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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Does my best friend love me back or not?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4325 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Well, I'm really desperate right now and I could really use your help, so thanks to everyone who will take time to read and answer me. I've been best friends with this really handsome hot guy for two years now. In time, I started falling for him, the problem is I don't know ... (554 words)

I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me five years ago. It's ruined everything!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend had cheated on me when we first started seeing each other with some girls from his university and he chose to tell me at the start of last month. We thought I was pregnant so he said he needed to tell me before the result. I wasnt pregnant. I agreed to let it go ... (119 words)

How do you tell someone that the girl he fell in love with doesn't exist?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - How do you tell someone that the girl they fell in love with doesnt exist. It wasnt meant to turn out this way. I never wanted him to fall for me, but he has. Now we are meant to meet up tuesday and i cant becasue the girl he.l fell for is a fake. Ive tried.so hard to tell him ... (116 words)

I'm scared my boss will retaliate if I start dating my supervisor!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3364 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - At my job, I have several admirers but its ok since they are for the most part gentlemen and dont harass me or anything. Now, one of my supervisors "Joe" has liked me from day one. We have a crazy-cool rapport but he has told me straight-up that we cant date and hes no good for ... (266 words)

When do these things calm down and do relationships like this tend to last?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - How long do relationships tend to take to calm down? Alot of people say people that focus everything on their new gf/bf and spend all their time with them have an unhealthy relationship as they are isolated from friends. I do believe this is true and I could never do it myse... (234 words)

What does our star alignment say about us?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - A few months ago a man asked me out. I originally said yes but when I found out how old he was I said we could be friends. I am ten years older than he is. We have since started dating and the relationship is going well. I still worry about the age gap but it does not pose an ... (110 words)

I lied to my GF about how old I was when I lost my virginity. Should I tell her the truth?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Basically me and this girl have been having sex and now are getting more serious. She asked me when i lost my virginity and because I was embarrassed i lied and said when I was 19 when really i had lost my virginity at the age of 23 with my ex girlfriend. I feel really bad ... (96 words)

My boyfriend is holidaying with a past FWB!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is going on a holiday in a mixed group, including the girl he cheated on his last girlfriend with. To be fair, he booked this holiday while we were on a short break (we've been together 15 months); though he paid for it a few weeks after we were back together. ... (397 words)

Do you think he is interested in me or just being friendly? We haven't met yet, so what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have never ever felt this way about someone before. I don't believe in lovey stuff like that. But this guy... He's like me, and like the kind of guy I would dream about meeting. Here's what has happened so far: So I called my friend one night with a little problem, and she... (302 words)

My family just don't get me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay , first off i'll tell you the good part. My family have always taken me on days out , bought me treats and treated me well , but i dont think they truly understand me. My elder sister makes fun of my weight (Which I Am INCREDIBLY Sensitive About) , my taste in music , ... (264 words)

Tell me what his body language and behaviour mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello and good day. This guy I know for many years, hugs me sideways, and rest the side of his face on top of my head. I had my hand around his waist and his hands was around my shoulder. Then when I was about to walk off, he got a hold of my upper arm to say something to... (933 words)

If I make another attempt at conversation, would it just be desperate? Or should I ignore it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently I asked to meet up with an old friend from high school that I used to have a crush on, pretty sure he felt the same at the time. I have known him for about 5+ years, but we lost touch after h.s.(have not really talked in a couple of years) until I texted him and we ... (210 words)

Why, after 23 Years am I having trouble over this? My view of my wife is shattered

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 4322 days ago

2 January 2013 (M)

age - so after 23 years of being married this question has come up. Why now I don’t know. Before I met my wife, she had a boyfriend in in high school. They waited until after graduation to have sex. While she was at collage he cheated on her. I met her 11 months later. I knew ... (359 words)

I have a very bitchy mother-in-law who refuses to let go of her son's umbilical cord

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a very bitchy mother in law who refuses to let go of her son's umbilical cord !!!! She came to live with us last to last summer and made my life a living hell. To this day those memories keep haunting me! I have talked to my husband abt it, he understands n had tried be... (211 words)

Do we go on with our family life as is and very rare sex? How do I fix this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. I am sure this is a common question on here but I will ask anyway because I am really depressed about the situation. Here goes…I’m 37 and wife is 38. We have been married for 12 years and have three awesome kids, 10, 6 and 4. My wife and I both work full time ... (542 words)

I can't get these images of his getting lap dances (before we were married) out of my mind!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4329 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am upset abt the fact that my husband (then boyfriend) got fully nude lap dances at gentlemans clubs/strip bars at least 6-8 times before we were married. Although we were living in different places at the time n it was an on off thing, but we were still committed in a way! ... (237 words)

Cheating and guilty men?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I understand that both men and women can have the possibility to cheat and some act on that. My question is directed towards men. Do men who cheat, specifically married men, actually feel guilty for what they are doing? And if they do, where most likely is their guilt... (68 words)

He's 30 and my parents hate him. How do I tell my parents I want to marry him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4330 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Please dont judge. all i want is advice and hear what you think. First of all I am 18 years old, and i am going out with a guy that is 12 years older than me. We have been dateing for about 9 months. you should know that My parents HATE this guy. But they dont know tha... (267 words)

I believe it's just lunch. But why not tell his partner that he goes to lunch with women sometimes? Is it cheating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Ok, this is my question. If a man that you are in a serious relationship with does not tell you that he is having lunch dates with different women (strickly as friends) is that cheating? He always mentions his lunch dates with men, but for some reason he forgets to mention the ... (142 words)

All of his feelings for me came pouring out but I don't feel the same, so he expects us to carry on like normal! What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So a while ago i posted a question, which asked whether or not a guy and a girl could actually be friends without it being compromised by physical attraction or it ending up in one or the other falling for the other. I asked this based on a friendship i had with a guy, so sure ... (319 words)

My friend's boyfriend tried to kiss me but now claims it was my fault, and my friend believes him over me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello. I have a really close group of female friends and have been.since school age really. I moved over here when i was 13 as my mum and dad divorced and she remarried my stepfather, and he moved to ireland for work reason. Anyway i was really lonely and this one girl became ... (308 words)

I had sex with a random guy to get over my ex and now I feel so ashamed....

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my boyfriend, first love, and the guy i lost my virginity to a few weeks ago and i still feel incrediblely heart broken. I went to a party and drunk loads to try and forget about it and ended up having sex with a random guy. I feel so so so so so ashamed of ... (96 words)

Boyfriend is overly friendly with another girl, now he's travelling miles away to visit her and has booked a double room......is he cheating?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi Aunts and Uncles, I'm in a bit of a predicament with my partner right now and I have no idea what to do. We have been dating for five months, almost six, I really like this guy and we spend loads of time together but he met a girl at a festival before he met me last year... (209 words)

He lied about sleeping with someone while we were apart and it has broken the trust in our relationship, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, To begin with, I'm in a relationship for like 3 months now, and I've been with that same guy in a relationship 2 years until we broke up in 2011. So we got back together, obviously. Things went very good, we get along extremely well and we were enjoying ou... (278 words)

I am attractive to men so why don't they ever approach me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Please don't take this in a wrong way and call me conceited and superficial,I'm putting the problem as it is.. I am 23 year old woman, and by god's grace I have the charm, personality, the beauty.. I can walk into a room and have men look at me, till I reach the end.. But t... (89 words)

Does my BF have to wear a condom? I'm on the pill, and neither of us has STIs.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - So i've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we've talked about having sex when I stay at his at end of this month. Thing is, he doesnt want to use a condom. He has been checked and has no std's and neither do I. I'm also on the pill. Is it ok not to use one? Everything I ... (67 words)

Are his reasons for keeping it casual and unofficial valid?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing this guy for a little over 6 months. We were boyfriend and girlfriend until the end of November when he broke up with me. He said he wanted to break up because he's too stressed because he got fired from his job and he needed to focus on finding a job and bett... (365 words)

Why does my wife pull away from me when I want her this bad?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - So I posted not so long ago a question because my wife just doesn't ever have sex with me, she may maybe one every other month use to be once a month but anyway yah thats still an issue, but we've talked about it. We do have a 5 month old and stuff but that's not my question... (337 words)

I like this guy I work with but don't know if he feels the same.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey all! I share an office room with a colleague of mine. He joined our company in August, he is the son of one of the CEOs of the company. We didn't speak much during the first few weeks but once we started talking, we got along like a house on fire. He's friendly and talks to ... (496 words)

My BF has been messaging another girl for 2 months. What should I do?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I'm on here because I don't quite know what to do. I just found out yesterday on New Year's Day that my boyfriend has been messaging some girl, trying to get into her knickers for the past 2 months. The girl in question sent me the proof. I'm now stuck as to what to do, I... (124 words)

Am I being used for sex? Is this love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like I'm being used for sex, but the only time we ever spend time with each other is arguments of me not loving him, not being attracted to him that why I'm not always wanting sex. Today first time in like for never he says I'm not emotionally there for him, now I li... (453 words)

He watches porn, there's talk of threesomes and dominance. What's wrong with this relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So my bf is always stating that I want threesome and I tell him I don't and I never wanted it when it was offered. But he refuses to believe me or pulls some other guy outta the air and says I want it with him. It's so hurtful n annoys annoying, I want to slap him but I don't ... (464 words)

Do I have any say since we've broken up emotionally? Does it seem very sly what he's doing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - We have been together 6 years im 46 hes 44 we have not had sex in 2 yrs we decided to call it quits but we stay together only for financial reason, until we get our money in order for the next 6 months anyway. I have found him talking to someone he knows in private messagi... (119 words)

Our Families are close. So how do I cut my ex out of my life? He still wants sex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - He told me a couple months ago he was coming to my state to see his father and wanted to see me. This gave me anxiety because he made sex comments on Facebook a few weeks earlier. He has been trying to get to me for years!! We have a very messy and complicated past... (243 words)

What alternative actions would help? Will my tough love response help my daughter recognise the problems she appears not to see?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (M)

age - I am a 62 year old semi retired man living in a Mediterranean island. My daughter of 35 lives in Ireland with her partner. They have a daughter of 2 years. Both are unemployed and living on the dole. I have so far supported my daughter to pay her mortgage mainly to ensure th... (221 words)

Is having a threesome a good idea to spice up our sex life?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I'm 23 year old turning 24 in 2 months..I'm married to this gorgeous man I love and everything is going great,but we always need something to spice up our sex life.rather I need something to spice up our sex life..so I decided to suggest a threesome!!I haven't ... (82 words)

My family disapprove. I broke up with him. He said he will wait for me. what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am a teacher by profession. I met a guy through facebook. he is 28 and a MBA. He has a good job. We started chatting and after 6 months we met each other and realised we love each other. We both live in India we belong to the same religion and community in India. when i t... (188 words)

The psychic has poisoned me against my lover, and I'm a believer in self-fulfilling prophecies!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am perfectly, ecstatically happy with my boyfriend. We've been together for eight months, and have learned how to open up, how to love, how to communicate, so many "how"s, and we absolutely adore each other. We're compatible emotionally, physically, sexually, spiritually, and ... (801 words)

My husband watches porn while I am at work.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

2 January 2013 (F) age 51-59 - I have been with my husband for three years marrird for two.I am very depressed .my husband watches porn while I am at work.He doesnt work or do anything around the house.I tried to talk to him about this but he days he doesnt have a problem.He lies to me sayd he doesnt go on ... (103 words)

Where would I find more information on how to french kiss?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay , one day my boyfriend and i tried to make out for the first time and it was going well until he stuck his tongue in my mouth and I got so nervous and pushed him away . What do I do ? How do you French kiss ? I'm so nervous and when we see each other again as he wants to... (104 words)

I keep crushing on straight girls. How can I move on and find someone I might actually have a chance with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4341 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a problem. I always seem to fall for people I have zero chance of being with like my close straight girl friends. I allow myself to fall even when I understand I have no chance. But here I am for the second time I find myself unable to keep my mind from thinking ab... (166 words)

Broke up with him due to his halitosis and very bad personal hygeine. Can or should or how do I tell him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, So I have this issue with this guy I dated almost four years ago. See I broke up with him because he had bad breath and is hygiene was not the best in the world. We stayed for him again but I don't want to say anything because I'm not sure if he still has bad hygiene. Wh... (83 words)

I do not like the fact that my B/f was previously engaged and shared so many great memories with his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a boyfriend who was with a woman for 7 years they were engaged (I do not know for how long). Anyways, their relationship was mainly long distance with her in Europe and him in the U.S. He would basically fly to Europe to be with her multiple times throughout the year and ... (249 words)

Rebound. Do I find a way to stop loving him? Or do I hold on and suffer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I was a friend to my ex for a year before he discovered that his wife had betrayed him and they proceeded very quickly to end the marriage. Of course, he ran to me as a shoulder to cry on and, slowly, things developed into more after the divorce. Both of us were well aware ... (870 words)

He's been unreliable multiple times.I want to get him back. Do you think I can? and how?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - So here's the situation. I started at a new school this semester (in September). It's a professional school so all the students in it range from about 22 to 26. Halfway through the semester, I met a guy and we really hit it off. We decided to start something purely physical... (755 words)

We had a secret kind of relationship. Should I wait for him to come to his senses?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I began hooking up with my guy friend not too long ago. It was a secret kind of relationship because it wouldn't have been accepted by one of our friends who is in love with the guy I was hooking up with. Our hooking up didn't just start up out of no where.. we met a litt... (387 words)

Can a relationship work when age, tastes and especially nationality are so different and the language between you both is limited?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a thing for my work mate and things have happened between us in the past, a kiss here and there, flirting ect. But we have a lot of differences between us, he is almost 28 and I'm just 22, things like our music taste is completely different and the types of clothes ... (343 words)

I am genuinely not physically happy, but my partner gives me everything else I need. What do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

2 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I am genuinely not physically happy, but she gives me every thing else I need. Security, love, and compassion are what she encompasses, but she lacks the intimacy and sexual fulfillment that I long for. I honestly don't know what happened, I mean I cannot climax with her. She ... (199 words)

I feel destroyed, stupid and confused over someone I used to be friends with.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I really need help dealing with an old friend. I feel destroyed, stupid and confused over someone I used to be friends with. For the past two and a half years since I last saw and spoke to him, I constantly think about him and stalk his Facebook. But my stupid stalking has led ... (201 words)

I don't enjoy sex with him! Is there a way to work through this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - When my boyfriend and I got together, it had been 3 years since my last boyfriend, and even longer than that since I had last had sex. Since we started having sex, I just don't enjoy it, he can't make me orgasm unless there's tons of foreplay before hand, and I hate to give ... (165 words)

My online love interest said we weren't just going to be bed buddies!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

2 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone, I started internet dating and first person I spoke to was really nice, we spoke for a long time and he said wasn't looking for just bed buddy but a relationship. Ended up sleeping together, thing is he seems to be treating me like a casual :* and ^ buddy, ... (103 words)

Her 19yr old daughter is meddling in our relationship!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

2 January 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - Ok, so here's my situation. I dated this girl for about a year and half. We had alot of great days together and also a lot of problems as well. Last January we bacame engaged. Soon after that our problems got worse. Our problems were mainly focused in two areas. Parentin... (312 words)