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Archived questions from: 29 January, 2013 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Hate my toxic work place, where cheating is the norm. How can people cheat and not feel guilty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I am really hating my workplace at the moment I feel that its really poisoness. Everyone seems to be cheating on everyone else and I am the only who seems to think its disgusting. One girl at work was giving me all this relationship advice with my girl friend going on about he... (290 words)

He's 24. I told him I was 18. How can I tell him the truth that I'm 17 and not lose him when I do tell?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4307 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I'm 17 years old and iv met a guy and we have been seeing each other for about a month and we really like each other. However, I told him I was 18 as we met in a bar that I got into. He's 24. I want to tell him that I'm actually 17, but scared he might get upset and ne... (75 words)

Never violent, nor unfaithful. But we did horrible things to each other. Yet I love her still. How can I get over her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

29 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I was with the most amazing woman in the world! The time we spent together was the most amazing time I have spent with anyone. We got each other on every level. Mentally and physically! When things were good they were the best they have ever been! I am so in love with this wom... (248 words)

Does this 'ho ho ho' mean a laugh or a prostitute?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi there! I recently went into hospital to have an operation, and my partner who I've been seeing for nearly a year has been looking after me and has been my rock really, well I noticed in his inbox on facebook a message from his mate asking how he was etc etc then he aske... (170 words)

how can I stop myself from sabotaging this wonderful relationship with my own paranoia and jealousy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my current boyfriend for four months. He was an acquaintance who I knew as a friend of several different friends of mine, one of which he was involved in a casual sexual relationship with for about a month. He needed a house to stay at for a couple of months ... (360 words)

My 2 friends are in a FWB relationship but she's sending him mixed signals!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4305 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Two friends of mine are currently having "fun" with each other. The guy is one of my best friends, and the girl is his coworker. She's not looking for a relationship right now, and he's simply living in the moment. What's confusing my friend (and myself since he tells m... (268 words)

How do I let a friend know I don't want to date him without disclosing my relationship status which is changing soon?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my lovely boyfriend for a year and a half. We have had a great relationship but recently have seen him more like a best friend than boyfriend... I just don't fancy him any more, much as I care about him, and it's getting really horrible and awkward. I have not ... (360 words)

Bestfriend is depressed and I am tired of being the rock.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my best friend Lucy have been best friends for almost 3 years, we do lots of things together, have classes together and hang out all the time. She's always been quite high maintenance, she's very insecure and makes up for this by acting overly arrogant, so to everyone ... (700 words)

Does barely legal porn set a trigger for middle-aged men when young teenage girls come into their visual range

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age - My boyfriend of 51 years of age likes Barely Legal Porn. That is the only type of porn he likes. He buys the cd's and also the Barely Legal Magazines. He tags the magazine pages with sticky notes of the young girls that he likes. What I have noticed, and I am assuming it i... (546 words)

Is it normal to hardly know someone after going out on 2 dates?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it normal to barely know someone after 2 dates? I'm 20 years old, recently met this 21 year old guy that comes to my university, we both live near campus and have seen each other twice. First time he came around to my house and the 2nd time I went around to his. (we live... (372 words)

My girlfriend does not know if she would marry me, but ultimately wants to be married.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I started dating my girlfriend back in 2010, and for me it became love at first sight. She felt the same and then we started the relationship and everything was perfect. I will admit, I was not the most emotional person and I tend to express my love by giving and providing ( ... (548 words)

How can we help our daughter get through college when she's being bullied about being masculine?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Our 18-year-old daughter told us she had something to announce yesterday. We waited to hear, and were surprised by what she said; she admitted she felt like she should have a gender reassignment [her words!] and that people bully her in college [where she studies computin... (546 words)

Should I date a guy who's shorter and younger than me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid! I'm a 17-years old girl and there's this 15-years old boy, we kind of like each other. But wouldn't it be weird to date him? People would talk about us. Also he is a few cm shorter than me, I think, and to be honest, looks more like my little brother! It's said... (84 words)

Advice needed regarding catching my girlfriend sexting

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a 36 year old guy who has been in a relationship with a lady whom I met online 6 months ago. We have become very close but last weekend I found text messages on her phone to at least 3 other men that were explicit in nature ( in both words and pictures that were sent and ... (425 words)

Why did my B/f have three naked pictures of the same girl on his phone?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my partner nearly two years now, he has never been the type to admire any other girls ever.. he got a new phone and when he had it I said would you like some pictures of me to get off to when I'm not around he refused and said he doesn't have a pass lock which ... (168 words)

He won't let us sleep in the same bed! How to get our love back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age - Been with my husband 25 years! But we have not slept in the sane bed for 11 years and he lost interest in sex-until 2 years ago when a neighbour came on to him - he does have problem with Erectile Dysfunction. The affair is over -but he still won't let us sleep together... (89 words)

Getting attached too quick... and how do I change my outlook?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

29 January 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi everyone ok i met this woman about 3 months ago its going ok i really like her mores the point i REALLY like her to where im obsessing over her constantly worried as to where i stand with her she has a very successful career as a solicitor where as i just have a basic ... (188 words)

Is my friend really okay with that she's not dating the guy she was with anymore, her actions speak far louder than the words she's telling all of us!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Is my friend really okay with that she's not dating the guy she was with anymore, her actions speak far louder than the words she's telling all of us!! She was seeing this guy for a few months, but he ended things with them so suddenly and in a careless way for her feelings... (495 words)

My ex is threatening me by saying that unless I get back with him, he will assassinate my character and ruin me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - i am from India..i am in a major trouble. i broke up with my boyfriend because he was so manipulative and controlling. he made my life like hell.In the initial days of our relationship i gave him my gmail and facebook password.Not even in my dreams i thought that he will ... (312 words)

Escape from this narcissistic lover

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4099 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age - My lover is a Narcissist but perhaps this is it.. First off all I am going to post a link so you can see what has been happening http://www.dearcupid.org/question/jekyll-and-hyde-narcissistic-personality-disorder-what-is.html Its been an absolute struggle one day... (382 words)

Her need to pee is really getting in the way of our sex life

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - my girlfriend stops me in the middle of sex frequently and says she is afraid she needs to pee. i hate to say it, but it's beginning to ruin the mood, as it's hard to get into it when she's stopping all the time. now don't get me wrong, i undertand that this happens sometime... (207 words)

Your thoughts on this? He's verbally abusive, spends time online gaming and watching porn. Have to ask him for his % share of bills. Is this relationship working or is there an answer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - hey guys i am writing this because i am at the end of tether with this man who is supposed to be my husband. We have been married for 4 years and it was long distance. I moved to the US about a year ago and since coming here my relationship has gone downhill 100%. ... (539 words)

Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone? BACKGROUND: My ex-boyfriend and I dated for three years in university then broke up. Before we split up we never fought. We are both down-to-earth and had only dated one other person before. We talked ab... (394 words)

Is 22 too young for a man to really settle down? Do we know each other well enough to make this decision?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 21, I went to school with this guy, that we will call GUY. So..we have texted and talked via facebook/text for a while, off and on, but for these last few weeks we have talked heavily. All day everyday. We can't hang out at this moment because he is on the boats, whil... (168 words)

Any tips to help me get over this and move on? I am about to break up with him. He's happy I'm leaving. His teenage children rule the house. He refuses to back me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, I won't make this too long but would really appreciate some of your views. My partner has asked me to move out of his house. We have been together 5 years and i moved in 3 1/2 years ago away from all my family and friends. He has 2 kids that are here at weekends and... (714 words)

Is my Bf bi-sexual or gay? He says he's shared oral sex with guys. Do I seem to have a closed mind?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4283 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of 3 months recently told me that has fooled around with men before. He hasn't had sex with them, just oral. I wasn't ok with this when he told me and I am having a really hard time with it. A lot of people tell me that if a guys even has thoughts about b... (88 words)

Am I over-reacting? Should he have left me alone? Was I right to refuse to go to a place where I'd be the only woman?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - So here's my story. I'm visiting my fiance where he stays due to work. Yesterday he wanted us to go watch soccer at his friend's place (actually home boy), I refused to go because I don't know his friend's friends and I was going to be the only girl there. So he went any... (164 words)

Everything things my guy and I have the perfect relationship. But I feel confused and I'm thinking of breaking up or cheating. I already talk online to a guy. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey, sorry for being dramatic about this but I didn't know where else to go for help, thanks for reading. I've been with my boyfriend since 2009, and he is 3 years older than me. I came out when we started dating, and it was hard, very difficult with my family, with mys... (403 words)

Do I tell this girl my real feelings for her? But then there's my friend, and I know he likes her too.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - well this girl that I like lets call her girl A I met through being friends with this other girl lets call her girl B and by the way girl A and girl B are really good friends. The problem I have is that I really enjoy being friends with girl B and I don't want to do anything... (325 words)

Married four years and she does not want to work. I'm ready to walk. What would you advise?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

29 January 2013 (M)

age - Hi I have a question we been Married four years. Before that she was working. Now she feels she doesn't have to work. I talk to her about getting a job. She won’t do it, and I'm tired of doing it all. He is no help. Instead she wants me to do a lot. I'm ready to walk. What w... (63 words)

What to do? He's abusive to me and humiliates me. I've lost confidence in myself, and in him, because he shares everything about us with his friends

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I just want know what to do with a boyfriend that listens to his friends advices for almost everything. When we planned to buy a house he took all the documents about what was happening.and talked to his friends. He has been abusive to me and then he talks about it t... (144 words)

Got dumped by BBM and then he deleted me as a contact as soon as I read it

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - If you are familiar with BBM you will know that someone knows when their message has been delivered and then eventually read. Today I got dumped by BBM and then as soon as he saw that I had read the message, he deleted me! What a coward!! Duh... I do have an email for him. ... (516 words)

My boyfriend watches an inordinate amount of porn.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like this is a question that's been asked over and over again, and will probably be asked again many times in the future. My boyfriend watches an inordinate amount of porn. He's 22. While the fact that he's watching porn seriously bugs me, it's the constant lying ab... (219 words)

I do have herpes, but not more than that. But was he being flippant, or weird with his response, "that he'd still like me even if I did have AIDS"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I went to high school with this guy a few years ago. I lived in a small town so we all knew each other. I have started "talking" to him and we have grown so close, we have not had sex. Well, this may be TMI but, I have herpes. And I was too scared to tell him so i decided... (220 words)

He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4309 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very tender and kind outside the bed,... (604 words)

I feel lost without my boyfriend and just want to contact him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 January 2013 (?) age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago, over the phone. It was a somewhat mutual breakup once I found out who he was. Our morals and lifestyles are far too different to make a serious relationship work (he is a serious partier, smoker and occasional ecstasy user; I'm a ... (336 words)

I've been offered treatment for my bi polar disorder...Will it help me and should I sign up for it and postone my career.?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

29 January 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone, this question is for anyone who has experience of BPD, and the best available treatments. Please only answer if you have specific experience in this field. Basically, I have recently been offered a place on a three day a week treatment programme at a well know... (209 words)