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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Do relationships develop from sleeping with someone you have just met?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Do relationships develop from sex? I’ve always been the type of person who hasn't slept around and would never let myself be used by a fella for sex. By doing this I think I have kept men at arm’s length and therefore have never developed any long term relationships. Although... (170 words)

I am young but don't want to ruin my life with a dumb choice! What should I do about dating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I had a boyfriend for around 4 years I met him in high school and we became friends. However, our relationship as boyfriend-girlfriend was underground (very few people know about us going on for the first months) The main reason is my parents do not like him. At the time we ... (823 words)

What chemicals in our bodies allow us to detect who is the perfect lover for women and men?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I am dating this one guy and once we made love it seems like something about us was a quick connection.Making love to this man was very intoxicating not in a sick way but it was very emotional he took me on a ride that I never wanted to end. Is there a chemical in our bodi... (72 words)

I lightly slapped my ex once. Why did I do that?? I want to know!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age - I love my exgrlfriend more than ever now.I have never been an abusive man ever in my life,I lightly slapped her before we broke up,only cause i have her father telling me to get out of her life,jobs are few and far to find,and she listens to her controlling friend at work,(who ... (125 words)

We have been going out but she is still on website every day where we met. What's up with that?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4304 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age - I have a met this woman on Match. She is divorced, same age as me. We have been talkling on the phone everyday, texting, emailing. I spent this past weekend at her house. We have been going out for a month. She told me that I am so different than her ex or other guys she has ... (117 words)

I don't want to look fake but I don't know how to do my makeup

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - IM blonde blue eyes and i dont feel i am the prettiest of girls so inorder for me to look nice i like doing my make up but i have no idea how boys like it, i dont want to come acroos as fae but i still want to look nice, can you help me?... (55 words)

I'm dating a nice guy but want to end it because I don't want to get hurt again

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - i have recently moved into halls for university, and moved in with a guy and we instantly hit it off. this was in September. now we are properly together and i like him so much, he makes me so happy and is definitely helping to repair the damage a cheating ex has caused to my ... (218 words)

Girlfriend is suddenly distant but insists she still wants me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - my girlfriend is in college with me she is 19, we've been dating almost 2 years she's suddenly starting to act more distant and just generally doesn't seem as happy, which is starting to affect our relationship and also myself. we were doing ok before the holiday break... (503 words)

Is it silly to think he might like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - On the weekend I went to a house party and a boy who in close was there and we had a past but we have never actually been together! At the party one of my girl friends was following all the boys around and this boy was the one she stayed with for most of the night and I go... (152 words)

Should my husband go to the funeral of his ex girlfriend's father?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age - My husband's x-girlfriend's father passed away. They have two children together. She tried to trap him into marriage.. Didn't work. She has also tried to cause many problems between us.. She hates me.. Should he attend her father's funeral? I believe it will give her ... (62 words)

I'm unhappy and my parents keep pushing things on me and don't seem to care how I feel

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 19 i am not happy my parents dont seem to understand that i am not ok. I feel alone. My parents are religious and keep shoving down things on me like if they dont care how i feel. Sometimes i dont feel like living. They dont let me do anything. Im highly frustrated. I am ... (132 words)

I want to go out! How do I make friends who will actually invite me places?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't have anyone at uni who wants to do anything with me. I have tried every approach going, at the start i was busy everyday morning and evening and now I have started to notice it was always me organising and so i decided to stop and see if anyone would actually come to me ... (201 words)

The guy I am dating was texting and making out with girls, even my friends????

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I started hanging out with this guy late October/early November, and over time I started liking him and the feelings were mutual (or so it seemed). We got really close and it seemed like we'd be official any day now. Anyways, 2 days ago I was using his laptop when i accidenta... (675 words)

He says he still has his ex on his mind, but only when we fight! What does this mean?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, What do you do if your boyfriend of 6 months is saying he still has ex in his mind? If he is still in love with her then why does he give me headgames, why mess with me at all? He has showed jealousy, when other men check me out etc. Is he not sure of his feelings tow... (170 words)

My boyfriend's parents really hate me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriends parents hate me! they tried to tell him lies about me and saying stuff they knew will hurt him. when they realised he didn't buy anything they were saying they decided to keep him away from me which means holding him hostage, then they took his phone and stuff so ... (149 words)

Nightmares are preventing me from moving forward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I broke up with an ex over 3 months ago now, but I keep having vivid nightmares about it. I wake up regularly in a cold sweat and can't get back to sleep.I am now actually glad that turd of a relationship is over and I just want to move on and forget about it! So why are these ... (553 words)

How do I get over constantly feeling anxious about my husband working with so many girls who idolize him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband and I have been together for five years. Three years into our relationship, he got a new job. He manages a store, with a lot of employees. He works closely with a lot of females, all of which of course idolize him as he's the boss. One girl in particular we had a lot ... (547 words)

I need a break from him but I'm scared of breaking up our family, and worried what will happen if I decide I want him back....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I am 26 years old and my and my boyfriend (also the father of my daughter) have been together for 6 years we have a 2 year old daughter... Hes a great dad and we get along just fine... We dont aregue very often normally if he gets upset or mad he jus ignores me for about 2 ... (244 words)

Should I ask my friend for permission to sleep with her husband?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age - Apologies for the length of this but I think it's important to have the details.. the devil is always in the details... Me: I'm single and approaching 50. It's been a few years since my last serious relationship but I'm fine with that. Having seen bad relationships, I... (823 words)

Did I sent the wrong text message in regards to a job?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - i walked into a salon yesterday for a job and got a position for a receptionist. i knew her from before and I was really excited for it as i was looking for it for a while. the manager there told me first i can come in from tomorrow but then said she has to check with one of ... (201 words)

Is it a bad idea for ex couples to live together?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi readers! I hope you can help me today. I came out of a three year relationship about three months ago, I was cheated on and lied to on multiple occasions throughout this and during this time also had my privacy taken away from me. As a result it has made me naturally a very ... (373 words)

Co-worker made out with me late one night and now avoids me saying he doesn't feel the same as me. What the heck?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I currently have a boyfriend and have been with him for over two years. However about mid last month I had a situation with someone I worked with. It was during a work night out, I was only working there temporarily and don't anymore. Anyway as the night went on he and I ... (1096 words)

Am I stupid to go it alone at 39?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 years. We own a place together. We broke up for a few months a couple of years ago (my instigation), but missed each other and got back together. However, the things that broke us up haven’t really been resolved. I wanted kids, he... (250 words)

Have you ever felt like you are out in the outside just looking in but not participating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. Has anyone else ever felt as if they are just watching things happen from the outside and not actually participating in the moment? Like you are at a great distance? For the past few weeks I sometimes look at my boyfriend cooking or laughing and I feel as if I am seperate ... (92 words)

I've never been in a serious relationship but want to be now. I don't know how to act or what to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid readers. Recently i connected with a girl i met a couple of years ago. we actually had been in same class for a year. Through out the year we didnt reall got well. We were always competing for every thing. And we didnt really like each other. In the next year i m... (266 words)

How to cope when told your husband doesn't love you the same as he used to? A 40 year marriage down the drain?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age - After almost 40 years of what I thought was a happy marriage my 62 year old husband said he needed space and I spent all my time and energy on the family and looking after the grand children, he felt lonely. We had had our daughter, her husband and 2 young children staying for ... (464 words)

I'm having a very hard time dealing with this break up even though, logically, we are not suited....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My long distance boyfriend and I broke up in November 2012. We had been together for 4 years. We broke up 2 years into our relationship but got back together 3 months later. To begin with the feelings were mutual and we both agreed a break up would be best for both of us. ... (560 words)

We planned to meet up but it never happened and now I think he has lost interest. I still like him, so how do I save this situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Theres this guy at work that I like and at first I thought he liked me back as he asked for my number and we used to phone each other every day. We planned meet up but they just didnt happen due to conflicting schedules and now we dont speak as much. I still really like him but ... (129 words)

Does she like me? How do I make sure I don't give her the wrong impression that I like her when I only want to be friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - I am currently studying in school and I have no experience in in dealing with the most minor matters in love, especially when rejecting someone. A few months ago, a girl in my similar school started a conversation with me on Facebook. We have never spoken before in real l... (331 words)

Have I lost her forever?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - i met this girl 8 months ago and we have been going out for the past 6 months. i loved her and she loved me back, we had a great relationship we really cared about each other's feelings. we both had never been in a relationship before she is 24 and i am 22. everything was going ... (858 words)

He cant call me a friend, I'm his 'thingy' and all his friends say he loves me...but we've not dated for over 2 years!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Um, I think I might need some assistance regarding a 'relationship, or lack there of. There's this guy, let's just call him 'A'. He is my ex boyfriend (though I don't even consider him that, as we only dated for a month) and one of my best friends. When we first met (we me... (1476 words)

My friend and I are getting closer, but with our shared history it's complicated. Where is this going?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - before i start, i just want to say that there is a long history behind this story. Almost a decade to be precise. I met S when I was in high school and we became quite good friends very quickly. I had a bit of a crush on him but he was in a relationship, so I minded my bound... (504 words)

Am I being reasonable fearing our LDR? Is this normal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear aunts and uncles I recently entered a long distance relationship and I'm worried. The thing is, I'm scared, really scared. I've been in a long distance relationship before but the distance wasn't so great you know? Now I'm so much more further away from my boyfriend (I ... (257 words)

Does my lover really love me, or does he just feel comfortable? He won't commit.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a coworker, i like him a lot we've been together as a friends for almost a year, started to see each other for about 3 months having diner, watching movies and snuggle on his couch with out having sex, but last month i spent the night after he asked me several times...... (227 words)

Broke up with my GF because I still have feelings for my ex, but she has a BF. How can I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - I had been with my ex girlfriend, R, for about 2 and a half years. I always thought that I was actually happy, but near the end of our relationship I realized that I was mostly in denial. When I found out that the girl that I had been with before her, T, who I still talked to, ... (344 words)

HELP! I feel like I'm a total beard for my gay best friend when he goes on a date.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm a hetero girl and my best friend is gay. Let me make it clear, I have no interest in my bff in any romantic way. We are really close friends and roommates. My issue is that I feel like he's using me as a beard when he goes out to meet up with a guy that he likes. He'll ... (208 words)

How do I get him back? He has ignored me since our breakup

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - how to get back my guy who has totally ignored me after 7 months of being in a sweet relationship.i fell for him and he knew that.we were so happy together. The problem started between us when he let a female friend to come between us and he would never stop texting her. ... (338 words)

My ex has co-workers adding me on facebook to check on me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4322 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, My ex boyfriend and I of 5 years broke up back in August of 2012. Basically there wasnt no meet up to talk and say ok lets break up on move on instead he began to ignore me, act shady, be in love with me the next day again and ignore after that. There was ... (461 words)

How do I deal with my controlling and emotionally abusive wife?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife is controlling and emotionally abusive. She is also very generous, but then uses the generosity as a way to martyr herself. She always thinks no one understands how "bad" she has it, owning her own business, me in graduate school, and with a 2 year old child. I'm ... (74 words)

Is our situations just too complicated? Should I stop what I'm feeling?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - OK Yes I just got out of a 9 year off and on relationship. I can't stress how much I am over the guy the father of my seven year old and now unborn child. He doesn't want anything to do with us...again. i asked for advice on convincing a guy I've been knowing three years only ... (345 words)

Why won't my ex boyfriends accept the fact that we are over forever?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Why are my exes upset because I have moved on with my life?Ok my first ex I was with him for 6years but I have been knowing him for 22 years.He wants to come back and be with me to be controlling ,abusive,the whole nine yards.My second ex was a drug user,abusive the whole nine ... (127 words)

I love my G/f and hate her at the same time, I don't want to be with her but need her in my life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

21 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, obviously I need help. It's about my girlfriend, I am 20 almost 21 and I have been with my girlfriend now for 3 years so its quite a serious relationship, we don't live together yet as we are both students and still hve the opportunity to live with parents. To u... (403 words)

Does my older fitness instructor have a crush on me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am starting to wonder if my fitness instructor is crushing on me? He is 15 years older than me. Lately he has been trying to strike up conversations with me more. He is always smiling at me and laughing at everything I say. I always catch him checking out my body. Even when ... (231 words)

Had a pleasant coffee together, then he left the ball in my court

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone. i would like some thoughts into this situation. I went a guy online and over the weekend we met for coffee. We ended up talking for about an hour or so. It wasn't magical sparks flying everywhere, but it was a nice conversation. At the end he said that i... (98 words)

Did he say this to make me jealous?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I need some opinions....help please! What are some of the things men do to make a woman jealous? I have recently stop seeing a man because he told me that he was highly "sought" after. He told me he was in high demand. I would like to know if he said that to make me jealous, or ... (62 words)

An affair that I never wanted to begin ended badly. I am shocked to the core at how he could do this to me!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I understand that I will be judged for what I am about to ask, but please understand that nothing that can be said is comparable to the guilt and pain I am putting myself through. I had a male friend for about 2 years with whom I went to school. There was definitely that ... (989 words)

I think I am falling for him but I know he doesn't want a relationship, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - In September I lost my virginity to a friend of a friend who'd recently broken up with a girlfriend. Since then we've slept together a few more times. My friend has informed me that he's 'enjoying being single' and doesn't want a serious relationship. Whenever I sleep with him ... (121 words)

I can't cry. Is this normal after a break up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I can't cry. That might not seem like an issue to most people, but before I broke up with my boyfriend last year, I cried about everything. I always have. Every emotion I have used to get so overwhelming i'd cry. If i was really happy, slightly sad, angry, stressed, tired... ... (228 words)

How do I get past the breakup and hearing the mean things that he said over and over in my head?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4322 days ago

21 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I got into a relationship with a guy who I thought was great. It ended after 10 months. I've gotten over him I think. I would never get back with him, ever. And I don't miss him anymore. We ultimately broke up because he asked me to leave and go home (50 miles away!) because ... (411 words)