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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am in this relationship where we've been talking for at least a year and only actually "title status" for a few months. I held back my feelings because I was afraid of finding out whether he was a bad guy or not because he's been in my life for 10 years. He waited for me and was always there. My dilemma is.. now that we're together, he's on my mind 24/7. I want to be talking with him ALL the time and I get really irritated if he can't talk, but we already talked for the 12 hours of the day. I hide my irritation, or atleast I think I do a good job of it. After being single for so long, I got used to being independent and somewhat a loner. I feel differently now and while it's a really nice feeling, I know it's sort of childish and I want to have both my love life and my single life where I don't lose myself (doing things I want to do.) I just don't know how to convince myself to back off a bit. I acknowledge that I've become somewhat 'obsessed' with him, so there will be periods of times where I just fall off the face of the earth for 8~ hours because I don't know what other way to handle it, but I am there reading his texts. I just want my mind to calm down and not scare him off with me wanting to be with him 24/7. Has anyone ever felt this way? I still do things I want to do. But I find myself contemplating ditching friends for him. While I don't actually ditch them, I get that yearning to do so but I want everything to be equal, or atleast somewhat balanced. I've been in a relationship where I lost all of my friends over my boyfriend and I don't want to do that again. My life doesn't revolve around my relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): Awww...you're in love.
You logically know what you need to do so it doesn't go south. Keep busy, relax and keep doing your thing and enjoy the time you spend together. Everyone needs space so as not to smother the relationship.
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