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Archived questions from: 14 January, 2013 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

We've been a couple for three years. Yet he's told me the thought of sex terrifies him. What do I say to discuss this problem with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok, so I've been with this guy for about 3 years now. I'll be 18 in 4 days and he just turned 20 two months ago. He's is literally my best friend and we do everything together, we are inseperable. Its coming time to where hes getting his own place, and well... He's wanting... (226 words)

She won't let me give her an orgasm!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my girlfriend (I'll call her Emily) for about two and a half months but she finds it hard to let me try to give her an orgasm. She was with her ex for three years and claims that this ex had never made her come in all that time but would always feel bad that she ... (391 words)

Do you think he really does just hate technology, or does he not care enough to stay in contact more?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend used to text loads and basically stay in touch loads when we were first going out, but these days it feels like he forces himself to contact at all? He says he hates texting and doesnt really like phone calling or emailing much either, so i rarely get an em... (134 words)

Texting, coming over, then ignoring me! Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - me and my bf broke up he couldn't handle a gf at the moment ignored me for about 2 weeks finally came over had a great night then a couple days later ignored me again. came over again everything was perfect between us slept over and then I mentioned one of my exs name not in ... (139 words)

Friend? FWB? Love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - A couple years ago I was in an intense friendship with my best friend. Throughout our friendship it was always difficult. But I was always his friend. The second year we were friends we became friends with benefits. Apart from that we shared a lot of secrets about one ... (192 words)

Trying to work things out with the ex but I'm giving him enough rope to hang himself. How long do I give him to change?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex boyfriend and I have decided to work our relationship out. In 3 years, we've broken up twice and have been through a lot together. Our breakups centered around him basically not having enough time for me, and by that I mean literally seeing him once a week if I'm lucky ... (319 words)

I feel like making random strangers happy is more important to him than prioritizing our own relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel funny about a situation that came up with my boyfriend last night but I am not sure how to handle it. Last night my boyfriend (of 3 months) was texting a friend and when i walked near him, he quickly moved the phone so I couldn't read it. I asked jokingly " you ha... (562 words)

We're going to the dance as friends but he told everyone he was going to have sex with me after the dance. He's so disrespectful!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - So I have a dance coming up in a month where it is a girls ask guys dance. Well one of my guy friends that I've known for over 4 years wanted to go with me and I figured hey, why not. So I asked him (more like he asked me). Well it's been a week and now he's saying he is in ... (326 words)

Should I tell my husband to evict him? And that I've been flirting with the younger cute male student we sub-let a room to?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Times have been hard lately for my husband and I so we got a room mate to help split the rent of our 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home.I'm 27 and my husband is 29 our new room mate is a 20 year old college student, pretty quit and geeky. I'm a stay at home mom and becoming a desperate ... (124 words)

Does she like me if she answers 3 days later?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi People, Regarding a little problem I was confused about a certain thing. Well it's about the following: there is a girl in my class and I know that she is kinda shy around me. Even my friend told me she acts shy when I am around. The thing is, that I also made a lot of mi... (206 words)

Boyfriend went on online dating site, I made fake profile and he wants to meet! Now what?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I need help urgently!!! I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8months tomorrow, and right now I am so confused on what to do next!! At the start of the month we moved in together in a flat, and he often tells me he loves me, etc... but lately I havent been ... (307 words)

I havent spoken to her in 2 years but I still cant forget about her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - hi everyone, I really want to know how to truly forget someone. I haven't talked to her for more than two years but today I still can't forget her. Me and her never were in a relationship but we were almost there. In the past two years, I have been in a new school where I d... (186 words)

Getting over a divorce: how do you just stop loving someone after 19 years of marriage?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - has anyone else had a problem getting over a divorce. it has been almost one year since our split, and 3 months since the divorce. how do you just stop loving someone after 19 years of marriage? everyday i get better, but i dont stop thinking about him. i know he moved on with ... (605 words)

I always ignore the red flags because I think I can change them! How do I stop this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (?) age 36-40 - I can't seem to stop picking "fixing upper" guys...they're always already broken somehow. My first boyfriend had family issues and subsequently could not have feelings in a relationship. My most recent boyfriend felt like he wasn't good enough for his family, made bad grades, ... (116 words)

It seems like she cheated then ended our relationship just to save face, and it is really hard for me to get over what she did....

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14 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - My college girlfriend and I "broke up" but still talked just about everyday. About three weeks later we were "a thing" again. Now four months down the road we still are and things are great. Whenever I'm happy she's super happy, sex is great, and our social lives with our ... (239 words)

My boyfriend rarely wants sex, how can I help him overcome this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 26, my partner's 28, and we've been together for 18 months. We met through a classic car show for enthusiasts of 1970s/80s cars and have been together since. We were friends first, but he was a bit wary about flirting with me, so I had to do it with him (!) He has Asperger... (440 words)

He wants to be faithful to his girlfriend, but I want to tell him how I feel. Is this a good idea?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy about a year ago and recently, in September, we began to hang out and we became "close" like intimate. I liked him and I still do. The problem is that he has a girlfriend now. For about two months, we fell off because of a conflict between us. we began to talk ... (153 words)

Birth control questions

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, Looking for some birth control advice. I've been in a relationship with my partner for 3 and a half years and I've been on the pill for the same amount of time. It has worked brilliantly for me , even helped me to put on weight, gain a more womanly figure and got rid of m... (190 words)

I don't trust him anymore and am thinking about leaving, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F) age 30-35 - I and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 years now, we love each other despite religion differences, he pays me visit and calls me, he introduce me to his male friends but now everything has changed. Now he does not call except when i call him, he keeps asking me if i ... (119 words)

How do I deal with my husband's fantasies and learn how to dominate him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age - My husband confessed to me last night that he wants to wear panties and be dominated by me. I am a submissive person by nature and was kinda sick by his fantasy. I like a manly man! I know he has talked about this and has acted on it with another woman I caught him at her hous... (130 words)

Should I stay and wait for an answer? Or should I go? If I leave, there is no coming back....

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - So my boyfriend was out of town for a week for a work related class. Before he left I had flipped out on him about how I feel that his actions say he has little to no feelings or love for me anymore. Unfortunately, I chose a relationship with someone who at first said that he ... (453 words)

This guy is creeping me out by staring at me, why is he doing it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - There is this guy, everytime I see him he just stares at me I can feel his eyes on me every time he never talks to me, he looks at me then looks away. But today he looked at me, took a breath in then out, then looked away, what does it mean? why is he doing it? please help I ... (89 words)

Is there ever a good reason or explanation for cheating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I learned my lesbian gf was cheating on me by talking with other women. One in particular I caught her talking with twice. After the first time getting caught she promised she was sorry and she wouldn't do anything like that to hurt me again. She ended up a month later cheating ... (568 words)

My sisters always try to be in the spotlight and steal my friends away

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I am 19 and I have 2 younger sisters who are 17 and 16. My sisters and I are VERY different, they are the 'school queen' kind of girls who bully other people for fun, they are beautiful and popular and have bunch of (fake) friends. I am a very nerdy girl who takes my stu... (158 words)

My boyfriend says he's over his ex but I don't think so! What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4325 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi everyone! I am so sorry for the length!! I have been with my bf for 3 years, we live together for 2 years now. His ex lives in another country with her fiance. My bf and her broke up about 1 year before we met. They still talk...i have no problem with that. My problem is... (503 words)

What does it mean if you send a facebook friend request to a guy and he didnt deny or accept the request?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Please advice me: What does it mean if you send a facebook friend request to a guy and he didnt deny or accept the request? When I send this facebook request I also send a message to him asking him if he is on a dating site, and told him if he wants he could find me on tha... (325 words)

She knows that I love her but says that "she doesn't see me that way" How can I change her feelings?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have known this girl for almost 5 years,we became classmates but got to know her well from past 3 years. Back then i had a crush on one of my thai friend, so my classmates use to make fun of me. And this Indian girl i use to consider her as a sister, but i was never serious ... (514 words)

How can I deal with my housemate's partner who almost lives with us, but won't pull his weight?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Need honest advice.. I've lived with my boyfriend in a small 3 bedroom share house for over 2 years. Just under a year ago, we found a third housemate who was great. I introduced her to one of my male friends and they soon started dating. Since they got into a relationship... (630 words)

Will this work? I'm married and I recently accepted the offer of my (separated) boss, to be his Girlfriend/mistress

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I recently accepted the offer of my boss, to be his Girlfriend/mistress. He is separated with 3 kids living with his wife and family. I'm married, with an understanding husband and a 3 year old daughter. We hooked up 2 only and 1 to 2 hours only each time. Our relationship... (184 words)

How can I encourage my husband to work with me to improve our mutal enjoyment during our intimate moments?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I need help. I have been married for 6 years with 2 kids, and it is safe to say I am the sole caregiver for my kids, my husband pretty much sits and watches. Like a stranger and every now and then would either criticize what am doing or yell at one of them. I do wor... (354 words)

I'm looking for miss right but keep running into miss wrong!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupids, I know people have standards but I feel like I rule out woman by my dating pickyness. I am looking for someone who is around my stature(5'11). Someone a little shorter than me and skinny to big boned. I have graduated college(2 years ago) and current... (205 words)

Boyfriend lost his dad and is suffering, but he raised his hand to me and is very angry/abusive. What if he does it again?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I am 24 and I have been dating my boyfriend since I was 15!things were going really great,we got into the same college finished our degress,we have a very good job,although my boyfriend comes from a rich family but yet he decided to do things his way,he's very har... (141 words)

How can I block out what my parents said and still lead a happy life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4329 days ago

14 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I asked a question sometime ago (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-just-flunked-out-of-college-and-am.html) I was feeling very hopeful and confident about my future after reading the responses. I told my parents and they did not take the news well. they took it personal... (146 words)

I lost my only friend because I treated him so badly

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - i had a best friend i lived with for 7 years whose feelings i have hurt deeply. i don't know what i can do to change his feelings and show him i care about him and love him. he did sooo much for me, got me into school, paid for my tution,, did everything in the world to make me ... (422 words)

My girlfriend admitted she had a crush on another guy. Is this acceptable?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - After questioning her, my girlfriend admitted to having a crush on another guy two years ago, which was still ln our relationship. I kind of expected it but still, it hurts. Is this acceptable?... (34 words)

How do I convince my parents that this guy is the one?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I will be 16 in june, and my boyfriend is 8 months older than me. We both live in Florida and have been together for 2 and 1/2 years. I truely love him, and I'd love for us to get married before we're eighteeen, but that surely won't happen. So we have a plan to get married ... (148 words)

He broke up with me because my promotion/job took over my life. I still want him and the job!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello Everyone, I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible so please bear with me. I am a 27 year old woman who is a self confessed emotionally unavailable wreck. I am incredibly independent, I need my space from the men I date, and don't do the whole girly gir... (343 words)

How long do I wait for my husband to make up for a terrible 20th anniversary weekend?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4325 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Married 20 years, received only a handful of birthday, anniversary, special occasion gifts. Read all the help columns and told husband exactly what I wanted for anniversary which was a week trip so we could reconnect. I started planning and he said he would plan it. So when it ... (323 words)

I can't stop masturbating even though as a Christian I know its wrong

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I really need help, i am a 15 year old Christian girl and i have a serious masturbation problem, i try to stop because of beliefs in my religion but when the urge is present i just cant stop i find that i like to watch porn while i do it and i know it is wrong, i also noticed ... (138 words)

We spent the night together, the next day he got word his dad was sick. He hasn't contacted me first since then!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4328 days ago

14 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am really confused here. I was seeing a great guy he is Canadian and is a student here in the uk. Things were going so well and I knew how much he was into me. We spent the night together I felt so close to him. The next day he got really bad news that his dad was sick and he ... (208 words)