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writes:Met this girl on a night out at the start of march. We talked, laughed and ended up kissing in the club. Exchanged numbers and text back and forth quite a bit for a few days before I asked her out for a date. The 1st date went great, we talked and got along really well and she came back to mine where we continued to have a few drinks and eventually began fooling around kissing and dry humping. She stayed the night but we didn't have sex or get too intimate as we didn't want to potential ruin a great night. During that night she mentioned feeling that we had good chemistry.A week of almost constant texting later we went out again, had dinner and ended up having drinks in a bar afterwards, held hands as I walked her to the train station (she had family stuff early next morning so couldn't stay). We cuddled and continued kissing while waiting for her train. Again a week later we went out a 3rd time to see a film she had been talking about on the 2nd date. We kissed when meeting at the cinema, held hands on the way out and went to a bar for drinks afterwards. She had work that night (she manages a club/bar) so didn't stay but we kissed again waiting at the train station. She actually missed 2 trains and was late to work because of our date but didn't seem to mind as she kept proposing we have another drink until her next train. She again seemed to be enjoying my company.The next day while she was at work and I was in bed we text a bit more, she said she had fun on the third date. That weekend was my mates birthday and I knew she was going out that weekend with friends anyway so I didn't get in touch until the Sunday evening. She got back to me lunchtime on Monday while I was at work, I replied and haven't heard back from her now for over 2 days.Do I give her space and wait for her to reply? Should I give her a call/leave a voicemail and see how she is doing? I'm probably over analysing this as there have been times in the past we've gone quiet on one another for a few days but usually by now we would have "checked in". Since I was the last to text I don't want to "double text" her and come across as a pest. But at the same time I'm not sure if she's waiting for me to make the next move or not. I do have a plan on wanting to ask her out for a 4th date and would like to approach her about it, but I'm not sure if her sudden silence means it's a bad decision to do so or not...Any help or pointers appreciated!
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reader, Joey89 +, writes (14 April 2013):
Joey89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo she text me back on Friday afternoon saying she was sorry, that she had been bowled over by work and had been organising moving house in 4 weeks time. Two things I admit I was aware she may have to deal with as we discussed it previously. She asked how I'd been and I text back asking what she was up to this weekend but I've not received a response since.
Is it best to just give her some space and see what happens? I don't want to give the impression I've lost or am losing interest in her. But I hate the idea of maybe coming across as needy or something.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (11 April 2013):
I want to reiterate what Cerberus said: don't try and read minds. Men and women have so many issues because they're always trying to read minds or expecting the other person to do so.
That doesn't mean don't ever try and think about what they may leave unsaid. But worrying about the unknown is pointless in your case.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 April 2013):
 "Hey it's me" only works if they recognize the voice....
hope she can associate the voice and the number properly.
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reader, Joey89 +, writes (11 April 2013):
Joey89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies everyone. I just called her, it rang and eventually went to voicemail, I left a message
"Hey it's me, just called to say hi, hope everything's OK, give me a call when you can, thanks!"
Now the waiting game :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): "Not sure if she's waiting for me to make the next move?"
I'm not even going to read what you wrote OP because it no doubt contains a bunch of useless details you're reading far too deeply into and you're just confusing yourself.
The whole process is simple. The only thing you need to be sure of is whether you want to make the next move, if so then go ahead and do that.
why do you need reassurance of what she wants or to know what she's thinking? Are you an amazing mind reader? Are you Derren Brown? No, then just get up of your arse and give her a call with some kind of plan for some fun activity in mind.
OP dating is best done when you shoot from the hip and do what seems fun to you. Never try to read women, or read too deeply into all the little signs. Ignore them, do what you feel and just enjoy the process. She's no the only woman in the world so don't for one second fear messing things up, it's very hard to when you're a nice guy just pursuing a woman who is interested in seeing you again, if she's not then there's not a whole lot you can do to change that anyway, so it's not worth worrying about.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 April 2013):
 I seriously think you need to CALL her and TALK to her.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 April 2013):
Listen, what's the worst that could happen if you ask her on another date and for some reason she's not interested? She'd say no.
From what you say she's definitely interested so don't sweat these kinds of things, just ask her out and if she STILL doesn't reply then I'd leave the ball in her court. Women like to be pursued, it makes them feel special (or something).
Be confident when you ask her out, like you already know she's going to say yes but you need to tell her when and where.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): Try leaving an actual call message. Don't text.
Say: "Hello, hope all is well, call when you can!" Then wait.
People do have emergencies and unexpected things pop up. Also keep in mind she works in a bar. She will meet a lot of men, and her options are open since she isn't officially your girlfriend.
Play it cool, don't jump to conclusions, and don't appear too eager. By most indications, she likes you. Dating doesn't commit anyone to be faithful. She can see other guys until she has made up her mind that she has chosen you.
Keeping all this in mind, and don't jump the gun. The odds are heavily in your favor.
Good luck!
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