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writes:I know this couple. They have been married for 5 years and have a 4 year old daughter. The husband is a player and every now and then he's involved with many girls. He did this before marriage and after marriage as well but his wife married him and has no objections with him sleeping around and doing drugs. Even marks of love bites on his body doesn't affect her. He talked of his ex gfs sex life live on radio yet she was okay with it. Her husband kisses a woman in front of her and their friends but she doesn't react and laughs instead saying 'get off her". and lets her friend upload the video on Facebook.Her husband is gone a lot from home and her routine since 5 years has been the same. Befriending lots of females, married, single or divorced and partying with them at bars and clubs or hosting wine parties at home. She has contacts with photographers in the city and has hired them to follow them and take lots of pictures of them on streets, at home etc as if they are celebrities. Her friends are doing the same, hiring stylists and photographers to their pictures and this woman pays the photographers heavily. Her husband has no interest in doing this stuff.Her time with her daughter is similar. Dressing her in good clothes, doing makeup on her and taking lots of her pictures and uploading them on her 2 instagram accounts or Facebook which is filled with her teenage girls admirers.Some neighbors also said that she used to come to her parties and behaved like a 21 year old and would leave her hubby and daughter at home and would be gone for hours and come home drunk.Her husband has an illegitimate baby with another young girl but she's set up a makeup business with her friends, using friends/actress like Stephanie Fischer as models which isn't working great and is now making handmade jewelery, including men's and modeling them on husband. she's made websites and Facebook pages for both jewelery and makeup.He has completely stopped talking about her on twitter as well. she leave the daughter at home with a baby sitter while go on segway tours, fashion tours, makeup shows or planking in different states. All her friends have hired stylists and photographers.Her husband is still on drugs, looks drunk , acts immaturely and looks lost half of the time but pretends to be a great person with a great marriage in public. Just last week he had love bites all over his neck and forehead.And since the last 5 months he stopped wearing his wedding ring the last 5 months,though he had removed his wedding ring many times before earlier but and also unfollowed his wife and her makeup company on twitter. he hasn't removed the tattoo which he has, of his wifes name but of late he doesn't even talk about her on twitter, earlier he did talk a lot about her for public image.And he's stopped bringing her to public events as well. She always used to come but since 2012, he does not bring her. Instead he came with his dad this year.So opinion on this marriage?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 April 2013):
 Opinions of this marriage are that it’s working for them and those are the only two that it matters for.
I wonder why something so personal as two people's marriage is a concern for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): Some things about their relationship are probably normal while others seem childish and immature. I find "normal" to be a vague and subjective term, in any case, more specifically there are behaviors going on that are unhealthy and could pose problems for their baby and themselves. I dont see anything wrong with the mom being entrepreneurial and traveling and working to promote herself/her business, meanwhile leaving her child with a babysitter. Me and everybody I grew up with had busy parents and spent a lot of time in the care of a nanny/babysitter and turned out just fine, happy and successful. Furthermore, the mom is setting a good example to her child about the importance of independence as a woman. I also don't see anything wrong with how the mom spends her free time, she seems like a very social person and I think it's great that she makes time for doing what she wants. Alot of mom's sacrifice their essence, their youthful spirit, their dreams and happiness in order to keep up a household and that I do not find normal. That she is still able to pursue her dreams, goals and interests even with a family is fantastic. I also don't find it abnormal that she is open minded about her husbands infidelity. It is pretty clear they have some sort of understanding about the rules of their marriage and it is not affecting them. I know women who put up with infidelity because they simply dont believe in divorce. Its crazy. But it happens. Maybe he is a high profile person and she is willing to put up with it in order to benefit from the perks of being married to him, even if it's just an ego thing. Whatever the reason, it certainly doesn't seem to be affecting her. The one who seems very affected, however, is the husband. It is possible that the wife's nonchalance about him has him depressed. But I don't know. All I know is that some of the behaviors of the husband seem childish. Unfollowing his wife on twitter. Really? Doing drugs and being drunk all day? While alot of families suffer with a drug addict, alcoholic, cheating parent, I can say with certainty it is not normal only because it is not healthy. He may expose his family to awful things. But I also know families who have one person doing all these harmful things and it doesn't affect the relationship at all. There are families who don't drink, never touched a drug, or cheated yet are complete tyrants and abuse their kids. I guess it's just one of those things where if they keep their daughter safe, and happy and educated, and all the things a parent strives for their child, then in spite of certain character flaws, they must be doing something right.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 April 2013):
 OP, we are curious , may we please know what is the REAL question ?
Every now and then,regularly this post pops up, with slight variations, but it's always a discombobulated rambling story about a marriage of semi celebs and drugs and fashion photographers and make up business and tattooes etc. etc.
So : what do you really want to know ? And I am not being mean, I am tryng honestly to be helpful, because if we have to take your question literally, the answer could only be : yeah it does not sound like a good marriage. There are good marriages and bad marriages, and this is surely not shocking news to you . People are strange and at times they do weird stuff, what do you care if it does not affect you personally ?
So, is there something in this scenario that troubles you affects you worries you personally ? Admitting that this story is true, all or in part , (because frankly it sounds like an episode of some bad MTV reality show ) how do you fit in all this ? Are you related to either spouse, are you concerned about the little girl ?... Did they do something bad to you ? ....What IS the problem, - if there's one ?
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