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writes:I have been attracted to this guy for quite a long time now, i think he knows it but i dont think he feels the same way about me. I used to speak with him online just as friends and really liked his personality,he was very deep and i just really enjoyed reading the kind of things he wrote on his blogging page (we used to blog about simular things) and i just really liked him. I am white and he is black, im not racist but wondering if maybe this is the reason why he doesnt like me that way, im not sure but there is something about him that attracts me and i think about him alot, if he ever asked me on a date i would definately accept, the question is should i just come out and say how i feel or dont say anything at all, he is single so am i so we wouldnt be hurting anybody, im just really not sure how to go about this, i dont want to lead him on but i would lke him to know that i lust him, that is the truth i lust him and i cant help that i feel sexually attracted to him. Somebody please advise me wisely on what to do and also would it be easier to just stop all contact all together and walk away from him. I think about him loads and i would just really like him to know that i care about him and always have done. Reply to this Question
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reader, Carry On Dick +, writes (1 February 2013):
 Walking away from something or somebody that you care about is never an easy option so well done for doing this. Be strong and I wish you alot of happiness in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): Thanks for taking the time to answer, very much appreciated. I have just found out that he is in a relationship with somebody else so I am definately not telling him now or do anything to ruin his new found happiness. All I can do is step back and walk away, I do wish him all the best and alot of happiness, he is such a great guy and she is a lucky woman.
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reader, tibob  +, writes (1 February 2013):
 Please go ahead and tell him. Don't be afraid to express your feelings. If you don't tell him, these untold things will always bother you. And if you don't tell him, you will always regret. Nothing comes to a person who does not take any risks. There's absolutely nothing wrong in telling him, I'm sure he'll be flattered.
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reader, R1 +, writes (31 January 2013):
 Tell him!! As you said no one will get hurt. And if he says no you will get over it. Otherwise you will have to live with the regret of not trying.
Everyone is flattered when someone says they like them so at the least he will be flattered at the most he will feel the same way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2013): It depends if you really dont think that he does but you feel that you could settle with it the way it is now then stay as you are but if you feel that you wouldn't be happy with it just being like this then you should just move on because otherwise you will just be longing after something that you cant have.
Hope this helps.
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