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Archived questions from: 30 January, 2013 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How can I live more comfortably in this flat living with the kind of people I live with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Helloo, I'm having a problem that causes me a lot of stress and would appreciate advice on how to handle it. Please bear with me as I've just come out of a 'chat' which involves the problem. Thank you. At the moment, I'm living in a flat with my boyfriend and our friend... (655 words)

Why does my male friend who has a gf txt me every day

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - il try keep this short and sweet...... why would my male friend text me every day. We did have a drunken kiss at christmas and hes been texting me every day since, even tho he has a gf the last couple of yrs. I told him nothing will happen with us while he has a gf and he... (204 words)

Feeling unfair in a first relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Im having my first relationship ever at age 22 but my boyfriend (who is 23) had a long relationship before me which lasted about 5 years and the reason they broke up was because the girl broke it off, not him. We have been dating for about 3 months now and i lost my virgnity... (492 words)

How do I refocus & find out if I can continue to stay in my marriage.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been married for 16 hrs. I am 45 hrs old and have 2 boys with my husband. My husband works a day job as well as a 2nd shift job. I work in the morning part time and the rest of my time is devoted to my boys their schools and sports. My husband and I have no time ... (304 words)

My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all saying she can have a man with ... (451 words)

Is her behavior normal? I feel like I'm being insensitive but at the same time I think she needs to help herself.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I guess I want to get people’s views on my breakup. I met this girl two weeks after a painful breakup. We connected and it just felt right, maybe all a bit too good. We dated for a while, and she told me she loved me after two weeks. She seemed to have a bit of a volatil... (1156 words)

My husband bought a necklace for a random waitress. I find it inappropriate, he thinks it's charity. Thoughts please.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age - Mod note: I added she was the waitress to make the question more clear. I found a receipt for a swarovski necklace in the sale in my husbands week day apartment. When I asked him about it, after a few laughs, he said that he goes to a chinese restaurant sometimes for lunch an... (134 words)

We had a sex but I don't want it to be just a one time deal. How do I talk to her about it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - This a simple one really...I'm 20, young guy, however unlike most guys my age I don't like "going out on the pull" or sleeping with lots of girls. In fact, I've only slept with 4 since I was 17 all but on relationships and never anything past kissing outside of one. My dilemm... (220 words)

He dumped me at the club over the weekend after 5 months. Now he wants to be friends. What's going on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4295 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend, 27, dumped me outside a club at 4am at the weekend. He said although he really liked me, after 5 months dating had realised he did not love me. To begin with though he said ' I was such an idiot earlier... before saying this. He was trying to hug me and talk ... (658 words)

Is it a waste of money to see an exhibition of my favorite band's pictures? Should I save my money to see them in concert?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this isn't much of a problem, but i would appreciate some advice. There will be an exhibition of photographs of my favourite band next month. I'm not sure if any of the band members will be at the opening night, but it's possible. One of them was at another exhibition in ... (137 words)

My fiancé wants to become a surrogate through artificial insemination for her friend. What do I say?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - This is going to be weird but here it goes. My fiance brought up a weird question to me. Her long time friend because of a health condition her window to have a child is closing fast. My fiance came to me and asked me how I would feel if she would become a surrogate through ... (152 words)

What is the time frame in moving on from a broken heart?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - How long it takes to move on from a broken heart in a relationship when you plan to stay single for some time (atleast a year or more) . A relationship which wasn't always perfect but it had its good sides! and how to make it easy to move on? ... (55 words)

An old coworker flirted with me and now I'm confused about my fiancée.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - currently engaged to "M" for 6 yrs. then a few mos ago i ran into co-worker "L" who i used to work with/flirted with (before i connected with "M"). i point out fiance "M" to "L" and "L" leans in and says "does your fiance know how lucky he is?" and smiles at me. i blush, turn ... (85 words)

Boyfriend can't keep it up and I'm ready to walk!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We came across a sex problem after about 6 mths. The problem was, he couldn't stay hard and we got into an about that aftet it happened several times cuz I was left hanging. Now, its getting worse. I know he had expe... (191 words)

Why is it an ex always looks better after a break up than when you were together?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Why is it when you've broken up with a girl, when you next see them they always look better than they did before? It's strange, the girl I used to go out with she has always been beautiful, but I ran into yesterday for the first time in a while and she looked even more beauti... (173 words)

Do you think she is avoiding me? It seems like a lot if effort and very silly in my opinion.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4295 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I ended things with a girl ages ago, it wasn't the best break up and I will be honest I didn't go about it the right way at all, I was kind of a coward and a careless asshole. But it has been well over a month since i have seen her, it's sad i know this but it's actually go... (310 words)

I hate that my boyfriend said his best vacation was with his ex! Should I be mad?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, we talked with my bf the other day about spending some summer vacation together. We want to go to the sea, because we haven´t been by the sea for a long time. My BF told me he was by the sea few years ago and it was the best, most amazing vacation. He didn´t tell... (117 words)

I need the strength to despise him for cheating on me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't know what to do. I'm 26, found out my boyfriend of 4 years has cheated on me 2 times, once each time with two different girls. He seemed so sweet and loving up until I just found this out. I have 100% concrete evidence, there's no doubt he did this. Obviously, t... (129 words)

A phone call shattered my world, find out husband had an affair. If I leave will it stop the pain?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi One evening I got a call from a girl saying to ask my husband who she is. I asked ... it is a work collegue who he has being having an affair with for 4 months. He said he ended it 1 month ago and didnt have sex. I believe him and he's promised not to see her or talk to h... (140 words)

Do I need a friend like this? How do I drop her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Friendship dilema. Hi. I have been friends with a couple of girls for 20 years. They are mostly fun to be with - but one is a bit more cheeky, gobby and rowdy than the other. When we are out she always think she knows it all, tries to show you up or put you down. I know it ... (209 words)

Why do I feel so depressed after he made an offer to let me watch him have sex with his future girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, before anyone jumps in and bash me for being immature and naive and stupid, I do hope you can understand that I only came here and ask for your help because I'm desperate and don't know where to go to so please try to be understanding. Here's my problem. I'm 20 ... (332 words)

Why do people have to make comments that are hurtful?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid, The other night I was talking to this guy that I know fairly well but is still considered an acquaintance. We were texting and he asked "why do you wear so much makeup? Not to say you look bad but i'm sure you're pretty naturally". I don't know why but it reall... (153 words)

Why is she having these fantasies? Is this normal?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey, I love my girlfriend very dearly and the feeling is mutual. We've known each other for 3 years and have been in a steady long distance relationship for 2 years now. We are getting married next year and I'm really looking forward to spending the rest of my life with her. ... (589 words)

If I do well in my exams, will he come back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - My cousin proposed to me and i accepted. We didnt go for outings although we wanted because we cant make it. After 2 months he said that he wants me to concentrate in my exams. Its been a year that we had break up but i still cant forget him. He lied to me that he does not have ... (204 words)

How do I tell my girlfriend her house is nasty and I wont eat at hers again until the roaches are exterminated?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Should you tell someone you love they are a slob and should do much better about being clean? I'm lesbian and coincidentally my girlfriend is too. Anyways I've recently just begun visiting her home after 3yrs making arrangements to meet up or visit elsewhere, long distance ... (399 words)

How long should you wait in the ambiguous friends/dating zone, before you give up on the idea of a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - So I meet a guy by chance at a coffee shop a few months ago, he gives me his number and we start dating. We date for a month, and then he just stops calling for no reason. I’m a bit bummed, because I really liked him… but it was still early in the game, I had heard he was ... (566 words)

LDR makes me feel insecure. How do I get over it?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a long distance relationship with my current boyfriend and we talk everyday. As far as looks go, I consider myself to be attractive, and I believe we are very compatible personality-wise, and we have many similar interests. We've been together for over a year now, so ... (484 words)

What should I do? Call it quits until he gets his stuff together or tough it out a little longer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 months. I've known him 9 months before actually making it official. Anyways at this time he's currently jobless and Car less . He has been applying for any kinda of job yet nothing has come up. He doesn't try to take advantage ... (187 words)

Is this a normal cooling off period or silent treatment/emotional abuse/manipulation?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been dating a man for just over a year. We broke up at one point for three months because he got cold feet about the relationship. (He’s been divorced for a number of years and hasn’t had a committed relationship in that time, only dated minimally. He said what he had ... (827 words)

Is it a bad sign if she says she's waiting to see if there is a spark after we've kissed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Is it a bad sign if she says she's waiting to see if there is a spark after we've kissed? We hung out a little bit as friends. We went to see Les Miserable where we held hands. Since then we have been together a couple of times, holding hands and cuddling. She hasn't had a... (242 words)

Friend goes MIA when there's a guy on the scene. Do I drop her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My good friend since highschool has always been the type to go Mia when a guy pays any attention to her. She will ignore me for months until the guy leaves then she wants to be my BFF again. It has come apperent that she values our friend ship less then I do. Is it fair to ... (68 words)

My ex is going to marry my friend soon, and I always will wonder what if?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3974 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey everybody! I'm a rookie on this site, and this will be my first time talking about this I don't want to waste anybody's time so I'm sorry for the long post and if you take the time to read it all the way through I greatly appreciate it! I'm looking for advise on my ... (1231 words)

What to do with flakey friends? When she has a guy she ignores me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - One of my good friends from highschool tends to ignore me when ever a guy pays attention to her. When things end I am the first person she calls when she is sad. I am sick and tired or being put on the back Burner the minute a guy shows her interest. Sometimes she lies bec... (99 words)

Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking elsewhere... thanks in adv... (57 words)

Are long distance relationships all about the sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm just gonna go right out and say it... are long distance relationships just about sex? I mean, if you meet someone online and see them, say, a couple of weekends a month... and it takes around 3 hours to get to them and you're paying for the train/coach then surely you're j... (194 words)

Did I over-react? I thought we had a connection. Maybe not? I feel he's messing with my mind!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello I just wanted some views on my situation. I met a guy on holiday and we kept in touch. I went back to visit him and we spent lots of time together. I met his family and his friends again. When we were apart we always have arguments over Facebook and jealously i... (507 words)

What can I do to make it easier for us both to adjust to living together? He struggles with dealing with my 3 year old daughter and I think I'm pregnant again.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone i recently moved in with my boyfriend and I am finding it extremely hard work. He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time. What can i do to make it easier f... (115 words)