A
female
age
36-40,
*annahAls
writes:My boyfriend and I fight all the time where we bring out the worst in each other.Is this healthy? I love him and we have really good times but sometimes some of the things he says to me are really hard to forget i don't want to go through this stress with anyone else what should i do?Should we seek counselling. I question leaving to be permanently alone i need help because i dont like the way this makes me feel Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 April 2013):
 I don't believe in breaks... if you need a "break" that to me is the beginning of the end.
A
female
reader, HannahAls +, writes (12 April 2013):
HannahAls is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys....I asked for a break but he didn't really take it well, he don't believe in breaks but he told me once i make him feel cuffed but i think i some how feel the same. I love him an i would like very much for this to work out but i feel at times that i have to try hard. but i do think that this break may be the end of my relationship I am willing to take that risk...... thanks for the answers again guys :)
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2013): Hey
I think sometimes the most passionate relationship bring about alot of strong emotions.
My ex who I was with for 10yrs was my best friend. I think we argued twice in that whole time. Nothing major.
My current guy I argue with him every day. In fact, he shows me a side of me I didn't even know I had. Temper!
So, it can all do to personality and chemistry. You should speak to him, maybe a break with no contact for a little while...even if just a week, could help you put things into perspective. Time apart can make you re-evaluate if you really want to be with this person or if you feel better off without them.
Good luck - btw I am trini too! :D
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 April 2013):
Wow… you are WORRIED about her GETTING MAD that you looked at her email when she’s CHEATING ON YOU?
No fighting all the time and bringing out the worst in each other is not healthy or a good relationship.
You say you love him but do you love HIM or do you love the person you WANT him to be? Do you love HIM or do you love having a boyfriend and being part of a couple?
Are you having REALLY good times or are you fighting all the time like you said in your first sentence… maybe you fight a lot (enough that it feels like all the time) and have few good times but they are good and you want to make the relationship work so you blow them up to be more than they are in your mind?
You ask about counseling… well how long have you been together… because I would not wasted time on counseling if you have not been together a couple of years already.
He’s stressing you out with his mean words.
YOU feel bad…
IF you leave I can promise that you will not be permanently alone….. if you stay your feelings of discomfort will get worse over time.
...............................
|
