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writes:Hi i really hope you can help me i recently went through a miscarriage we had decided to try for a baby i fell straight away we were so happy about it we talked about spending our lives together things changed afterwards he started saying i wasn't a housewife and was awful towards me then he told me to go otherwise i would end up pregnant again which i thought was what he wanted i went and haven't spoken to him since i am still so in love. With him i don't know what to do any advice please thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (12 April 2013):
I see a period managed to sneak it's way in there at the end.
What to do? Is he your boyfriend or your husband? If he's your boyfriend you leave him and never look back. This is the type of guy who will make a miserable husband and make you unhappy as well.
If he treats you like crap when you need him the most what good is he?
It's time to cut your losses and start over with someone else. He appears to have already moved on.
Also, feelings can be a confusing thing. What feels like love to you is most likely a combination of feelings ranging from love, rejection, wanting acceptance, sense of loss, etc.
The two of you just weren't made for each other, and that's nothing to be afraid of in a relationship. Think of a break up as coming one step further to reaching your perfect guy.
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reader, Lady in Love  +, writes (12 April 2013):
 it might be simple fear of the future with the little baby, maybe when he was so close to the fact of having another responsibility to handle he simply proffered to run away, and since he can't he asked you to do, even married men do it.
i think you need to give him some time to think clearly, yet stay in touch, don't let him forget about you, return to the friendship zone if you can, yo do need a friend after all to help you pass losing the baby, yet don't let all your talks be about the baby, give him space, allow him to fall in love with you yet again, the new improved you
best luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013):
I'm so sorry for your loss. As a parent, women who had went through miscarriage I feel your pain. First thing is.. Do you have family who can emotional support you during this time, you need to mourn the baby first, I know your hurting from the broken relationship, but please put support in for you so you can grieve..
Regarding the relationship I can only guess why he has turned cold .. So here my humble opinion sweetie .. Relationships are very complex, they take hard work and a firm foundation .. I think that your guy loved the fantasy of you falling pregnant and the ideal of being a daddy..
However the reality when you did, somehow did not match the fantasy that was in his head. Reality meant sleepless nights, being governed by a little person who needs have to be met on demand . And the responsibility never ends. For your guy it was too much mAybe to soon..
However, you need to get angry .. How dare he throw you away like some piece of garbage.. I'd he didn't want to continue the relationship then fine after a grieving process of couple of month he could have said , but he should have at least emotional supported you ..
I for one have married a man .. You my sweetie would have ended up with another baby.. As time passes your feelings will wain and you may look back and though be sad for the baby, you lost, you may also be grateful for light it has shown you that this man ( boy) is not for you.
Take care and remember love will come when you least expect it . Be kind to yourself and take solace and support from friends and family and medical professionals who do care ..
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