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writes:I met a guy online and we met for coffee a few weeks ago. It was ok, there wasn't an instant connection but wasn't completely awful either. When we were leaving he told me if I wanted to do something to get in touch with him. I figured I had nothing to lose so a few days after that I got in touch and asked him if he wanted to hang out again. He suggested a date but I already had plans so I suggested an alternative date. He agreed saying we will confirm the date as it gets closer. Here's where I'm confused. In between the first meeting, me getting in touch, a few days always goes by where we are not taking at all. A couple days have passed since I last talked to him about making plans and he hasn't tried to keep in touch. It's just silence until its time to finalize plans. Is this normal? I just feel it's a bit strange. we don't live close so meeting plans have to be on weekends but still. Not talking at all in between? That's unusual and never happened to me. Even guys where it wasn't love at first site have kept in touch in between days. Never like this. What do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (31 January 2013):
You’re so early in to dating that perhaps he’s shy or you’re just not that comfortable yet where you can feel no awkwardness about making contact other than to finalise details for a meeting. Why not arrange the next date and after that contact him a few days afterwards for some other reason, just to see how he is? Wondering why there’s no contact will solve nothing, test the waters and initiate some contact, see what happens.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 January 2013):
 when my husband and I first started seeing each other we were 2 hours apart and at first our communications were limited....
it was not till he started loving me and it became serious that we had regular contact...
it's been a few weeks... he may have a history of moving too fast and he may really like you so he's taking it slow... it's not a bad thing.
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