a guy few months ago who is a bit older than I am and he seemed to be really interested to me. Initially, I was not into him but after going out with him and I got to know him a bit, I started to like him. After few more months, I r... (433 words)

Our relationship is secret, but I want to spend more time with my Gf. How can I keep my job, and the respect of my boss and still see her daughter?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Me and my girlfriend are in a secret relationship because we work together and not allowed to date. I should also mention she is my bosses daughter. We only get to see each other about once a week for an occational movie. How can I spend more time with her without making it ... (63 words)

Now my girlfriend wants to breakup, all because I looked at a girl's cleavage. Is she being unreasonable?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - My girlfriend wants to break up with me because I glanced at a girl's cleavage. There was nothing sexual about it and I wasn't looking for anything. I don't know how to convince her that this isn't a big deal. Advice?... (41 words)

My boyfriend is unemployed and taking it out on me. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend is currently unemployed. He was working, but his contract finished at the end of last year. He was employed on a contract so he knew it was going to end. He has been out of work for a few weeks, and its not the best time to find work and he is in rather specif... (399 words)

What can I do? My husband talks about this woman he works with all the time. Yet he can't take two minutes to speak to me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - When my husband is at work he can't take two minutes to talk to me on the phone but I hear from his co-workers that he is in their offices and about all the good times they have. I told him it hurts my feelings that he can't give me the time of day but then I hear things l... (157 words)

How can I learn to accept that I may never have a boyfriend? They don't even show interest.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm not really the type of girl that guys like. Nor do guys show any interest, in me which is fine. I do get lonely at times despite having friends and an otherwise happy or successful(to me at least) life. I keep telling myself that it will happen one day but I know it very ... (98 words)

What does friends with benefits mean to you?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a question for you lovely people.. Me and my ex stopped talking for a long time all of a sudden he missed me ( so he says) he asked me did I wanna be friends with benefits and told me I can't sleep with nobody but him... What is friends with benefits in yalls opinion?... (57 words)

I have a boyfriend but I like to flirt with other boys. Is this wrong?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone. I find myself in a difficult situation. I've just got my first boyfriend, and i really really like him. However i find myself flirting with other guys quite a lot, and i've recently found out that this guy likes me, and starting to feel like i like him back al... (144 words)

How importants are breasts to a man

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I was wondering what the general male opinion on boobs is- how big is too big? is there a limit? are small boobs really that bad? how important are they to a mans sexual arousal? Thanks... (43 words)

If someone you liked told you not to get in touch would it be really hard not to?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

26 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I met someone recently and we spent the night together, it was really great. I know he likes me but I am not ready to get involved with him so I told him not to text or call me. Now I regret it even though I don't want anything serious, and am wondering if telling him not to ... (98 words)