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41-50,
anonymous
writes:currently engaged to "M" for 6 yrs. then a few mos ago i ran into co-worker "L" who i used to work with/flirted with (before i connected with "M"). i point out fiance "M" to "L" and "L" leans in and says "does your fiance know how lucky he is?" and smiles at me. i blush, turn red and say "i'm pretty sure he does". since then things have been going downhill with "M" and can't get "L" off my mind no matter what...any sugg?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 January 2013):
 Wow is right… do M a favor and break the engagement… if a lovely compliment from a FORMER co-worker can make you question your engagement, well then maybe you are engaged for the wrong reasons….
just because a man compliments me or makes a pass at me or flirts with me it does not negatively affect my committed relationship with my husband.....
why in the world is this such an issue for you?
why are you with M?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (31 January 2013):
I question your decision making ability! First off your pick for fiance must have been rushed because questioning your relationship because a guy gave you a compliment is crazy.
I'd highly recommend breaking up with him, so obviously aren't ready to be married, at least not to him.
I'm very serious here, you'll be making a big mistake!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2013): Yeah, I assume you love your fiance otherwise you would not have gotten engaged to him, and it doesn't sound like you see the ex co-worker that often anyway, so I think you should concentrate on your relationship and put the co-worker out of your head.
It seems the co-worker wasn't flirting with you, but maybe he told you something you don't hear often enough from your fiance, and you just took it to heart a little more than you should have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2013): Just wow! If your relationship with your fiancee is so frail that the first guy who flirts with you puts it in jeopardy I don't think you have any right to marry him. I think you should let him go so he can either enjoy his life as a single man or meet someone who will be faithful to him.
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