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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I've been dating a "seperated" man for 6 years and starting to feel like his mistress

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been dating a man for over 6 years. I am divorced - he is not although he has been separated for 7 years. My issue is that every Xmas I am by myself for most of the day, while he flys with his ex and their 3 kids to spend Xmas with both her family and his. I also have 3 ... (454 words)

Why doesn't he want a relationship with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4269 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I was dating a guy who I met on a dating site for two months. He actually stated that he wants a relationship and so do I. Our dates were really fun at first, we seemed pretty compatible. I've even met his friends and they all liked me but he was definitely the quietest out of ... (199 words)

Not a player, but I'd like to be...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm, 22, not a "player" or a guy who sleeps with loads of girls (in fact I've slept with 0) but I really want to be one, I don't feel like I am a man unless I have slept with a respectable amount of girls. Is this a good desire? I desperately want to be like that (Barney Sti... (72 words)

How can I rekindle the love we had?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Me and my ex have been broken up for ten months after a ten month relationship. He was finalizing his divorce and making sure that it was over with his ex. We are now talking again and i would like to get things back, he is leary. He is coming around more and we get along grea... (97 words)

Has he ruined me?

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11 April 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Anyone Over 2 yrs ago I started a relationship with a man of a very dominating religion. It was no problem for him to `see' me as he was never serious about me, in fact it was so he could try to obtain his visa and convert me. It is now 8 mths since I finally ended... (445 words)

How do I tell my 12 year old that the man she calls daddy isn't her real father?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm married with 3 kids. The eldest is the result of a fling I had overseas. I came back and met up with my ex, who was never over me. We got together and then I told him I was pregnant and we got married. My daughter was only 5lb and I pretended she was premature. Me and my ... (162 words)

I thought he wanted me to get pregnant but after I lost the baby, he told me to go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi i really hope you can help me i recently went through a miscarriage we had decided to try for a baby i fell straight away we were so happy about it we talked about spending our lives together things changed afterwards he started saying i wasn't a housewife and was awful ... (101 words)

Am I overreacting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. Ever since we met we have pretty much been connected at the hip. We have been talking for hours and hours every day. We have pretty much spent the past 7 years together, like every day except for maybe when we had to vacation at ... (435 words)

Is it bad that I crave sex more than we have it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm currently in a relationship with someone who I love very much. Not only is he smart, quirky and good-looking, but he's wonderful in bed. I always find myself thinking/fantasizing about him. My only complaint within our relationship is that we don't have sex often enough for ... (139 words)

Can anyone help with suggestions on how I talk to him about it or just manage to move on and forget about him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Will try cut a long story short...I have known a guy all my life, we grew up together and drifted apart as we grew older. I still saw him on occasions and it just so happened that we both had feelings for one another. Things never got too serious (was hard to see each other ... (278 words)

I never got the reason why ex broke up with me and I still wonder. Does anyone else feel this way?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3992 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - No Contact is supposed to help you heal. Blocking my ex out of my life ever since the break up has helped me in a lot of ways, but it has left me so curious. He has no way of contacting me, unless he wanted to show up to my house, I haven't contacted him, and we haven't had any ... (296 words)

Are the people around me just forgetful? Or am I too brash and lacking empathy with people? I have a habit of putting people down when I reply to them if I think they've told me something before..

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11 April 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I was in trouble yesterday with my husband. He told me my behaviour was too much. We have gatherings of my club, that basically is for Italians. I’m not Italian but speak the language. One guy there asked at least 5 times if I'm Italian. I patiently told him no, a... (277 words)

He calls me whore bitch slut. Blames me for his poor grades at college. Says he'll marry me if I change college to his. What should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - hey My Bf is 18 and we are in serious about our relationship....... We have ups and downs. We love each other..... Still virgins Now the problem is 1) He asked me to join in his college. Then I joined in another college of my parents’ choice PS: - the college I hav... (150 words)

Why would my friend say that we are better as friends, and later start coming on stronger?

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11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Why would a fella say to you that we are better as mates and then start coming on stronger when i told him that's ok we have been friends for years and few months back said we had feelings for each other and he was going to dump gf for me and then he said that to me. We ta... (79 words)

Anxiety attacks. How can I get my Dad to understand that anxiety is a real condition?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I suffer from high anxiety, and have for a while now. It is mostly related to the stress of college and academics. I also occasionally get panic attacks. I have suffered in my grades because of this, but I am doing my best. It's a process, and I'm trying to get better. M... (183 words)

Troubled relationship with my mother. She's always analysing every little word I say to see if I lie. How can I resolve this situation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone, I really need help, I don't know what's going on with me. I don't know why I feel this way or what's made me feel this way. But I really really dislike my mum, we have had so many ups and downs, we've been through everything together as a team when I was very you... (324 words)

Low sex drive? How do I be a normal woman towards my husband and want sex like other women do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been married for 3yrs now and with 2 children, but right from time I have been that kind of girl who doesn't usually get moved by sex. Right from my university days I have been so protective of myself and the fact of not getting used made me to avoid being with men alth... (503 words)

I feel exhausted trying to care for and look out for my family when so many of them seem to have mental health issues. What can I do? Can such things be genetic?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age - I wonder if someone has similar experiences. So I have a very tragic family life, with many level, of undiagnosed,unexplained mental issues. I mean, different family members have different very serious issues, ,but there are no specific diagnosis can be made. That is c... (252 words)

I know my self esteem is low. But his list of "RULES" is so long. What should I do about his verbal abuse?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I know the post is long, please read it through and help me. I have been with this person for 3 years, I cook, clean after him, work and pay 3/4 of expenses at home, get him nice gifts for his birthdays and Christmas, never ask for marriage or for anything, oth... (341 words)

What's the gentlemanly thing to do about transport for a date, if we go out for drinks? Should I pick her up in a Taxi on the way to the venue?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a date with a girl soon and we're going for drinks. I just dont know what to do and what is more "gentlemanly" regarding getting there and back. I wont be driving cause i'll be drinking and the place we are going is too far away to walk. So getting there: I dont... (112 words)

Guys, how generous are you about spending money on your girlfriend? Do guys tend to spend more on a Gf than girls spend on a guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - How much money do you spend on your girlfriend generally? Girls, do you find that your boyfriend spends more money on you than you do on him? Excluding birthdays, christmas etc. It seems that traditionally the guys are meant to spend more money in the relationships than t... (244 words)

22 years old and I really want a relationship. How do I avoid being seen as desperate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been looking for a relationship since I was 15 and after a first awkward date at 17, I simply stopped pursuing women with intentions of a relationship. I feel like I'm so inexperienced that no woman would want to be with me. All the women I know and some of the ones I f... (208 words)

Is it possible for 34 year old man be interested in 26 year old woman? I am separated with 3 children.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4265 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok so I'm a 26 year old single mom of three young kids. I've been seperated from my husband for a year and a half, we need to save money for a divorce. Anyways i jus met a 34 year old man about 2 weeks ago but only been talking for a week. i met him on my birthday at a ba... (125 words)

My life doesn't revolve around my relationship. So how can I get my New Love off my mind some of the time? I want to be with him ALL the time.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in this relationship where we've been talking for at least a year and only actually "title status" for a few months. I held back my feelings because I was afraid of finding out whether he was a bad guy or not because he's been in my life for 10 years. He waited for me a... (352 words)

I was there for him when he faced a tough challenge. Now he does not want to know me. Do you guys think I am too sensitive?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey aunts. My problem has to do with my best friend. We know each other for years and in the past 2 years we have been practically inseperable. We saw each other every day and when we didn't we were on the phone to each other. Last year, his partner tragically died ... (672 words)

How to stop fighting with my Bf? Or how to discuss things more amicably? Some of the mean things he says are hard to forget.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I fight all the time where we bring out the worst in each other. Is this healthy? I love him and we have really good times but sometimes some of the things he says to me are really hard to forget i don't want to go through this stress with anyone else wh... (88 words)

Is it over or am I being led on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Back at the beginning of february my boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me. He then suggested that we continue for the next two weeks till it was a year. Stupidly I agreed to this even though I knew it would only hurt more, I just would have done anything for a bit more ... (319 words)

How do I confront my cheating Fiance without making her angry because I spyed into her emails?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age - How do you let your fiance know that you know she is cheating without her getting mad because you have been looking at her email that she keeps leaving open, most recent email to her "friend" "I still want to meet with you. I want to try if you are available to meet Saturday... (123 words)

How can I stop myself having inappropriate thoughts in the form of sexual fantasies about guys who are co-workers?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4267 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - here deal i'm 25 never dated, slept with anyone. It part by choice and timing. I both studying, working kind lost interest in pub n night life after most of my mates got married and popping out new life into this world. I refuse to dsate/kiss/sleep with someone, just fo... (237 words)

Wife is building a relationship with the builder while I sit home and give her space!

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11 April 2013 (M)

age - I am 58 and my wife is 49 and wehave been happily together for 18 years and although the marriage has become a bit mundane I feel there is no excuse for her behaviour. She had been very protective of her phone of late causing me to become very suspicious, and eventually I found ... (660 words)

Fiance gets it all in the bed but I am left wanting?

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11 April 2013 (?) age 41-50 - Hello everyone, well I'm getting married in a month. My fiance has proved he's not cheating. Of course I still have trust issues. But that's not the problem today. My problem is he is a little selfish in bed. Whenever he wants sex or a BJ, he gets it. I might be in the mood but ... (144 words)

GF is cheating and I don't see it?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been dating my jealous, possessive, demanding and highly strung girlfriend for just over 2 years. I have constantly tried and failed to meet her demands and expectations. Her jealousy occasionally turns violent and emotional if she ever gets drunk. I try to reassure her, ... (147 words)

Ex still an active roll in my BF life, how do I manage this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My little girl was on my boyfriends phone playing a game and showed me that someone had text. it was his ex girlfriend but the entire conversation was deleted and it was her replying obviously to something he'd said.Its making me really down in the dumps. They split up 10 ... (211 words)

Sexual Abuse at 12 and now addicted to masturbation, help

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - am a boy aged 19 and single.when i was 12.my brother took me to his friend.he was a man.when we get there.the man sent my brother to market.while i was in the house waiting for my brother.the man came closer to me and he took my hand into his trouser.he told me to masturbate ... (109 words)

We agreed at the inception of the relationship, no contact with EX, I find out my GF is lying, but I still want her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Well i will start with the basics. I am in a long distance with my current girlfriend. We met online(was never intending to date online, but we met and just clicked..and here we are) We are both 23 years old. We have been together for around 6 months now. We have yet to meet ... (945 words)

My BF is not pursuing marriage any more he decided to find himself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been living with this guy close to one year now.everything has been ok and had plans to visit each others parents and our parents know about it.our plan was marriage but he suddenly changed. Like he says he is not sure of what he wants and when I ask why he says he ... (163 words)

Found out by snooping so I can't confront him about his ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I´ve been with my bf almost two years. I really love him, he loves me,he´s caring,we laugh together,we match..But. There is one big BUT that I see in our relationship and that he doesn´t know of. It´s that he is friends with his ex who he dated like 4 years. A... (303 words)

My BF will not pop the question and I want the whole nine yards!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Is there a reason why a man doesn't marry his long term girlfriend/mother of his children? My boyfriend is 23 and I'm 23 in a few months. I've been with my boyfriend over 4 years and we have a toddler together. I got pregnant 9 months into the relationship (obviously not ... (353 words)

I want Sex and my GF is happy without it, what am I missing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - My girlfriend and I have almost no sex life anymore. I've tried talking to her about this. She tells me that she just "doesn't feel like sex". The problem is that she seems to be happy to go without sex forever, but I just can't do that - I gave her some space once and ended up ... (262 words)

Is he interested I me or just a Flirt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - How do you know if a guy likes you or not. I know this may seem simple but I find myself in a very confused situation. I am doing an internship for my professor as an undergraduate. There is a graduate student working with the professor doing research. I help both of them. I ... (183 words)

Our text life is not going well, nor is our LDR, help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - I have been dating my girlfriend for almost seven months now, and it seems like at the beginning of our relationship everything was good and we always talked and had a good time. Keeping in mind that this is a long distance relationship. Now she keeps saying that she is feeling ... (176 words)

I give expensive gifts because I think it'll keep them interested in me for longer!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, Background: I never really had a father -daughter relationship with my dad,we never were really close,but he would always give me the pocket money as a child and give me anything I would point on! Fast forward to now, This has become kind of a pattern with m... (181 words)

Emmotionally too dependant on an abusive GF, Please help me ?

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11 April 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - hi, am 21 yrs old..to start off, i was in a relationship with a girl before and she cheated on me and went with some other guy.. this fact made me emotionally very sensitive and insecure..after six months another girl said she loves me and wanted to be my girl firend. i knew ... (918 words)

How to get my abusive husband to leave?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, everyone. I have been with my husband for 8 years,he is emotionally and financially abusive and I want him to leave my home but he won't. I want to get him out but I do not want to get police involved because I have children and it will affect them. The place where I live ... (74 words)

Would a BJ make a difference if the BF has a low sex drive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Want to give my boyfriend spontaneous blow job, but lately his sex drive has been really low and i'm afraid if i attempt to give him a spontaneous blowjob he's going to shut me down or something...should i just take a chance and go for it? or no?... (48 words)

Jealous BF has a weekend away with friends and it includes a woman that has a crush on him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am quite jealous of another girl my boyfriend knows. I know this girl is a big flirt and I've seen her flirt with my boyfriend several times. About 3 people have told me that this girl has told them that she really likes my boyfriend. Problem for me is, my boyfriend and a ... (318 words)

Piles and Anal sex, is it painful?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - MY GF HAS PROBLEM OF PILES 6MONTH BEFORE BT IT STILL PAINS.. NOT REGULAR LIKE BEFORE BUT IN THE GAP OF 2-3 WEEKS FOR 1-2 DAY.. I WANT TO KHOW THAT CAN'T BE CURED FOR PERMANENT??? AND IF WE WANT TO DO ANNEL SEX IN FUTURE CAN WE OR NOW IT IS NOT POSSIBLE?????... (56 words)

Is this what marriage is today?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this couple. They have been married for 5 years and have a 4 year old daughter. The husband is a player and every now and then he's involved with many girls. He did this before marriage and after marriage as well but his wife married him and has no objections with him ... (571 words)

I want my Manager...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I just started working at a new job and one of my managers is so attractive. I can't help finding myself fantasizing about being with him whenever I'm at work. I think he is attracted to me.. I'm 19 and he's in his late twenties but even despite that there's definitely a little ... (107 words)

Why does my boyfriend continue to be friends with this woman? It really upsets me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4273 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I really think this is a serious problem but I don't know if it's just me or not. My boyfriend is friends with a woman who doesn't like me and bullied me in High School (my boyfriend did not go to our school). He met her through friends of his a couple of month... (485 words)

I feel like second best to boyfriends' ex-girlfriends...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, I don’t even know where to begin this. I am so confused. I basically feel like second best in my relationship with my boyfriend; he is 26 and I am 22 going on 23. I feel so stupid because I know most of you are going to think that I’m crazy. My boyfriend and I ... (581 words)

I think my girlfriend lied about being a virgin

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Well my girlfriend had said that she had almost had sex with someone I know before we were dating but the way she had told the story made me feel as though she was lying she said she was a virgin (as was I) when we first had sex but she didn't react the way I heard most peop... (112 words)

I want to change and be a better healthier person, both mentally and physically - Advice please??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey all! I'm extremely tired of the life I'm living and the mental attitude I have towards it. As far as I can remember, I have always had low self esteem, slightly overweight, allowing others to walk all over me, needy for constant affection, overly sensitive and tend t... (209 words)

Feeling disconnected from my LDR

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

11 April 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm engaged and in college, it's somewhat of a long distance relationship though. I moved away for university, and he's doing the same. I was very scared about the distance, I know they hardly ever work out. Well lately I've been feeling very disconnected from him, and suddenly ... (139 words)

Not sure if she's waiting for me to make the next move?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4269 days ago

11 April 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Met this girl on a night out at the start of march. We talked, laughed and ended up kissing in the club. Exchanged numbers and text back and forth quite a bit for a few days before I asked her out for a date. The 1st date went great, we talked and got along really well and she ... (505 words)