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*rew2
writes:I have been dating my girlfriend for almost seven months now, and it seems like at the beginning of our relationship everything was good and we always talked and had a good time. Keeping in mind that this is a long distance relationship. Now she keeps saying that she is feeling sick and when she does decide to text me they are one word answers , and it feels like she is playing games with me but I am not sure. Throughout our relationship I have always been the one to text her first in the morning and see how she is doing, and I visit her every month and she has not once come to visit me, and it seems like this relationship is a one way street when it should really be two. I am not sure but It is really bothering me because I love her very much and I hate not being able to talk to her or text her. If anyone has any advice for me it would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 April 2013):
 I think that you can text her but do not get your hopes up.
I do not think she's as interested as you are.
if you go two weeks with no contact, then it's that' she's not that into you.
when my hubby and I were LDR and finally serious.. we had contact at least twice a day.
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reader, Drew2 +, writes (11 April 2013):
Drew2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for the advice. I know Long distance relationships are hard and when I asked her to start dating me I knew I was going to be moving away and I we both knew it was gonna be difficult but she said yes. I was super happy about it because we have been friends for a while and I really liked her I just didn't know how to say that. My girlfriend turns 18 soon. What I mean by not being able to talk is that when she is feeling moody she only texts me one word answers and with our schedules as busy as they are we are only able to talk like once every two weeks. She says that it is hard for her to text and that it has always been that way. She had been diagnosed with chronic migraines and I think that is where some of the moodiness come from. I haven't texted her in a couple days and she hasn't texted me. Should I try and text her?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 April 2013):
Drew,
I have no comforting words for you sadly.
you are young (16/17) and LDRs are hard when a person is 30something and has time and money. Teens have neither.
I think you need to let her know that your feel like you are the only one making an effort in the relationship and that it's bothering you. I also think you need to be prepared to learn that it's a one sided relationship.
Tell her you are hurt and bothered by her apparent lack of interest in the relationship and that you need her to row the relationship boat a bit too.
As for visiting, have you asked her whys he does not come to you? When my now husband and I were LDR we were always at his place... at first because of his inability to come to my home due to people there, then due to animals... and finally after animals and people were no longer an issue, it was just easier for him to stay in his comfort zone while acclimating to a situation that was not expected or common for him (a serious relationship). I was fine with my doing all the travelling.
How old is your GF?
you say you hate not being able to talk to her or text her but I don't understand... are you not allowed to call her or text her or are you just waiting for her to contact you?
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