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36-40,
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writes:How much money do you spend on your girlfriend generally? Girls, do you find that your boyfriend spends more money on you than you do on him? Excluding birthdays, christmas etc. It seems that traditionally the guys are meant to spend more money in the relationships than the girls, however I'd say that in my relationship it's more equally split as I feel awkward when he buys things for me. My friend has recently got in a new relationship with somebody who pays for literally everything, and takes her out shopping all the time and I've seen her come back with bags of clothes. Since her new relationship, she keeps telling me that I'm taken for granted and never get treated enough etc etc. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and admittedly he doesn't seem to make as much effort with me than what he used to, he's happy watching TV in bed every single night, and I've started to pay for most things such as meals, cinema etc even though I'm at university and he's had a full time job for 4 years. I know that my friend is making me feel low because she's way too spoilt and it's not right, but I was wondering how much a guy likes to treat his girl, and who tends to spend the most in a relationship?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 April 2013):
 If you go to university full time and you are paying for most things and he has a full time job and is not paying for most things... then there's a problem.
you say he's happy watching TV in bed every single night (me too) but are you guys living together? Is he paying to run the household? because then your paying for the going out time seems reasonable if he's paying for food and shelter in the home (and utilities)
IN the old days there was the belief that men earned more than women and women stayed home and made babies and ran the home and that's why the guys always paid....
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 April 2013):
Women have no "right" to be spoiled. If they meet a guy who feels the need and can afford it them so be it. I don't see your bf not spending money as being the issue. The problem is that he's not nurturing your relationship. That's what you need to have a talk about.
Relationships are like a fire; if you stop feeding it then it'll go out.
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