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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Dumped by Self-Conscious Boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I was dating a wonderful, respectable man for about a month. I'm 23 and he's 30. We met on a dating site; he made contact first and was very interested in me. We exchanged lengthy messages on the site for a few weeks before meeting. Once we finally met, we clicked ... (384 words)

What to expect from a guy after casual sex/one night stand?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so on friday night, there was the birthday of my brother at the beach near his house. some of his friends were invited, we were around 10. The party lasted till early saturday morning. I know nearly all of his friends very well. Around 2 in the morning one of his friend came ... (800 words)

Can I ask to spend a day with him WITHOUT his family?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Question about boyfriends family and how to split the time. My boyfriend is in the military, and got a leave to come home this weekend. I had not seen him in 3 months. He arrived Friday evening and left again Sunday evening, so not much time. I think it is obvious that I p... (492 words)

Do I wait around or move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4397 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf and i were together for 6 months living in different cities, mostly me traveling to see him and spend days at a time with him. Within the 6 months he bought a house and slowly wanted to spend more time with his friends then me, when im the one who spent weeks running ... (454 words)

What would you consider early warning signs of a controlling man?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, What would you consider early warning signs if a controlling man? My boyfriend of 10 months as shown a few signs but I'm not sure if I'm over thinking. He doesn't like me wearing make up, accused me of wearing clear tights so other people would see my legs, puts me do... (150 words)

Unrequited teenage love. What's my next move?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I am in unrequited love with someone. I know he does not love me because he has told me. If you have ever been in unrequited love, then you know how it feels. How it is not just as simple as getting over them. I know not seeing him is a way to move on, but I can't do that. I ... (278 words)

Being ill, stress, depression, my lack of attendance and everything else is making me feel like I'm going to fail my degree. How can I get back on track?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have fallen behind in university so much this year and i'm annoyed because i was dealing with depression, severe stress, bad illness, i just couldn't focus and now i have screwed myself over. I'm at the point where now everything is back on track 5 weeks in, I am at a lo... (347 words)

Why do woman hate other women if they don't know each other?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I want to understand why do woman hate each even if they don't know each other. I've seen this situation and it has been happening for the past few years especial black african woman. I've even experience it my self. You get into a taxi and she's siting next to the door where ... (147 words)

My mother is destroying my relationship

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - How do I stop my mother ruining my relationship? I am currently living at home with my mother and my boyfriend. The situation is probably not the best considering both me and my partner are in our early 30's but due to lack of money neither of us can afford a place together j... (275 words)

Should I be mad because my bf and his ex are good friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4384 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone, I´ve got this problem almost year and a half, since I´ve been dating my bf. The problem is, he´s stayed a very good friends with his ex. They chat on internet very often, she called him when her boyfriend after mine broke up with her and she wanted him to comfo... (219 words)

How is it even possible? My husband lost his erection just like that and never got it back!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age - I really feel very curious,if Im alone with my problem,or there are others out there suffering like me. So long story short, Im very attractive , and I live in a marriage, but I have no sex, or affection at all at the last 6 years. Its unbelievable to anyone who hears my story... (203 words)

Confusion over 'casual sex' guy versus strong feelings for my best friend.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, im not sure where my head is at... ive been having 'casual sex' with a friend, he really likes me and is very clear about it, hes lovely, and sweet but i don't want a boyfriend atm which he has a hard time adjusting to as i dont let him act like a boyfriend out in... (205 words)

I'm falling for him so fast and hard I'm afraid

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4375 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - has anyone ever been so consumed and overwhelmed by their feelings for someone to the point where they dont know what to do anymore? I've been seeing a guy for a few months now and im falling for him so quickly and so deeply its actually scaring me. He's the first thought on my ... (186 words)

My baby daddy calls me up for sex and money.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4396 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex-husband/ baby daddy has been taking advantage of me. We started back talking hanging out, and sexing. he got hired at one of the big three. I gave him the hiring number, paid for his birth certificate and moneys for his lights and gas back and forth. he did pay me back. I ... (224 words)

Is counselling really the only answer for the abuse she used to get from her father?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4384 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - A friend of mine has told me she was physically hurt by her father since childhood - it began when she was 13, but stopped when she moved out at 19, and she's now 20 - a year ago she moved out. She told me he'd never molested her or done anything sexually but had a hairtrigger ... (176 words)

Serious self-confidence issues because of my small boobs

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F) age 30-35 - I'm having major self confidence issues, help please! I'm in my 20s and I have a curvy body, except my boobs are small. I have wide hips, a small waist, a curvy butt, and thighs a bit too thick but I'm working on losing weight. People say I have a pretty face, but still I feel ... (728 words)

My boyfriend can't climax. What can we do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My boyfriend is 47 years old. We both love being intimate together and we are very creative. Only problem is that I can't get him to cum. Please, how can i help him?... (33 words)

His friends come before me

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4394 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age - I have been in a relationship for 5 years. I have had difficulties with a couple whom my boyfriend knew before me: I had a sexual remark made to me by the couples husband. I made this know to the wife of this man. She severed communications with me. She herself told me once, ... (214 words)

What does "seeing each other" mean?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - What does seeing each other mean, does it only reference to dating? This girl and I have been texting for nearly 2 months and i see her every saturday evening when she'll happen to be on a night out with her friends just like i will. But we always text to find out where each ... (302 words)

Body image ruined due to porn

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4387 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My partner looks at naked pics of those typical perfect bodied women. If they're not naked they're usually close to it. Although I have a good body, I have small breasts which are now a little droopier due to having given birth. Breast feeding. I'm not prepared to have ... (158 words)

Already spent 1000 dollars to help the man I love to come to visit me and now he's asking me to take a big loan for him

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello to all, When I went to china recently for a training course, I met a guy. I thought that our relationship would be only brief but he told me that he wants me to know that it was not only about getting some fun for him but he has feelings for me. So, we remained in conta... (342 words)

Why wouldn't he acknowledge me in front of my husband?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I want to know why a married man who I occasionally bump into and who talks to me would panick and walk away as I was about to say hi to him in front of my husband. We have a neighbourly relationship. When he saw me walking toward him, he starred at me, then at my husband,... (161 words)

Dating 11 months and he hasn't said "I love you" yet

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi All, I have been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now in a semi long distance relationship, we generally meet up every other week, the longest apart as been a month so in total Ive probably seen him for 4 months in total but we contact one another daily through texts an... (217 words)

Friendship going down the wrong path

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have an ex-boyfriend and we are trying to be friends. FYI he broke up with me for many reasons and one of those reasons named was being selfish/self absorbed. The problem is I am the one that seems to do stupid stuff. For example, I sent him a birthday card. The first ... (363 words)

Where do I start with counselling?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Where to start with counselling? I've been thinking for a long time about seeing a counsellor. I have posted on here before about my virginity at the age 31. Thks is to due to various things like body image issues and low self esteem/confidence. I asked a girl out and we went ... (172 words)

I dream of having threesomes with both my exes, help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have three children by two guys now that they are grown my sex drive has gone off the charts. I want to have a threesome with their dads but one of the dad's is not endow like the other one. I really don't know where this feeling is coming from but it is strong. I dream about ... (92 words)

I want to go into this lesbian bar but am unsure how to dress?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a 21 single lesbian that moved to this area in July and from long as I can remember I have felt more attracted around mature lesbians. I have only dated women since I was 18. My questions. I found a lesbian bar that I have only seen mature lesbians enter and have e... (146 words)

I slept with one of my good friends and now I'm confused.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive been friends with this boy at uni for a long time now and ive never really thought of him as anything more than a really good friend. I spend a lot of time with him and we get along like a house on fire but ive always seen him more as an older brother. Last week we both got ... (133 words)

He hurt me once, I don't want to be a pushover again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, I was going out with a guy for a year, i broke it off with him after a painful 3 month decline, i tried to talk, talking didnt convince me for the better, and eventually i walked away one day and told him in an email exactly why. i felt there was lack of communication... (695 words)

Could it be that I'm ashamed to be Indian?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - There's this guy i'm friends with and he makes me feel ashamed to be indian, the comments he makes really grate on my nerves. I don't know what to do about it! It's not him being racist or doing anything malicious. It's just he'll keep referring to indians as 'my' people and ... (340 words)

I've been too easy. Is it time to use the "hard to get" method?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4360 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone. On Wednesday i got with a guy at a halloween party and (drunkenly) let him finger me. I don't usually act like this but i liked the guy and to be honest was a bit drunk. The next day he invited me to a party last night where we got with each other again, and di... (149 words)

Our friends keep asking us if we would like to "house swap" with them! They are relentless!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4393 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - This may seem trivial but I'm really angry about it... Basically my partner and I have bought a lovely 3 bed house. We've worked hard to be able to afford it- sacrificing things, working all hours, not having a decent holiday for the past 4 years but it has been worth it... (559 words)

Am I reading too much into his actions or is he intenitonally leading his gay pal (me) on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello to anyone reading this, this site is not foreign to me. And I may have posted a question that related to this before, but since then many others have surged from it. To make matters worse the situation continues to become more complicated for me. Any advice will be ... (637 words)

Marrige problems..sex and dating sites..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help i do not knw what to do..i caught my husband on dating sites talking to other women i do not knw for how long..and he has lied about it....i do not knw if he has met them .i dont know what to do could this have happend cuz we stopped communicating..or having sex ... (168 words)

After only 4 months, he has doubts and we are distanced, any thoughts?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I just feel like I need some opinions before I finally make a decision about this! I'll try not to make it too much of a novel... I've been dating this guy for over 4 months. The past month and a half things have just changed. He only spends about 2 hours a week with me, if... (465 words)

Girls with boyfriends: would you ignore another guy who had a crush on you and not say you had a boyfriend?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4396 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I would like to know if any girls out there who are in a relationship ignored another guy that they know had a crush on them and not tell them that they were seeing someone? Why would you not just tell the guy who has the crush that you are seeing someone? ... (54 words)

I wish to do Musical Theatre but am afraid that I will not get accepted!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear cupid, before I go into my question I wish to explain my situation as best as I can. I go to a creative arts school for creative writing. I have been writing for six to seven years, right. Writing is ONE of the passions of mine that I have been doing the longest, however, ... (1542 words)

I have never had a girlfriend before, do I have a chance with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I am 20 years old, never kissed anyone and never had a girlfriend. I really like this girl a lot. And she is always really sweet to me. There are 2 problems: 1. She is constantly busy, so theres no time to get together, and 2. I always find some way to be really awkward around ... (148 words)

I'd like my gay friends as bridesmaids but my boyfriend is against gays

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for a while now, almost two years. We've had our fights, but never anything bad, we always make up, we know we love each other very much and would never intentionally try to hurt each other. He wants to get married after college, and I know he's the ... (364 words)

I feel so ugly I cry.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently i have been feeling ugly. Im 22 years old and married. First i would like to start off by saying that im over weight, i have thick facial hair which i shave, black arm pits and elbows, knees and between my thighs, im very insecure of my self. one day i forgot to shave ... (130 words)

She used to be promiscuous so I want access to her online activities!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4396 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Is it okay for me to ask my fiancee to look at her emails, texts, and facebook one time? I will gladly let her look at mine. I am engaged to woman w/ a very promiscuous past and want to confirm that she will be faithful by asking to read her facebook/text messages/emails ... (534 words)

Is my boyfriend being lazy or am I just being insensitive?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is 22 years old and still lives at home. He's the founder of a clothing company in which is continuing to grow although it has only been established for a few years. He makes enough money to continuously buy new clothes, sneakers, and pay for expensive dinners at ... (209 words)

Alone we are fine, with her girlfriends, not so fine .....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 22-25 - Hello I'm our average not so good-looking guy. Whenever I hang out with my girlfriend and her friends are around she ignores me. We have been going out for about a year and two months. I am crazy about her and I just don't know what to do. What do I do? How do I go about it?... (58 words)

My girlfriend only responds to prosaic, never romantic, texts!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - whenever i write a message to my girlfriend which has love words like ,i dreamed with u ,i miss ur kiss, she does not reply but if i send other messages ,she replies ,does she hate such messages?... (38 words)

I want to tell her I need more sex without seeming needy!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4395 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend doesn't seem to be into sex anymore and says we have been dating long enough that we don't need to do it very often anymore. How can I get her to be into it and want to do without having to ask and sound super needy about it?... (50 words)

Why did this girl give me the cold shoulder on the day after our perfect date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - A girl added me on Facebook about 1 and a half week ago. I live about 1 hour away from the capital (with plans to move there soon) so we kept touch via Facebook for that 1 and a half week. We really clicked, on Facebook at least, so naturally, I thought that we would ... (644 words)

Am I justified in feeling this way?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4397 days ago

4 November 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I am engaged to woman w/ a very promiscuous past and want to confirm that she will be faithful by asking to read her facebook/text messages/emails for peace of mind. I will only do it once and ensure her that it will only be once. I also have a promiscuous past but for the ... (501 words)

Why do I remember our kiss so much? Why can't I forget him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Three years ago, I confided in someone. I told them I loved them, and while we were young, he had little to say on the matter. But, knowing how I felt about him, I watched him change over a single year. His friends pressured him into going out with someone, but I saw the way ... (558 words)

I'm 24 and have never experienced sexual attraction in my life. Is there any treatment for this or anything I can do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 24 and have never experienced sexual attraction in my life. I don't even get any enjoyment from hugging or kissing. I'm sure I'm asexual but I don't want to be. It feels like I'm missing out on a huge chunk of life. Quite a few people my age have got serious long term ... (197 words)

He is a teenage dad, does drugs, repeating 10th grade and I don't get any bad vibes at all!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello. I apologize in advance for this post being long. Please just bear with me, I really need some good answers. To start off, let me tell you a bit about myself. I am a fifteen year old girl and am in the tenth grade. In school i'm kind of shy but have friends that I t... (1311 words)

Did I break some sort of rule by texting this guy? I'm at a loss and I'm so sick of feeling like I did something wrong!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

4 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So, honestly I feel like this is a pretty common "problem" (not exactly a problem, but a serious self-esteem killer) between ALL women and I would like some advice. Long story short, I met a guy who was my totally type at a bar three weekends ago Friday night. (I usuall... (346 words)