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female
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anonymous
writes:I met someone a few months ago. He is a lot older than me (15 years) and when I met him he was just finishing a relationship and we had a few dates. We spent the night together a few weeks ago but he wasn't sure about it because of just coming out of a relationship, he was confused so we agreed to leave things until he knows what he wantsThe thing is I really want to see him again but I don't know what to do. Should I get in touch with him or wait for him to contact me?Its been a few weeks now and I have not heard from him. I am worried he did not enjoy our night together (I am not very experienced) and maybe this is a way out for him so I feel very insecure. What do I do?
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reader, Red591  +, writes (20 March 2013):
 he slept with and was immediately unsure? no contact? let that piece of garbage go. We all get duped but the best we can do is not chase or show that we are bothered. In the end, all we have is our dignity and in the long run, it is much more important than that shmuck
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2013):
 I am sure he enjoyed your night together... he's just not interested in a relationship now....
since you agreed to leave things till he knows what he wants... he'll contact you if he wants....
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reader, oldbag +, writes (1 February 2013):
 Hi
Sounds like he was still in the relationship or decided not to end it and therefore won't be in touch.
Its nothing to do with you, no reflection on anything you have done. Next time though,wait before having sex until your 100% sure they are free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): Hi, sorry if after sleeping with you he has not contacted, sounds liek he just want sex and no strings, especially since he just came out of a relationship. Dont contact him and move on. It woul dworst if he tell you "he is not into you", or not interested in anything serious.
Dont get involved with men that are on the rebound!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): you were a rebound, you can contact him but it seems to me that you were used to help him get over it...remember men dont think with there heads they think with there...ya know...
sorry but from what i just read, you were just a way for him to feel better..
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reader, chinana  +, writes (1 February 2013):
 Dearest in the future try not to sleep with a man who is not offering you a commitment especially when you want something serious. Chances are you get emotionally attached and he will tell you he is isnt ready for that, then you will just get hurt. Your lack of experience in the bedroom is not the issue here, its just he isnt ready for a serious relationship. You can contact him if you wish but dont expect him to have changed his mind. Also be wary that he might agree to see you, but if he still isnt over his past relationship then its not worth pursuing anything romantic or sexual with this man. Goodluck OP.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 February 2013):
I can't pretend to know what his motives are but I'm confident you inexperience in the bedroom was absolutely not the reason he hasn't contacted you.
I'm reasonably sure it was a matter of not wanting a commitment since he just got out of a relationship. I've been there I know how he feels.
The bottom line is that you probably just met him at the wrong time in his life. You shouldn't be afraid to contact him if you want closure, just don't take anything personal.
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