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writes:Why is it when you've broken up with a girl, when you next see them they always look better than they did before?It's strange, the girl I used to go out with she has always been beautiful, but I ran into yesterday for the first time in a while and she looked even more beautiful! I don't know how that could be possible, I did notice she's changed her hair colour and it's grown a lot longer. So this could be why, but i don't think it was.. Because even her face just looked so much more beautiful. It did make me look at her and miss her and think I was an idiot for letting her go.But yeah, I keep thinking about her now? Has anybody ever had this and can somebody explain why a person always looks better to you after you're no longer with them anymore..... i'm sure this has happened to people, but i can't understand the reason behind it?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 January 2013):
 when relationships end it's usually a good time for change... folks can focus on themselves so diet and exercise happen... and of course mourning the loss leads to weight loss... so it's a jump start..
then for women a new hair color and style can perk you up...
just remember the inside is still the same..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2013): The main thing I'm thinking, apart from she's changed her appearance a little, (as people do after a beak up as a symbol of a new person, new start) is that she probably looks happier and stress free within herself now that the problems you were both having in the relationship are no longer a burden. Beauty isn't all about what's on the outside, it also shines from within. Whatever problems you were having leading up to the beak would likely have over shadowed what attraction you had to her, and you failed to see her for the beautiful person she is. Now you're seeing the beautiful person you once had and feel like a pratt for letting her go.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (30 January 2013):
IT’s probably because you just forgot quite how attractive she was to you. I’m not suggesting you stopped thinking she was beautiful when you were together, but perhaps took that for granted? It’s normal for that to happen in a relationship. Maybe now it’s over and you don’t see her much, it’s a reminder of the fact that you found her desirable.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (30 January 2013):
 HI
This happens a lot. What happens is when your together you get so used to eachother sometimes you forget what attracted you to them in the first place, as it can become a habbit. So when you don't see them for quite a while BAM..you see what you lost because you were blind to it from habbit. Also women have this inner ability to blossom from a breakup, loose weight, look better, because she no longer has to worry about not getting enough ettention any more, as she is single and not in a dead end relationship she will be happier, and this shows very well to other potential partners. ( not saying that this is the case to you ) as I don't know how your relationship was together.
hope this helps
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2013): we girls usually need to get over the break up trying to make some changes..we start excercising,go out more,and usually always we change our haircut or haircolour..it´s like giving the new life the chance and leave everything from the past behind..that means also the old look.
and if you feel like you´re missing your ex just because she looks better, it´s a little superficial,don´t you think?
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