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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I need tips on moving on and letting go!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there, (a long story short) So two years ago I was involved with this lovely man, he was everything I wanted I fell in love with him but unfortunately the romance came to an end when he moved away for work. However now, two years on I am still in love with this m... (149 words)

I'm running out of things to talk about with my LDR, help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I met this guy online and we both live in different countries. he said he was blown away by my profile and I liked his alot too so we started writing and skypeing several times a week and he is planning to visit me in 2.5 months (even bought a ticket..he cant come before the ... (215 words)

Got mad when I found him clubbing with other girls, then he drops me?!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone i really need some advice!! I caught my boyfriend with girls on a night out and dancing with one of them and was really drunk and lashed out! we were fine afterwards and the next day he dropped me home and i phone him within an hour later and he said he didnt ... (226 words)

Why does my boyfriend do everything with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3969 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - This is kinda annoying... It's not that I don't love him, I do, I really do but I like to do my own stuff and what I'll say may seem kinda superficial but it's kinda annoying... My boyfriend does everything with me... I know how girls complain like "oh he doesn't give me too m... (347 words)

He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we started dating that I to... (116 words)

Attracted to him but afraid too

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Had my heart broken bad 15 yrs ago. pretty much gave up on ever dateing again. Joined a gym 3 yrs ago. There was a guy there that immediately took interest but he was in a relationship. I moved away from that area and lost touch with my skiduel at the gym. Went there on a odd ... (273 words)

I'm having a difficult time letting go of my cheating/lying girlfriend.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I feel so broken and hopeless. Im having a difficult time letting go of my cheating/lying girlfriend. We've broken up several times only to get back together. My heart still yearn for her, she was the first woman I fell for and had sex with. This year would've made 3yrs. I ... (281 words)

He's using emotional blackmail to resist the breakup

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in a very confused state of mind right now. I have a boyfriend from 4 months. I recently discovered that he was a great flirt before we came in contact.He claims that he is "changed" now and won't leave me or betray me. He also spoke to his mother about this relationship ... (255 words)

What does it mean if he stares at you but won't talk to you?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Why would a guy do this? What does it mean? What does it mean •when a guy constantly stares at you, but looks away when you catch him in the act •goes out of his way to open doors for you •Is really friendly and talks to everyone but NEVER talks to you? •h... (117 words)

What am I supposed to be accomplishing through sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - In every magazine I have come across, whenever they write about sex it always has to deal with orgasms. from this I have the perception that if I am having sex with a woman she has to orgasm every time otherwise I won't be a real man and she will either cheat or leave me for no ... (153 words)

I don't know how to heal my past and get over having commitment phobia

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I had been abusive relationships till recently. That makes me commitment phobia. example, I feel fear to hear man says I am independent, I feel this man want to absorb my energy or depend on me till I will be nothing. I feel fear to hear man says he is ... (170 words)

What should I do? I think I love my engaged best friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - This is going to be pretty long, I apologize. But if you are willing to read this I appreciate any advice. This isn't exactly easy for me to handle. I've never been good with relationships or dealing with my feelings, I think mostly because I've only had one girlfriend and i... (1051 words)

How do I salvage a friendship that I miss so much?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I'll try to make this short and sweet. I've known this women for 4 years...up until a few months ago, we hardly saw each other. Back in may, we went to a concert and had a great time. We had a couple drinks after and had a nice conversation in her vehicle which lead to a ... (513 words)

Am I getting my life back on track? What could I do better?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3364 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - When I was 16 I had my first relationship ever and it turned out pretty awful, the guy was terrible/abusive and the whole thing left me in a terrible state where I was taking drugs till I tried to kill myself and I failed school, getting an 8 out of 200 for one exam. I used to ... (301 words)

Why did my husband not include me on the pregnancy email?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I recently entered my second trimester in my pregnancy. My husband and I are both very excited about having a baby. He recently sent a mass email to his co-workers and our friends announcing our pregnancy, but he didn't include me on the email. I feel a bit left out. He told me ... (85 words)

I took plan b twice in a month advice please!?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Please help I need some advice in regards to the plan B pill. Im really ashamed. I took the plan b pill twice nearly two weeks apart in december. Im normally on bc but had switched to a more convenient bc method that gave me bad side effects so Im switching back to my old ... (303 words)

How can I reply back to bait and flirt with this possible player?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - How do I flirt with this guy. G and I went on a great date where we had a lot of chemistry. Since then he has had relatives in town and he's overseas at the moment and has not been msging me often. We kinda said we both wanna go on a trip together which I had asked him about ... (219 words)

Why does my husband never want to have sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - We were in love for 4-5 years before getting married and we use to have sex everyday,sometimes 2-3 times a day. Even if i did'ent want to,i would do it to satisfy him. But since we got married it just reduced and fell apart. He just does'ent want to have sex. I had to force ... (136 words)

It's legal in my country to marry a cousin. I seek your thoughts on my ideas about marrying please?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I think the West may frown on this but I don’t care . I don’t live there anymore. In my country not being married by age 30 is weird n nor normal generally. I’ve been in relationships and they have failed in part because of immaturity and bad decisions. Now I’m looking at... (240 words)

What do you think this message means?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - What do you think this message means ?. It's from a guy that i know. He said "i want us to be close but you never reply much and yes we got on great and i ruined it as i didnt want a relationship and now your with your boyfriend i am just wanting to be friends but without him ... (103 words)

Should I tell my mum that I don't like my birthday presents or just keep them, throw them in the back of the wardrobe and never use them?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - i had a rough year last year. i lost my grandfather, i lost my horse, i became ill with anemia and just when i thought as a family we could wave goodbye to the bad times my dad was diagnosed with kidney cancer just before christmas although he is making a good recovery. i ha... (347 words)

Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?

This question has 37 answers - newest was posted 4329 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that time she told me that some of... (161 words)

How do I maintain the balance in this relationship? Being a gentleman but not a doormat, sensitive guy but not a wimp?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I am in a relationship with a 28yr old woman and the chemistry seems amazing.)dating nearly 2 months, yes we are exlclusive) This past weekend we discussed who pays for what on dates and she told me it is important for her that the guy pays, that a true gentleman takes ... (350 words)

PNOK? What does that mean? He's in the army and wants me to be his PNOK? Is he being genuine?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I met an army man in the dating site and now he's and Afghanistan and now we're talking for more then 2-1/2 months I like him so much and love him, and this's my first time a date someone from the Army, and also he told me that will be returned until 2014, but before that he ... (168 words)

She refused sex. Is this a red flag in our LDR? Or am I just being paranoid?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I’m in a LDR with my girlfriend; we see each other every two months because we are in different countries. I’m currently visiting her, our sex life is good but I believe I have a higher sex drive than her. We don’t see each other that often so I believe to be intimate is ... (177 words)

How do I reject a co-worker but still stay friends?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I've never been in this situation before and I can't work out how to handle it. So...a guy I work with is interested in me and has been probably for about 2 years. He spent the best part of the first year texting me often and flirting at work which I managed ... (280 words)

She said she's not going to make love to me any more. Why did she react so angrily to my questions?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi,I'm kind of confused my girlfriend just sms ed me that she's refusing to make love to me any more. I think this is due to the fact that I saw her with a man walking down the street, so I stop gave her a lift to her home. That evening before sleep I tried to ask her who w... (163 words)

My sister is verbally and mentally abusive to her children. What can I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have an older sister that emotionally, verbally, and mentally abuses my 13 year old niece and 15 year old nephew. Every day she calls my niece all kinds of nasty names and calls my nephew everything but a child. She mocks their looks, tells them that they'll never amount to a... (157 words)

How would you deal with double standards in your relationship?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has an issue with double standards in our relationship. He feels like he can do and say things to me but if I reciprocate the same behavior he has a fit! I'm getting a little tired of it, it's killing our relationship. How would you handle someone who when they're ... (83 words)

He talked me into a long distance relationship, then dumped me saying he couldn't handle it. Now he's in another LDR!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I met my ex boyfriend online, it was long distance (he was in New York and I was in California) so we started talking on the phone. He told me in our first conversation that he had moved to New York from Europe as a foreign medical graduate to get into a residency program. I ... (1650 words)

Is it wrong to have feelings for my 5th cousin?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so I am going a little crazy here, please help. I am from the mid west and live far from most of my family, I've only ever known my dads side and my mothers immediate family. I recently moved to the deep south with my mom, where most of my mothers family lives. I met my 4th ... (279 words)

Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?

This question has 50 answers - newest was posted 4332 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one night stand before I met him and ... (285 words)

My boyfriend is constantly rejecting me for sex and its making me feel ugly and not at all confident

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend now for quite some time. We have always had a wild and awesome sex life, and I can't say I've ever really been disappointed... until recently. My boyfriend has always had a very high sex drive for me, and I for him. Lately, however, I feel as ... (481 words)

My girlfriend became distant and ignored me for the holidays claiming she needed to be with her family. Should I end things?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - my girlfriend has been very distant since the holiday season started we're in college, and we've been dating 2 years, she's 19, i'm 23, i started college a bit late but i'm doing great, got a 4.0 last sem... anyway we are in a lot of classes together and we work tog... (590 words)

Is there such a thing as a second and last chance for love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my bf for 3 years and want to get some advise on what to do from here. I have no one to talk to and need to vent too. Our relationship has been a rocky on and off, I cheated, he cheated, I kicked him out, he got deported, cheated on me and lied about it, I mo... (470 words)

How do I move on from the breakup of a 10 year relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm in a dilemma. My girlfriend of 10 years has just broken up with me. I loved her with all my heart and soul. We were together sinceour high school years, she was 15 and, I was 18. We spent every chance we got with each other, like lovebirds. We had such a deep and ... (487 words)

My girlfriend said there will be no more sex because I asked her about a man I seen her with!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi,I'm kind of confused my girlfriend just sms ed me that she's is not going to open her legs for me. Due to the fact that I saw her with a man walking down the street so I stop gave her a lift to her home,to cut the story short at night before sleep I tried to ask her who was ... (116 words)

Should I tell my ex that I found out he's bipolar and I'm ok with it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age - I've been seeing this guy for about 1yr and even though he is gentle and sweet, he has a dark side that I could detect. I"ve even seen it a couple of times. I recently found out that he is bipolar and he's asked me not to contact him again. I found medicine he was taking in his ... (157 words)

I lied to my ex and lead him to believe that I wasn't a virgin. Should I tell him the truth now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (?) age 30-35 - Hi cupids, I was always ashamed of being a virgin and had promised never to tell whoever I lost it to. Everyone thinks am experienced. I lied to my current ex boyfriend about my virginity. I always acted like I was not a virgin and he noticed he couldn't get inside me. I still ... (157 words)

Do birthdays decrease in importance as we age?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear aunt and uncles Do birthdays decrease on importance as we age? I ask because my mother who is 55 will have her birthday on the middle of January. I have to move to a new city due to work and school, and I have to be on the new city on the 10th to get my apartment key... (303 words)

My friend would be perfect for me but I don't love him. How can I fall in love with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a really big problem. I know some will say i am a 'friendzoner' idiot, but I dont know what to do. I am in a relationship with a guy that I love. I feel I love him and I like every inch of him. I cannot really tell what is what I like. We cannot talk without arguing ... (258 words)

Husband went to lunch with female co worker and admitted to masturbating about her is that normal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

3 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Three days before I married my husband, he shared that he had been having lunch with a female co-worker for two-years. I asked him to stop this as he wasn't taking me to lunch and I felt it was innappropriate. He realized that he wouldn't want me to do this and supported my ... (356 words)