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writes:I don't know where to start but a year and 2 months ago I lost the love of my life. We broke up a few months before he passed away and saw each other once after we broke up. I never stopped loving him, I would be obsessed with reading his facebook, thinking about him. Walking past his house and his friends just to see if I would bump into him. We was only together 3 months and that's how long I knew him cos when we met we literally got into a relationship a couple days after. So I only knew him 9 months. Its crazy but I love him. Since he's been gone not a day goes by that I don't talk to him, miss him, I cry occasionally. I've tried to move on with other guys but no one holds a candle to him. I just want him. When we broke up it felt like I was in mourning but now I'm actually greiving. Still after all this time. I don't even know if he cared for me and loved me as much as I do him (he always told me he loved me) but I don't know if I should feel this heartbroken. When I talk about him to others I feel they get annoyed. I can't help it though. I just want him here, even if its not with me, I just want him to be on this earth living the life he deserves. It hurts so much. When I talk to him I don't even know if he's listening. I always ask him to give me a sign to know if he can hear me but I don't get nothing. How can I get over this. I still have a good life, go out and enjoy myself but Callum is always on my mind, watching what I do just incase he's watching me. The way I talk to him is like he's actually next to me and he's replying. Its weird. I don't know what's wrong with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): Hi, you are going to lose your sanity if you dont stop dwelling in the past. Yes you may have loved him but its over, remember that whether he was alive is irrelevant as the "relationship" was over. You can speculate and say he would have wanted you back - but you are then living in a fantasy world - this relationship was not meant to be.
Get help and start living, go out with friends and its time to consider other potentional BF as your relationship was over before he died, yo just dont want to let go. I suspect that it may have something to do with how you were brought up and the trials you went through that have made you obsessive about either getting what you cant have or letting go. Seek help before your live goes by and you are an old, sad, drunk woman.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 January 2013):
 It's been 14 months since this young man died.
You knew him a mere 9 months and only dated 3 months out of this (at the beginning of knowing him)
What you are "in love with" is the idea of him.... you barely knew him... you nave no clue about things that actually went on..
was his death due to an accident? car? drugs?
How can you get over it? YOU find a good therapist to help you work through why you are HIDING behind this very minor relationship. You worry that he's watching you? why does this worry you.. he was your EX when he died. UNLESS you caused his death you should have let this go a while ago.
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