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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Am I doing the right thing by not letting this awful man see our child?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. When I was 16 I was sleeping with this guy. Lost my virginity to him. He was in a relationship. Bad idea I know. My dad wasn't a good role model for me and I really really enjoyed the attention I got from this guy. He ... (264 words)

I have feelings for a girl who is asexual

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I've become interested - romantically - in a girl I know is asexual. For a few days it was brilliant, but now I'm starting to feel that I don't understand relationships beyond it being a close trusting friendship with sex. Any advice? I do see real potential for som... (81 words)

What would make me as hot as my girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4428 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have this girlfriend and she's super hot. She says she loves me, but I have caught her flirting with other guys before and she expresses her admiration for physically hot guys occasionally. Me, I'm definitely not as good looking as her. I'm not particularly handsome and I ... (428 words)

My ex doesn't put any effort into our friendship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - We broke up because of distance. I was very deep into it so I tried 3 times to disappear and just cut her out of my life. Each time, she begged me not to, pleaded and said that it was unfair. She wanted me there, as a friend (and maybe someday as maybe more). So I gave in, ... (153 words)

Why did my boyfriend refer to me as 'this other girl'? Does he not see any future with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for three years now and we recently broke up, It was my fault but I guess we are not ready to let go so we started texting each other and talking on the phone all the time. We are still taking it slow as no-one brought up the ... (279 words)

How do I keep from losing him? He's starting to drink and is becoming abusive

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - So my boyfriend and I literally had sparks flying when we started off, I have two kids from another guy who is not in the picture at all. He wanted them to start calling him daddy and so they do, they love him so much and so do I. The past two months things have gone ... (275 words)

We're 9 years apart in age. Is that too much?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, Hi recently met a guy a chatting app. Because the app tells you how near the person you're chatting to are, I know that the guy doesn't live too far away from me. The guy is 27 and I'm currently 18 going on 19 in March. I wasn't originally meant to talk to him but he was b... (236 words)

Guys, do you think a girl comes off as 'slutty' or 'easy' when using sexual innuedos while flirting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am just getting over a bad relationship I had a few months ago, and getting back to feeling myself again. I am definitely a relationship type of girl, I don't really like flings (just how I am) and I am definitely not looking for anything just sexual with a guy. However, I am ... (218 words)

Husband made weird comment about 2 co-workers who have cheated. They are going on a business trip together. Should I worry?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I need some advice on why my husband with say some things he said before leaving for a busines trip. He has a job that requires him to travel from time to time. He woke up this morning and was reading some work emails and he said he hated the idea of going on this trip because ... (183 words)

How do I respectfully approach my dad to tell him I bought a house with my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all. I'm 32, single and just bought a house with my boyfriend. I've been living with my parent, never left home. I just want to know how to approach my dad cause according to him I can't leave home until I'm married that's when I have to live home. I just want to know how to ... (64 words)

Am I being unreasonable to my ex boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, basically a few weeks ago my ex boyfriend from 4 years ago asked me if he could come stay with me for a few days during his time off work. Knowing exactly what he's like with planning stuff and then never getting round to doing it, I agreed that we could meet up... (410 words)

My b/f left his wife to be with me, I'm pregnant and worried that he's not in for the long haul!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hey all im just a little worried here. my boyfriend who is 48 and i got together about a year ago. we were working together and i just fell head over heels in love with him i met him in august and we moved in together after his wife threw him out when she found out about me in ... (315 words)

I think she's cheating, I can't prove it. I don't want to lose her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi my name is abhishek i am in a relationship with a girl from about nearly 7years.i used to trust her but before 10 months she leaved me i tried very hard to stop her but she was so heartless at that time and leaved me without any reason and then after 6 months from that she ... (332 words)

I'm married and have only slept with 2 women. Its bothering me. Is it midlife crisis?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - OK, heres my story. I know I dwell on things sometimes and often wonder why, but I am hoping for some good advice on this. Up until the age of 17 I was very insecure/backward. I never had a date until then. About the time I came out of my shell, I met my ex-wife. We dated 4 ... (327 words)

I'm nervous about being fitted with an IUD. Does anyone have any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm booked in to have an IUD fitted next week. I've done my research (more than enough of it!), spoken to the nurses at the family planning clinic, had my swabs taken - technically I'm good to go, and fingers crossed my period will show up in time to make the procedure easier. ... (144 words)

Am I right to be upset that he disregards my feelings?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Am I right to be upset? My serious bf of 4 years and me have friends in common. I've been busy so I have not hung out with them. My bf kept hanging out with them, and it got to a point where they just do stuff all together and do not even invite me and kept excluding me. ... (337 words)

Out of curiousity, can this happen?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4237 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello. I have a question about something I want to try to do. Is it possible for me to put my penis inside my girlfriend's vagina, if it is still flaccid? My girlfriend and I have both agreed it is something worth trying. However, we both want to know if it is possible, so ... (102 words)

How do I get my family to stop expecting me to join them on activities I don't enjoy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My entire family (mother, father, brother, sister-in-law and sister-in-law's family) loves to go fishing. The problem is that I hate fishing. I find fishing to be boring. You are just sitting there with a fishing pole hoping that a fish bites the hook. My family do no... (168 words)

How can I stop loving my brother in law and get back to normal?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

3 November 2012 (?) age 41-50 - I have a crush on my husbands brother. He's been single for a few years and has always flirted with me. I never encouraged him but I was always friendly to him, I just enjoyed being the object of his desire. Now it's getting worse, I'm getting obsessed. I feel like I'm cheating ... (124 words)

All I wanted was to be loved the way he loved her. Will he forgive me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I don’t know what to do. I’m at a point in my life when I am repenting for the choices I made in my impulsiveness and lack of thinking. I was secretly in love with my ex-colleague (he’s much younger than me). I had my heart broken in my early 20’s by a failed love affair. ... (1054 words)

Can we have sex and not loose our friendship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I don't know what to do, I am a normal 25 years old girl a stable job, family and friends, good choices and bad choices. Year ago I became very close with a friend (boy) we became like soul mates, best friends really although we knew each other for years we hit... (231 words)

Feeling Shallow :(

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age - I've been starting to see this man, he is the same heighth as I but alot smaller. Will this make me feel fatter?? He seems to be a sweetheart of a guy but I'm worried about not feeling comfortable with the body connection? Feeling Shallow :(... (51 words)

He's coming on too strong -- should I just walk away?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age - I met a man on an online dating site just under two weeks ago, he is 56, I am 50, he is stationed in Afghanistan and his tour will be over on Dec 15th. He was married for 18 years and divorced for 7, I was married for 15 years and divorced for 3. My problem is he already ... (143 words)

Out of all my past gf's she's the one who loved me the least yet I find her the hardest to get over.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Has anyone seen that movie '500 days of summer'? Well I think it best sums up my "relationship" with this girl. Its been over a year now since I've known her and I've been pursuing. But after I saw this movie for a 2nd time I just learned a lot. I think the worst combinatio... (767 words)

Beneficial friendships

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I prefer having sexual friendships with long time female friends over having a relationship with a woman say from a dating site or met through friends. I had a long time friend who's married to a drunk beg me for sex. I have to say it was some of the best sex I ever had ... (256 words)

Does my wife want me back?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age - I was married to my wife for over 20 years. She walked out on me 4 years ago.We haven't divorced and we have 2 college daughters. After she walked out we didn't talk for over 2 years.I started forcing divorce on her, she's been a liar and a cheater so I was done, but my ... (389 words)

I had sex with my B/f in my parents' room and they got to know about it and are mad at me!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone, I need some help. Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for the past 4 months, we're both 17 and consenting so there really isnt a problem. But my parents found a condom wrapper on the floor of their room (the only double bed in the house) and now they're really ... (87 words)

Should I tell him if that I'm falling for him or should I wait until I'm actually in love with him or until he says something first?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing someone for a couple of months now and its been quite an intense connection and relationship. Im starting to fall in love with him but im scared of telling him in case its too soon or I case he doesn't feel the same way. We have moments where we are led toget... (158 words)

I don't understand his reason for breaking up with me... Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been in a relationship about 2 years and we love each other and want get marry soon but some days ago he decides to break up. I dont understand his reason, he told me he can't make me happy because he has a big problem with his economic situation. His father was very ... (182 words)

He said it's over but I really want him back!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - okay im sorry this isn't an interesting one guys but if i dont speak to someone i'm going to explode and i bet all my friends and family are sick of me. i met this guy 8 months ago off the internet and he was perfect we had been speaking on the internet for like 4-5 months ... (685 words)

I'm married, he's married. I guess I'm stupid and need help in trying to end things

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age - I am a married woman having an affair with a married man that I have reconnected with from college. I am in love with him and he says he is in love with me, but seems to not want to commit to a timeframe for leaving his wife. His elderly father has passed away that he was ... (169 words)

My much older ex says that our past is left best at memories and not to try again. I disagree!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4432 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 22. Broken up with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. Our relationship was 4 and a half years long. Anyway, long story short, some communication between us recently led to him sending an email that basically states problems with our age difference (17 years) relat... (208 words)

How do YOU handle an OCD boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - When I met my boyfriend, he looked just fine to me, until some weeks later that I went to his house and found a Fluoxetine box in his nightstand, which is usually for depressive disorders, but can also be used for anxiety ones, like the one he told me had: Obessisve-Compulsive ... (302 words)

What do I do about my best mate/wingman?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - The question is what should i do about my best mate/Wingman? Info: We generally always go out together to party. I am good at walking up to girls and starting to talk, where as he is good at talking to them for a long time, and generally hooking up with them. I tend to get... (301 words)

My husband would prefer I not take medicine for my anxiety. I stop and we suffer in our marriage!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Firstly, I understand nobody's perfect. Within each and every one of us lies a chemical imbalance of some sort. Mine is Generalized Anxiety Disorder. This is caused by my Attention deficit Disorder. ( ADHD) I recently learned this from my Psychiatrist. THANKFULLY, I'm ... (108 words)

What do the actions of my ex mean?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F) age 30-35 - I was with a guy for a year and half during uni, we were quite serious, but both had tempers, i went though quite a traumatic experience family wise, and he wasnt very supportive. During this we grew apart, due to his lack of support i became distant it was hard for to be close ... (437 words)

I broke things off because he is confused about his ex. He still wants to be friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F) age 30-35 - I've been dating a guy for a month now, I already knew he had recently broke up, but he assured me he didn't want to get back with her. He introduced me to his friends, took photos off my Facebook showed everyone(he didn't tell me till after) so everyone in his life knows of... (582 words)

My boyfriend went to prison for 2.5 year today and I can't cope!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm sad. My boyfriend went to jail/prison today, I love him more than anything else in this world. We're so perfect together from the day we met we've been so crazy about each other. We've been spending everyday together, Laughing, smiling, joking and falling more in love. I'm ... (127 words)

What do I do about a B/f who is extremely physically abusive?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4428 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend four years now and all we do is fight. He get bad temper and beat me up. We have a child together and hit me in front of her. He has pushed me down the stairs slapped and punched me and kicked me on the side while i am on the ground. He spit on my ... (100 words)

I feel like I need to put on a happy front all the time and I can't! How do I change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4425 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't like myself most of the time. I have been feeling a lot better recently, but then I'm reminded of when I was a child and I deal with anger and other negative emotions and it's overwhelming. I cut off all ties with my mom and I don't intend to bring her back into my ... (164 words)

I love my husband but he shows me no affection

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - i have been married for 4 yrs now i love my husband but he doesnt touch or hug me or kiss me or sleep with me we have slept in seperate beds for over 1 yr i love him he is a wonderful guy i feel he gives me everything but what i really need or want is feeling loved ... (173 words)

Boyfriend doesn't understand that I don't want his dog around when we are being intimate

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend will not kennel his dog! He acts like I'm the bad one and that I'm crazy, because I don't want the dog in the room when we are doing ANYTHING romantic (trying to kiss and make out in front of a codependent labrador, or any pet, is just moodkill to me). Needless ... (270 words)

I met him online. His behavior alarms me. Should I just let things go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age - I met a man on an online dating site a little less than 2 weeks ago, he is 57, I'm 50. He's a soldier in Afghanistan, his tour is over December 15th. He was married for 18 years, divorced for 7, I was married for 15 years and divorced for 3. He claims I am the answer to his ... (104 words)

I hate being a genius!

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

3 November 2012 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm a gifted kid, but not what most gifted kids are. I'm different from other gifted kids like as an example. you would have to meet 1000 people to meet someone similar to me. Chances are they also wont be the same age as me too. Anyhow I hate being a genius sometimes. Othe... (208 words)

Why can't I get a girl anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4414 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Before I was depressed people said I was cute and fun to be around. People would tell me I could get any girl I wanted. When I hit 15 I got acne and got depressed for NO reason. I think hormones screwed me up or something. Now I'm 18 and still no improvement. People say I ... (100 words)

My 19-year-old daughter who has learning difficulties and autism, is involved with a married man. How do I make her see sense?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4432 days ago

3 November 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm concerned about my 19-year-old daughter who has learning difficulties as well as autism. She's in college studying hairdressing. She's got a new boyfriend, who's 25, and I've only recently found out he's been married for 2 weeks - and the man also has a young baby too. This ... (356 words)