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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why does he he feel guilty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is separated and has been having a hard time getting his ex to give him all of his things. He received a text last night from her saying he could go get his stuff. He said he would be back in a little while but before he left he said," why do i feel guilty for ... (85 words)

Continually angry and non-committed girlfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. I'm not sure why, but she gets upset at the simplest things and throws huge fits. I will be the first to say that I can be rough around the edges and can get annoying sometimes. But we argue constantly about trivial ... (236 words)

Trying to make my marriage blossom, but I can't last 5 minutes without thinking about my lover

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Married for 23yrs I met the love of my life who has been married 24yrs. We had an undeniable connection, and made love 24hrs after meeting. His first time and my first, since our weddings. We live in different states. I returned home and communicated with him 24/7. He returned ... (248 words)

Can I live with my boyfriend and still keep the sexual spark?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - hey readers, how do you keep sex and physical intimacy fresh and exciting in a longterm monogamous relationship? I'm asking because my bf of 1.5years wants us to live together but i'm worried it'll lead to complacency and the dying down of our currently great sex life as squab... (158 words)

1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4305 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mean a small penis??! Not sure ... (85 words)

My wife is constantly texting another man, asked me to move out and yet says she wants to work on things!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi. I have used this site a few times and thank those who have added comments, it helps. Will try to be brief here... Married for 12 years, 3 great kids. Wife and I have always been great friends, quite a bit in common but our sex life has always been questionable. I... (659 words)

Does she have the right to ignore me like we were strangers even though I pushed her away and ignored her because I was scared of a relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - There was this girl who I had been seeing for quite a while, but I felt it was getting too serious for my liking, we were growing a lot closer far too quick and I knew it wasn't what I wanted. Because I'm not a relationship person, i'd be a terrible boyfriend and i could see it ... (496 words)

This ex is stuck in my head and I'm afraid it's going to ruin my new relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in such a mess. I was with a guy for a year and we had a great relationship then things came to an abrupt end, he was moving away with work and we mutually agreed it wouldn't work because of the distance. We agreed to remain friends but he said after a few months he ... (265 words)

Do I follow my dreams or swallow my pride?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a problem concerning my education and ex-girlfriend. A few months ago we broke up - knowing that we would see each other at our new school for a half-year semester. 3 weeks have passed at the school and it has been very problematic for us both. We are friends in t... (332 words)

My best friend who is like a brother to me admitted that he's gay and attracted to me. I am now avoiding him because I don't know how to handle this

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I’m a man in my early thirties and right now I have a complicated situation in my life. My best friend confessed to me that he’s gay. We know each other for almost 25 years and he’s like a brother to me. We grew up together, we went in the same kinder garden and the same ... (345 words)

I don't understand why my friend suddenly went quiet!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - This will sound a little silly coming from an adult but... one of my friends is being a little strange and I just don't know why. We have been friends for three years now and have become pretty close in that time. We are both married, so the usual male/female complication has ... (359 words)

I love him to no end, I would do or give anything for him, I can't move on but it's tearing me apart!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - 1 year and 9 months ago me and my boyfriend broke up and he refused to speak to me afterward even though he said we could still be friends. although we never spoke i could never get over him and a year and 2 months after we broke up he started talking to me again because i ... (379 words)

Everything was fine until my first love put a hold on our relationship, what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Everything was fine until my first love put a hold on our relationship, what do I do? I've been with my girlfriend for just over one year, and it's my first serious relationship that I've been in however I now need some advice. We're both from the same area but we have what... (1108 words)

My boyfriend doesn't talk to me and threatens to leave me if I don't stop nagging him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi My bf of 3 years always ignores me, he doesn't even talk for 10 minutes with me but has time for his friends and for watching TV and playing games. Whenever I ask he says I'm nagging him and if this continues he is gonna leave me. He doesn't even care if I stop talking to ... (68 words)

Should I give up at the last hurdle of 5 year long distance relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have no idea what to do with myself. We live in different countries in Europe. When we first met nearly 6 years ago, he promised me [m24] he would be there with me after we finished university/college. At one point I just wanted to dump it all and just get together and mak... (581 words)

Am I out of line for wanting my girlfriend to discuss major life decisions with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I am a little confused and could just use a little advice to keep me on the right path. My girlfriend and I had a little argument the other day. She's been distancing herself over the past few weeks, and I finally called her out on it. (We've been dating 2 years, an... (702 words)

How can I stop hoping my ex will get back to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I met the girl of my dreams last summer. We hit it off quickly and it wasn't long before we changed our status on facebook to 'in a relationship'. We live in different towns, but would meet up a couple of times a week. Then we stayed at each other's and did the whole meet the ... (540 words)

My lover said he'd contact me when things returned to normal. Its been 4 months! I can't contact him

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - my lover told me not to text that he would when things get back to normal so i respected his wishes but it has been 4 months and I still haven't heard from him i am the kind of person that has to understand the reason behind things. i would rather get hurt by the truth no ... (123 words)

I've been married 18 years and have attracted a new butterfly. What do I do about my wife and son?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age - hi,i'm 48 yr old man, been married 18 yrs, one child, 3 months ago i meant a woman, 45 yrs old, it started out with a casual flirt which later ended up with lunch dates everyday for a month, during our lunch encounters we learned we basically are the same person except she's in ... (348 words)

The past of my boyfriend really bother me. I don't know how to deal with it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am new at this lol never posted a quetion before but her it goes......it is kind of long. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. I have children from previous marriage and he treats them as his own. He is very selfless and kind. Now with that said here is ... (445 words)

I've never dated. How do I get to know a girl before asking her out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I am currently a 20 year old medical student that has never been in a relationship. My course is really intensive and I've found it really difficult to get to know women on my course. I have asked a few out when I was bold in first year but was rejected and haven't asked a girl ... (210 words)

My husband won't help with the housework and verbally abuses me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age - my husband and i have been together for 12 years although we have only been married 1 year i raised his daughter and now i am rasing his three grandchildren whom i love dearly problem being he dont help me with housework he thinks he dont do anything wrong how can i be a wife ... (84 words)

I was wondering if there was any sort of vitamins or remedies I can take or use, to help boost my ever so low libido.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I'm here for some advice about my sex drive/low libido whatever you want to name it. I'm 20 years old been with my boyfriend for 10 months. I'm a virgin he isn't. So our sex life isn't brilliant but our relationship is great except for the sexual part. He's very keen o... (254 words)

I don't think he loves me because his actions don't show that he does

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, My BF is currently very upset as he's facing many problems. I try to stand by his side as much as I can. When we met, he was constanlty chatting with me. Well, we live in different countries. Yea I know these kind of relationship has very little chance of working ... (210 words)

I need advise in how to stay away from this Dr. Jeckell & Mr. Hyde that I love!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age - Hi, I have been reading past advice on this website on dealing with dating an Italian man. Thank you. I sure could use some more support and advice. I haven't seen him in 30 days and I'm trying to stay away from him. We have been dating for sixteen months and have known each ... (159 words)

How can I move on without him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - My bf and I broke up last year and I still can't get over him. Our relationship was very complicated and we both had issues. Still I go to bed every night wishing he would call/text or email me something. I have never felt this way. I feel alone even in a crowded room. I am ... (114 words)

Are you unable to express yourself around your spouse?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age - I moved to a rural town from a large city to be with my fiance. Sorry, this is sort of a long read. Whenever I talk about my past--this is general talk or reflection between two people as couples do and I am showing a couple of examples here, be it trials and tribulations... (530 words)

My 19 year old daughter wants to marry a 51 year old man. He's 3 years older than her father!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - My 19-year-old daughter told me she's dating a 51-year-old man, and wants to marry him and have his children, and he agrees.... She told us he wanted to meet us, and we did, 2 months after they first started dating. [it had been secret until now]. Our daughter's in universi... (312 words)

My boyfriend is hot and cold...any advice would be helpful!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - my boyfriend and i were dating for a little over a year when he broke up with me saying he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore and that he was unhappy. i was so confused and hurt we never had any major issues between us. i was devastated. over the 6 months we were ... (292 words)

Why is he telling loads of girls (me included) that he likes them and wants to kiss them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I don't have an issue, I'm just curious to know what's going on. So there's this guy at my school, I'm my class infact that claims to like me. So we were chatting and he said he has liked me for a long time and wants to kiss me (and he asked me out). Today when I got to ... (223 words)

How can I get him to last longer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Im in new relationship and we have been having sex for about 4 months now. Everything is great apart from then fact that he only lasts for a couple of minutes. He said its because hes out of practice and after a while he'll be better but if anything it seems to be getting ... (102 words)

He's spoken about getting married and our future together, but he isnt sexually attracted to me! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4304 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So me and my boyfriend have dated for a while now and have been pretty serious. He's started bringing up moving and getting married- I previously got out of an engagement with someone I was with for a few years and it makes me nervous. But with this it comes the fact that I... (534 words)

He was excited about the pregnancy at first but now he has asked me to move out! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi i am in a very hard situation at the minute, i was with a man i liked for years and he liked me. i think i may now be pregnant and i have told him this, he was really pleased at first as he has wanted a child. i have a 3 year old daughter who he found hard to get along with, ... (108 words)

My grandaughter has been taken into care and it looks like neither me or my daughter can have her! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Last year my 6 month old granddaughter got taken into foster care because of a suspected broken rib. Her dad was charged with assault and neglect and my daughter was charged with neglect though I am not sure what is going to happen with the both of them. I got a letter from ... (154 words)

Do nice guys really finish last?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello. I know I'm a very nice person at a great heart, because towards everyone I treat them well, except those who are not worth being nice to or who pissed me off. I am smart, kind and being sensitive is my weakness. I have researched over the internet about the 'nice ... (217 words)

My lazy attitude towards sex annoys my boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I need some advice please. My partner and I are both 26, he works away and is only home on the weekends and I work part time and an full time in Uni. We have a great relationship and get along fab! The only thing we argue about is.....sex! He always wants sex a lot more than ... (201 words)

I'm worried that my gay friend is coming onto me! How do I stop this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am twenty-one and straight female and I think as confusing as it is that my gay male friend likes me more than a friend. We have been friends for 5 yrs and lately he has been kissing me on my cheek and telling me he loves me more and more and talking about sex a lot. Then he ... (146 words)

Do you think I have missed my chance with this guy or is it worth being somewhere by "accident"on the chance I will bump into him? Or is that desperate?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age - I had to wait in a queue for half hour or so yesterday and got randomly chatting to this guy who was also waiting. during the conversation he told me 2 or 3 times he was single,divorced, asked if I was.We kept chatting till it was my turn to be seen and as I left he told me ... (155 words)

How exactly can you ask a guy out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My question is really very simple and strictly addressed to all the guys out there... How exactly can you ask a guy out?? I mean talking specifics. What scares them, what encourages them. What do you want to hear from a girl when they take the initiative, what seems despe... (86 words)

Is my G/f still in love with her ex? Why is she keeping their sexual photos and is she just using me for the life I can provide for her ?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi there, I just need some advice I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years n it's really good, we're both in our early 40,s Before me she was with someone just for sex she said but she got attached to him but he left and lived hundreds of miles away, We met and... (239 words)

How do I make sure my friends don't judge me for having sex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay before I begin please dont judge me. I know a lot of you are going to and I dont come here to be judged I come here for advice. Okay so my boy friend and I are both the same age and we were both virgins. We both decided that we were ready and mature enough to have s... (118 words)

Help! Priorities? My health? What the NHS demands? Attend the 8 year paediatrics programme and lose contact with friends? Find time to do things I enjoy? Which should I choose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - This is about my life. I gave up teaching English as a foreign language to go to medical school aged 30. I knew it would be tough. No money, starting at the bottom, my peer group all being 10-12 years younger. I went from having classes of mainly very appreciative and ... (891 words)

Ever since my boyfriend confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex, I've had difficulty being intimate with him

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been dating the most amazing man for four months. Everything was wonderful until two weeks ago when he confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex. Since then, I've had difficulty being intimate with him. I think anal sex is disgusting. I understand that ... (250 words)

My boyfriend got his ex pregnant. How can I live with this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

28 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have boyfriend dat we have 5year inrelationship ilove him very much n i knw he realy love me too ,idnt knw hw to trust him again n forgving him after finding out that he impregnant one of his ex-gf dat they date 6year ago ,he said it was mistake to slept wth her bt i talkd to ... (90 words)