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writes:How long it takes to move on from a broken heart in a relationship when you plan to stay single for some time (atleast a year or more) .A relationship which wasn't always perfect but it had its good sides! and how to make it easy to move on?
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (1 February 2013):
15 min. Sorry, make that 5 min.
As I look back on my life, some of the only time I have regretted was wallowing over a break up. Its pure wasted time, and every women that I wallowed over I ended up being ultimately overjoyed she was gone.
Wallowing over a past relationship is pure wasted time that you will regret. Move past and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your time, answers and reading it. I really appreciate it.
I am sure your answers have made me feel much better and on the path of healing.
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reader, poppleton +, writes (31 January 2013):
I don't know. But I do know that it is made MUCH quicker if you have NO contact with this person. It is amazing how many hopes and wishes can be fed by hearing your ex's voice, seeing them etc. It may seem hard to block them out of your life entirely, but just a few days of this can make a tremendous difference. Also, make plans for your own future...days, weeks and months ahead so you imagine your future without this person.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 January 2013):
 FWIW I have taken as short as 6 weeks to get over long term relationships (my first marriage as it was clearly dead) and as long as 10 months (for a shorter marriage that was just a huge mistake but where I was at the time required more healing)
I can tell you now that if my husband of 4 months that I have been with 2.5 years left me today I do not think I would ever recover enough to date again....
EVERY person is different and EVERY RELATIONSHIP that person has is different. Proceed accordingly.
You will sense when you are ready. And if you drag it out, then you need to seek therapy as you may be using the mourning of the loss of the relationship as a way to avoid new relationships.
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reader, R1 +, writes (31 January 2013):
 I read somewhere you allowed to mope for a month ie stay in/feel sorry for yourself etc. then you get up leave the house and start moving on. When I split up with my ex I stayed in and moped about depressed for a month because I knew it 'was ok' - made me feel so much better!
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (31 January 2013):
 My doctor told me one month for each year of the relationship. I actually think it can be a lot longer and is only really stopped when you meet someone new.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 January 2013):
depends on lots of things..
how old you are
how long you were together
how bad was the breakup
if you pretend to stay friends or not..
our rule as younger women(late 20s and such) was
6 weeks of full blown misery mourning... ice cream, no make up no hair done, sunglasses to cover the puffy eyes... obsession is acceptable
NO contact with the object of the break up....
after 6 weeks you may still hurt but you have to pull up your big girl panties and get on with life after 6 weeks.
I usually bounced back fairly quickly... but I had one period where i was at nearly a year before I even wanted to entertain the idea of new friends... or relationships...
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