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writes:Hello,I got back with my ex of 6 months January, after finding out that he had never broken up with his ex of two years. He felt really guilty and kept saying how sorry he was. He was being really lovely and paying me lots of attention. Everything seemed to be going really well, until he met up with his ex last weekend. It was the first time they had met up and she basically yelled at him for lying and cheating. Nothing else happened (I'm in contact with her), but he came to me the next day and said he had issues and some space to deal with them. He said he didn't want to break up but of course I said I couldn't wait around for him. It turns out that the two main issues are: 1. He loves his ex: he says if the feelings were diminishing it would be fine but they're not. 2. He feels so guilty about cheating. However, he says he thinks we are great, that he is so happy with me, and he thinks we are really compatible. He feels we could have an amazing relationship if he didn't have these issues. We've decided to give each other some space for a month, but I can tell that part of him hopes that if the issues are resolved, we could get back together. To tell the truth so I do!How can I still feel this way?? I know I can't wait in hope but I love him so much. How do I get over this?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (1 February 2013):
 I "see" two girls who are being played by ONE guy.... and you (the girls) stand to get hurt whilest this Lothario gets off scot-free.....
Both of you can do yourselves favors by staying away from this guy and considering other guys. This one is good only for a lot of drama that has the potential to result in angst and heartbreak for any girl (like the two of you) who "falls" for him... Leave that to the other girls...
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2013): It's ok to feel this way and still love him, but he is just using you. To get over him won't be easy, but it will be worth it. Go out and mingle alittle, talk to other people, and most importantly forget about him. I know you can do it, I have faith!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2013): Take the month apart. Have no contact what so ever with each other. Agree a date and time to meet up after the month is up. Meet somewhere like a cafe. If he doesnt turn up or is still not sure then cut your lose and call it a day.
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reader, llifton +, writes (31 January 2013):
 you're seriously considering waiting around for this guy? really? he's in love with another girl and wanting to get back together with her, and keeping you on the back burner in case it doesn't work out. you're option number 2. plan B. please don't allow him to have this space. that aside, he's proven himself already to be a deceitful liar. he lied to you both. so he isn't deserving of either of you.
dump him now. tell him you're not waiting around for him. because all he's doing right now is pursuing this other girl because he loves her, and if that doesn't work out, then he'll come back to you. he's your number 1. you're his number 2. don't let that happen to you.
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